How to Become a Better Listener in Your Marriage

Are we guilty of half-hearted listening in our relationships? I know I am! Becoming a Better Listener will improve relationships with others! 

How to Be a Better Listener in Your Marriage

I was sitting at my computer doing homework when my husband began talking to me. I was making the appropriate comments and half listening when he asked me a question. Guiltily, I looked at him and told him I hadn’t really been listening and asked him if he could repeat what he said. He just smiled and began again. At that moment, I decided that I needed to be a better listener! 

How often do we half listen to what our spouses are saying? We are busy with kids, cleaning and cooking while our spouse wants to talk, but do we take the time to stop what we are doing and really listen? Many communication issues in marriages come from spouses not listening to each other.

Here Are Four Ways to Become a Better Listener in Your Marriage.

How to be a Better Listener in Your Marriage

Get Rid of Distractions

Distractions are one of the most common reasons we become poor listeners. Phones, television, computers and even children prevent us from being able to provide the attention effective listening requires. Turn off the TV, put your phone on silent, give something to your children to do to entertain them so you can give your spouse your full attention. Look at your spouse when he/she is talking. One thing I realized I needed to do when my husband was talking to me when I was doing homework was to turn my chair towards him so I wasn’t tempted to keep reading while he was talking. Removing distractions helps us to become better listeners.

Don’t Interrupt

Let your spouse finish speaking before you respond. In fact, don’t be thinking about what you are going to say while they are talking. Really listen to what they have to say. Ask questions if you need clarification. Rephrase what they have said to make sure you understand what they have said. Not interrupting and really trying to understand what your spouse is saying will help them feel important to you. Not only that but they will understand how much you care about them as well as what they have to say.

Body Language


People don’t just listen with their ears. They listen with their bodies as well. Look at your spouse, turn towards them and lean in. Tell them with your body that you are listening and interested in what they are saying. Acknowledge your partner while they are talking. Nod your head, say yes and use other verbal cues while they are talking. If your body tells them you are bored and uninterested, they may stop talking and become reluctant to share their thoughts with you. Show them with your body language you are listening.


Make sure your spouse knows you know and understand what they are saying. You can say things like, “I can see why you might feel that way,” “I can understand how that made you upset,” or “That must have really been hard.” By validating your spouse’s feelings you are letting them know you are listening and understanding them.

With a little effort, you can become a better listener in your marriage. Just follow these four simple steps and see how much the communication between you and your spouse improves.

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There are easy steps we can take to become a better listener in our relationships. Here are 4 Easy was to become a better listener you can do today!


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    Great tips! All really important, but so easy to forget and not do when you’re busy and life is happening. Have to make an effort sometimes!

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