Kids, Mom Life, parenting

I’m a Yeller and I’m ready to Change!

According to my boys I’m a yeller, I tend to think I speak in a voice that they can actually hear me in over their shenaniganz. Last night though was a turning point for me, I decided that I might just be a yeller, even though I don’t want to be one!

It all started when Ty decided that we should have hot chocolate before bed. The kids of course went crazy as I was trying to get Tony ready for bed. They ran into the kitchen to make hot chocolate… Followed by the whip cream getting squirted into each other’s mouths, followed by Talie spilling her hot chocolate all over the table and me having to clean it up one handed. Then Colby brings out an Australian accent followed by talking about “Baby Jesus” from Talladega nights…  I lost it… I admit it… I yelled at them and sent them to bed…

 

Confession Time

I felt horrible for yelling, I felt sad for the night ending like that…  Were they doing anything wrong? Not really, they are just typical 13 and 11 year old boys having fun, right? And because of me the peace was gone in our home. My yelling was the one who made it go away… Me, the one who learned about all the different parenting techniques in school, but yet can’t implement any of them when they are most needed.

I confess I have always blamed them for me yelling or raising my voice (I mean if they would have listened to begin with 🙂 …), but really, it’s not them, it’s me… I am the one who needs to change. I am the one who needs to get better. I am the one that needs to have more control over my feelings. I am the one who needs to strive to have more peace in the home. I decided right then and there it was time for a change!

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What’s the Plan?

Last night I decided to not yell for one solid year! (except when appropriate: sporting events, playing outside having fun with the kids, if crisis is happening and it will save someone’s life… you know those moments.) Lao Tzu says, “A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” So I knew that the first step would be the hardest, which is why I am telling you all that I  am making the commitment to not yell for one year! There it is a step in the right direction! To being a more patient and loving mom. A step towards using those parenting techniques when I need them most!

A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Now you might be thinking, “Holy cow! What is her house like? Do they just yell all the time?” Of course we don’t. There is lots of love, lots of peace and lots of harmony, but there are those moments when we are plagued with loud voices that drive all this away. It’s at those times when I fall into Mom Funk, especially since our house has been plagued with sickness for the last 22 days and I have been sick with the flu or a double ear infection for two weeks now. It’s on those days that are too cold and windy to go outside and play so those dang little screens occupy the kids, until bedtime when they decide it is now time to get some energy out.

 

Who’s With Me?

I’ll be honest… This journey is going to be hard… I’m going to fail a few times, okay probably many many times, but I do so much better when I am surrounded by others doing things with me, so with that being said, Who wants to join me? Who wants to change? Who wants more peace in their home? Who wants to share this journey with me? You certainly don’t have to do a year, like me, but I challenge you to set a certain amount of time to make your home a No Yelling Zone and see just what happens. Will you join me on this journey?NO YELLING ZONE!.png
Together we can share stories, encourage one another, and just support one another in being better parents and bring more peace into our homes! Join the challenge today and comment on this post: “I’m in!” Let’s all offer each other encouragement and share stories along the way on our journeys to have more peaceful loving homes, so who’s with me?

With Love~

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101 Goals in 1001 Days

With the new year coming I feel like everyone is frantically searching for the perfect New Years Resolutions or goals to be set. I personally love setting goals because it allows me to grow and when I achieve them it gives me a great sense of accomplishment.

I have always been a goal setter. Daily I make to do lists to cross off what I get done. It doesn’t stop there though, my obsession grows to weekly lists, monthly lists, cleaning checklists, etc. Pretty much if I can track it there is probably a notebook or calendar laying around this house with some sort of list in it that documents some sort of progress on a goal that I have in mind.

Several years ago I ran across the idea of 101 goals in 1001 days. The idea of these goals is to set goals in a variety of categories to really help you grow. Some of these goals might be big goals that are difficult to accomplish, like saving enough money to take the family to Disneyland, but then some might be easy that you just haven’t made the time for, like meal planning each week to save money. With 1001 days (over 2 ½ years)  to accomplish these goals it allows you the opportunity to be really creative while planning out what you want to accomplish. It also allows you time to try, try and try again when you hit a stumbling block while accomplishing your goals.

Another perfect thing about 101 in 1001 is you can start it any any point throughout the year! So if you are finding this in June, don’t wait until January 1st; the best time to start setting goals is right now! I started my 1001 days on December 20, 2017 so my 1001 days will be up on September 16, 2020. (Crazy to think at that point I will have a almost 16 year old, an almost 14 year old, a 13 year old, a 5 year old, and a 3 year old!)  So when setting your goals you want to keep the timeline in perspective that you can go on a cruise with your spouse and leave your baby at home, because they won’t be a baby when the 1001 days is up! To calculate 1001 days from any date, click here. There are so many bloggers out there who have blogged about this great idea, so if you are finding it hard to set 101 goals do a google search or look on Pinterest for great ideas! Of course, feel free to steal any of mine as well! I have categorized my ideas in the following  categories, you can use these same ones or create your own! Family, Personal/ Self Improvement, Home Life, Spiritual, Health and Fitness, Financial, Create/ Sew, Travel, Organization, and Misc. goals.

 

Now that I talked your ear off about another way to set goals and achieve them here are my 101 Goals in 1001 Days!

(I will update my progress throughout my journey! Be sure to keep me posted on your journey as well!)

 

101 Goals in 1001 Days

Family Goals

  1. Teach Colby to drive (I can’t believe I am writing this!)
  2. Have a planned family activity once a week for 6 months
  3. Take a trip with my Mom on a girls weekend
  4. Teach Chase to tie a tie
  5. Go to the Farmer’s Market in Dallas
  6. Teach Talie to read
  7. Teach Talie to write her name
  8. Have preschool time with Talie 3 times a week for 6 months
  9. Have 10 minutes of intentional time with each child one on one for 1 month
  10. Create a family Motto/ theme for the year
  11. Teach Colby and Chase to iron
  12. Adopt a family for Christmas
  13. Mail Taya a just because box twice
  14. Send a note to Grandma K. every month for a year
  15. Go through everyone’s clothes get rid of what they never wear. Don’t replace it.

 

Personal/ Self Improvement Goals

  1. Learn to play the Piano
  2. Write a Book to help Blended Families be more successful (started 12/20/17)
  3. Learn to take Pictures and edit them
  4. Shave my legs once a week for 6 months (Hey! I have kids and no time)
  5. Don’t complain for one month
  6. Keep a journal for 5 months
  7. Have a wifi free weekend/ no games on phone either
  8. Make a list of birthdays send out birthday cards to everyone for an entire year (started 12/27/17)
  9. Write 5 posts for another blog or a magazine/ newspaper

 

Home Life Goals

  1. Built in cabinets in Playroom for toys
  2. Acquire 4 month food Supply (started 12/20/17)
  3. Make 72 hour kits for each member of the family
  4. Decorate for each holiday for one year
  5. Plant a garden each season for a year
  6. Plant and maintain 6 fruit trees
  7. Declutter, clean out, donate, throw away what we don’t need
  8. Meal Plan for 6 months (started 12/20/17)
  9. Acquire a 8 month supply of food (started 12/20/17)
  10. Try a new recipe Twice a month
  11. Make Homemade baby food for 1 month
  12. Make homemade bread that my family will eat
  13. Change photos to new ones around the house. Have some with the littles in it
  14. Redecorate bedroom, find the perfect mirror for above the bed
  15. Have family jobs and stick to them for 4 months (started 12/20/17)

 

Spiritual Goals

  1. Read all the General Conference talks for a year (started 12/20/17)
  2. Study the Book of Mormon for 30 minutes a day for 6 months with the Book of Mormon Study Guide
  3. Pray daily morning and night. (started 12/20/17)
  4. Have meaningful FHE lessons for 6 months
  5. Increase my spiritual knowledge/ keep a scripture journal
  6. Read the Book of Mormon as a Family
  7. Memorize the Proclamation to the World
  8. Memorize the Living Christ
  9. Memorize 10 scriptures or quotes
  10. Index 1000 names

 

Health and Fitness Goals

  1. Take 10k steps a day for 1 month
  2. Drink half my bodyweight in water for 1 month
  3. No soda for a month (no lemonade)
  4. Exercise for 30 minutes 5x a week for 4 months
  5. Do a Pinterest Ab challenge
  6. Cut out junk food except once a week for 4 months
  7. Get back to Prepregnancy weight (started 12/20/17, but let’s be honest this has been ongoing for awhile now)
  8. No eating out for one month (no take out delivery etc.) except on Date night for 1 month 
  9. Floss Daily for 1 month ( I know, I know… with 5 kids this will be a challenge, trust me!)
  10. Buy a piece of exercise equipment for in the house (Bike, treadmill) (accomplished 12/25/17)

 

Financial Goals

  1. Save $500 in Household Budget to spend in Hawaii
  2. Plan a budget and stick to it for 3 months

 

Create/ Sew Goals

  1. Redo Mom and Dad’s Wedding Album
  2. Scrapbook the kids’ lives
  3. Sew a blanket for mom
  4. Make a quilt for each one of my kids for Christmas
  5. Create a work environment for blogging
  6. Create Daily Marriage Tips
  7. A homemade Christmas to all Extended Family Members that we buy for
  8. Make church books for the littles
  9. Create a preschool lesson plan with printables
  10. Sew an Apron
  11. Sew matching PJ’s for all the boys for Christmas
  12. Sew matching PJ’s for all the girls for Christmas
  13. Learn to bind a quilt
  14. Create a family photo album
  15. Make/ fix Recipe Book (one with all the recipes and a smaller one with the ones we cook all the time)
  16. Print out recipes I always look up on the internet for a hard copy
  17. Coffee Table for the living room
  18. Matching end Table for the living room
  19. Learn to Calligraphy/ Hand Letter
  20. Teach Taya to sew
  21. Make all the birthday cards and thank you cards I send out this year (started 12/26/17)

 

Travel Goals

  1. Take the kids to Maui
  2. Go to Vail, CO in the summertime
  3. Visit both of Ty’s and my Family in 2018
  4. Go on a cruise with just Ty and I
  5. Take the kids to Disneyland
  6. Travel some place outside the USA
  7. Take a road trip with the kids. Stop along the way and see cool stuff

 

Organization Goals

  1. Gather and make emergency preparedness notebook
  2. Create a cleaning schedule and stick to it for 6 months
  3. Organize closets and cupboards. Keep them organized for 6 months
  4. Organize bathroom cupboards. Keep track of what we have so we don’t run out
  5. Send out Christmas Cards
  6. Organize all financial paperwork. Keep it organized for 3 months
  7. Organize kids’ clothes and get rid of what they don’t need or want

 

Misc Goals

  1. Get 1000 Likes on FB (blog related)
  2. Get 4000 Followers on Instagram and Twitter (blog related)
  3. Make an income blogging (blog related)
  4. Follow a blog Schedule for 6 months (M, T, W (Wandering Wed), Th, Fri (only reviews)
  5. Compile a new 101 list when this is done

 

So what’s on your 101 goals in 1001 days list?!

 

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Marriage, married life, Mom Life, My Life, parenting, relationship skills

To My Husband

To My Husband

To My Husband,

I promise it’s not you… It’s me…

You see it goes like this… All day and all night I am touched. My body is not my own right now. It seems our 4 month is always latched on or attached to me somehow and our two year old waddles behind me all day touching my bum and wanting up.

By the end of the day, I have been spit up on, barfed on, drooled on, had snot wiped on me, worn a little breakfast on my sleeve, and now am covered in dinner because someone was “helping me” all without a shower because I just didn’t have time in my day.

I have been pulled on, dragged by the hand to turn on the TV, laid on, and slept on since the moment I woke up this morning.

I don’t remember the last time I actually felt pretty because who feels pretty when they are pregnant and then after a baby you just still feel fat because nothing fits quite right. On top of that who has time to paint their nails, or shave their legs, or put on makeup or do their hair? Certainly not me…

By the end of the LONG day of taking care of kids the last thing I want is to be breathed on, touched, or laid on because I have been touched all day. My body is currently not mine. It is shrinking back to normal size as well as fulfilling the purpose of feeding our child.

Every morning when I wake up I make the decision that today is going to be the day when I show you all the affection in the world when you get home from work and I can show you just how much I love you, but then reality hits, and the last thing I want to do is show any more affection or stay up even one minute later after the kids go to bed because I am tired, mentally and physically.

So I ask you to please just be patient with me. Please continue to love me even when I push you away. Continue to take me on dates even though at first I complain that I have to put on real clothes. Continue to try to kiss me even though I turn my cheek the other way. Continue to grab my hand when you want me to hold yours… Continue to love me through this stage of our life.

I promise I want you to touch me and snuggle with me in bed and hear all about your day. I promise my love for you grows each and everyday, even though I might not always say it or show it. I promise my world would be incomplete without you in it. I promise I miss you when you are gone and can’t wait for you to come home each day. I promise that one day I will be back to wanting to be touched, wanting to hold your hand, and wanting to be constantly kissed by you. I promise I love you more than I can say and express, and one day when I feel like myself again I will show it. So in the meantime please know that I love you more than anything and just be patient with me.

Love,

Me

 

 

 

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How to Survive a Loved One’s Suicide

How to Survive a Loved One's SuicideI remember the day we got the life changing call stating that my Uncle had been found dead. We got the news on  May 1,1999,  my dad’s birthday. That day my life changed forever. For months I went through the motions of life wondering, wishing, and hoping for answers as to why my Uncle decided to take his own life. To this day I still wish he was here with us taking us to Great America (Amusement Park in CA) and the baseball games. I still wonder what his life would be like if he were here, who he would have married, and how many kids he would have had. Uncle Dave was more than an uncle to me, he was an older brother.

After losing my uncle to suicide I am convinced this is the MOST PAINFUL way to lose someone in your life. With suicide there are so many unanswered questions and puzzle pieces to try and fit together, but thatt no one really knows the answer to. like if you will see them again and if they killed themselves for reasons you could have helped them with. You are left wondering if you could have done more and if you would have done more would they still be here with you? Suicide is something that a family never fully recovers from because you are left with constant grief, guilt, pain, and sadness.I am convinced that the MOST PAINFUL way to lose someone in your life is through suicide.

With Suicide there are several emotions that family members go through while dealing with a death of a loved one.

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#Thankful2017

I know I never post on Wednesday’s because we have Wandering Wednesdays happening on the blog, but I couldn’t let the first day of November pass us by without starting our Gratitude Challenge for the month of November!

I am captivated by taking hundreds of pictures each week of everything around me because I love to look back and remember all the memories through pictures! With that being said, I am doing a photo gratitude challenge this month to express my thanks for everything I have! Will you join me?

30 Day Challenge/ Perfect for Kids Too!

I have created a printable calendar for you to display in your home so that you can spend each day focusing on something that you are grateful for.  When you find something that sparks each day’s prompt snap a picture of it to record what you are grateful for! (To download click the link below each picture!)

30 Days of Gratitude Photo Challenge

 

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Click here to Download a black and white copy! 30 Days of Gratitude Photo Challenge

Now that kids have all kinds of technology they can snap a picture too of things that they are grateful for! If your kids are too little to have cameras of their own involve them and help them take a picture of things they are grateful for! At dinner each night talk about what you have chosen to take a picture of. It starts a great conversation of gratitude!

If you choose to join in the fun, and post on social media use #Thankful2017 so we can all see what we are grateful for… Who knows, maybe your pic will end up being shared on the blog (With your permission of course!)!

Wanna Track my grateful journey? Follow me on Twitter or Instagram to see just what we are grateful for in our household!

Don’t forget to post on the fridge and share with your friends!

Happy Grateful Month!

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Finding the Perfect Balance

 

Finding the Perfect BalanceDo ever feel like you are the tug of war rope being pulled every which way trying tomake everyone happy? Do you struggle finding a balance between kids, your spouse, volunteering, cleaning, and time just for you? If you are like me you can’t even make it to the bathroom by yourself and you walk around with half painted toe nails because you don’t have an extra 5 minutes.

As moms we naturally put EVERYONE and EVERYTHING before anything we do for ourselves. And let’s be honest there are not enough hours in a day to get everything done, so we go without taking care of needs or desires. Can I just tell you how many days I have gone without a shower because I just didn’t have time? Ok… So maybe I won’t tell you… 🙂 Getting time each day, even if it is 5 minutes,  for ourselves is a must to escape mom funk! But how do we do find this time when we already feel pulled a million different directions? We learn to balance our time a little differently.

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Kids, Mom Life, My Life, parenting

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me… So Far

As a toddler mom again after 11 years I feel like I have been blessed with learning things a little quicker this time around. Maybe it’s because I have had prior experience, or perhaps it is because I am a little older and a little wiser. We will just dwell on the wiser part ;). But regardless I feel like I have learned to do things better, had more patience, shown more love, enjoyed the moments more rather than stressed about the small things, and learned to live in the moment rather than let the moment pass me by. Today I am sharing with you the 10 things my 2-year old has taught me… so far

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me... So Far

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me… So Far

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Planning With a Purpose

Planning with a PurposeAs much as we would love to tell ourselves that we don’t need a plan, but in all actuality  we do! This plan helps us to stay on track and helps us fulfil our purpose. It also allows us to get more things done each day.

At the beginning of each day I reflect for a few moments on what I want to accomplish that day. It might be as simple as take Talie to the park to play or as difficult as get the shed painted! By coming up with what I need to do and what I want to accomplish allows me to go through the proper steps to make this happen through a plan.

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Fall is Here! What are you Wearing?

Fall is here and if you are like me you are searching your closet desperately for something to wear! Some of us are lucky and find exactly what we are looking for, others like me, run into the problem of clothes that don’t fit, others that are stained, and some that are just plain worn out! When this occurs, I have visions of replacing everything with a brand new wardrobe, but reality then sets in as I realize I don’t have thousands of dollars to spend on clothes each season.

Online #Secondhandfirst

In recent years, a new trend has hit the internet which is secondhand clothing sites. I will be honest that I have always been 100% a skeptic when it comes to buying second hand clothes, especially online! This fall I teamed up with ThredUP! To see what all the hype was about when it comes to #secondhandfirst to see if the quality and wear was how they stated it was online, and to see if I could really save up to 90% off regular prices!

History of ThredUP!

In 2008 the vision of ThredUP! Was born when co founder James Reinhart had nothing to wear. In 2009 it became a pilot program with the online sharing of men’s shirts and has now turned into the largest online marketplace to buy and sell women’s and kids’ second hand clothes.

Shopping Experience

I put my shopping skills to the ultimate test as I embarked on an adventure on the ThredUP! Website to find some new looks for this fall season! ThredUP prides themselves on triple checking items for signs of wear such as fading, pilling and stains. They also ensure that the zippers are all working and there are no missing buttons. Lastly, they pride themselves on the fact that you will be able to find in-season, on-trend styles from some of your favorite brands!

With that in mind, I headed to the jeans section of their website and searched from Joe Jeans as well as Paige Denim, my two favorite jean brands. Continue reading “Fall is Here! What are you Wearing?”

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You’ve Been Boo’ed FREE PRINTABLE!

Growing up in the country you sometimes miss out on experiences that you normally find in neighborhoods, such as getting “Boo’ed” each Halloween; so I was so excited when we moved to Texas 2 years ago and we got boo’ed our first halloween! A goody bag full of treats greeted us as we opened the door one night after hearing the doorbell. Attached was a “We’ve got Boo’ed note” as well as how to “continue booing others!”

To carry on the tradition that was started a few years back, my kids happily went IMG_0141shopping for our “boo” supplies at Target. We love the $1.00 section! We loaded up on pencils, stickers, tattoos, toys, color books, and more… Pretty much anything that said Halloween! We picked up some cheap Halloween pails to put the goodies in and we were set!

We came home and as we drove in the neighborhood they selected the two houses that we would boo that night! We prepped our “boo” baskets, waited for it to get dark and then we dropped them off with a ding of the doorbell! (I mean really, two tween boys love any reason to IMG_0142doorbell ditch someone).

Now the fun is to watch to see just how far the “boo” goes throughout the neighborhood! The boys are hoping this year it actually makes it to every house, even the empty nesters, we shall see!

Wanna start the “Boo Tradition in your Neighborhood?

Print the free printable below by clicking on the link and start the tradition! And see just how far the boo goes this year!

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