As a toddler mom again after 11 years I feel like I have been blessed with learning things a little quicker this time around. Maybe it’s because I have had prior experience, or perhaps it is because I am a little older and a little wiser. We will just dwell on the wiser part ;). But regardless I feel like I have learned to do things better, had more patience, shown more love, enjoyed the moments more rather than stressed about the small things, and learned to live in the moment rather than let the moment pass me by. Today I am sharing with you the 10 things my 2-year old has taught me… so far
What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me… So Far
- Patience is Key. Everyday my sweet stubborn 2-year old tests my patience. She pushes me sometimes to the very edge of literally going crazy (kidding, but not really kidding), but yet somehow I find a way to pull it together. The more patience I have, the better our day is.
- Other than a nap, kids need downtime, just like we do.We can’t expect kids to go go go all day. They need time alone, so they can decompress. Let them watch the show or movie they ask for, or play that game on the iPad… Yes, I know this goes against everything we have heard about these things being bad for kids.
- Sharing is Caring. We always tell our children to share… Everyday the same words come out, “share… share your toys… sharing is caring…” how can I expect them to learn to share when I refuse to share… So yes, even moms need to share!
- On their Time not Yours. We want to stop changing diapers, so we try to potty train them too soon with the newest “miracle 2 day system” only to have to clean poop off your brand new couch. We want them out of their crib for a new sibling that will be born soon and by doing so they scream and cry for months because they simply were not ready to be out of the crib yet… We want them to eat right this second even though they are in the middle of playing… Sometimes we need to be in tune with our kids and do things on their timetable, not ours.
- Your clothes will not be clean. EVER! We start with a clean shirt and 5 minutes into the day it is dirty… You are your child’s snot rag, napkin, pull up bar, and more. Relish in the fact that these are signs of love, that’s what I finally had to do.
- They will be your best buddy, if you let them! Talie is my mini me! She loves to follow me wherever I go! As a bonus she helps me with all my daily chores. She pulls weeds, waters the garden, empties the dishwasher and even cleans toilets… Why does she do these jobs? Because she is my buddy and she wants to spend time with me, so take advantage of your time together, before you know it they will be grown and gone!
- Kisses turn the frown upside down. Talie falls down and starts to sob, but as soon as I kiss her boo boo she is happy again. It’s the simple things that make kids happy.
- Stop Comparing Yourself to Every other Mom! We all do it, and we need to stop! We feel guilty that some moms do things that we don’t and we feel maybe we need to step up our “mom” game, but what we have to remember is all kids are different and need different things. Only we know what our kids need.
- No Matter How Hard you Try… Your house will never be completely tidy again! My house starts out clean everyday, and 5 minutes later, well it’s not… It used to drive me crazy to see crumbs on the floor and toys out of place, but I have realized that these are signs of full bellies and happy kids and one day all these signs will be gone, and I will miss them.
- They grow up too fast, so make memories! Put the phone on vibrate so you don’t hear it ring. Put down the tablet (after you read this post of course) and pay attention to your kids. Go play outside with them, snuggle together and read. Go for walks, play tag… Do what makes them happy. Kids won’t remember how much money you had or what clothes they used to wear, but they will remember the memories you make. What kind of memories are you making?
One Final Thought
Motherhood is a sacred responsibility bestowed upon each woman who chooses to accept it. My two year old has taught me to love unconditionally and enjoy every moment because one day these moments will only be distant memories. Although there are times I want to pull my hair out because of her stubbornness, I embrace the fact that she is courageous, strong, independent and capable. Each day she challenges me to be a better mother and I love her for that!
What has your child taught you lately?
Photo Credit for feature photo: Michelle Thurgood Photography