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The Number One Worst Mistake You Make While Nursing

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Back in the day (2004 and 2006) when I was having the boys I loved nursing them! I loved the 10-minute intervals throughout the day I was able to spend with them thinking about all the hopes and dreams I had for them and watching them grow before my very eyes.

Fast forward 13 years and I am once again sitting on the couch nursing a baby so many times a day because he loves to eat! No joke, he eats 4 times throughout the night and then eats another 9 times throughout the day. I spend at least 4 hours a day nursing Tony. I am so serious because I have timed it!

During this time I am pretty much stuck in one spot unable to get up and use the bathroom, have limited range of motion to help other kids, I can’t get up to go make dinner, I just get to sit there, and since “just sitting” is a little boring I begin to multi task (because let’s be honest, all women love to multitask) and I so I pick up my phone and begin checking my email, paying bills, grocery shopping, which then leads to checking Facebook, Instagram, and all my other social media accounts. I then move on to playing a game or texting a friend all while sitting nursing my baby!

When it is time to feed Tony, I begin thinking, “Okay where is his pacifier, where’s his blanket, Oh! Where is my phone? And yes, if I don’t know exactly where it is I will look for it before feeding him. And on those rare occasions where I make it to the couch to feed him without it, I have been known to wander around the house feeding him to grab my phone on multiple occasions.

You Might Be Asking Yourself

Why is using my phone while nursing my baby a problem? I thought this too for a long time, in fact, I didn’t see a problem at all until I saw a HUGE PROBLEM!

You see my problem all started when I spent so much time at the hospital when Tony was born. I was all by myself all day and all night while he laid doing phototherapy, so I would just sit and play on my phone. Because of his sugar issues, I needed to feed him at least every two hours all day and all night long for the first few weeks of his life. Feedings lasted 20-30 minutes at a time. That was at least 4 hours of my life that I dedicated to feeding him, EVERY SINGLE DAY. It became very routine. The days were long, and the nights were longer. I began to rely on my phone as a timer as well as a source to just keep me awake during the feedings.

I began by reading on my phone, but then that would put me to sleep, so I became a Facebook scroller, acquired an Instagram account, so I could scroll there as well, I became a gamer, (if I could just beat one more level of candy crush), and I became an even bigger texter.

Over the next several (7) months this became my norm. I would sit down to nurse Tony and immediately pick up my phone, I would always justify it as multitasking, and I was good with it until I realized what I was doing one day!

What Was I Doing that was so Bad?

You see… Here’s what happened. I was sitting there feeding Tony (it was about the time that he was beginning to sitting up and he was rolling everywhere and was becoming so distracted),  and he just kept moving, he would squirm this way, then that way and then he would start to drink and then immediately move his head in another direction to look at something allowing milk to squirt everywhere, and I was trying to LOOK AT SOMETHING ON MY PHONE.

Annoyed at the situation I set my phone down and got him all set up again. I picked up my phone and he immediately did it again, but this time grabbing my phone, trying to get it in his mouth.

“No, Tony,” I said annoyed again at the situation…

At that very moment, I knew there was a problem, and it wasn’t my baby grabbing my phone!

At that very moment, I realized I was addicted to my phone.

I was choosing to “get something else done” rather than focusing on making sure that he would sit there and eat. I knew he was at the age where everything else is more interesting than eating and I feeding his curiosity with this bright screen right next to his head.

I began to reflect back and think about when the last time I sat down for an entire feeding without my phone, and I couldn’t think of one, not a single one! I then began to think of other free moments I had. Every single one of these moments I found myself realizing that there was always a phone in my hand.

At that moment I decided I needed a Phone Detox, especially while nursing!

Have you done this as a nursing mom?

Do you find yourself always picking up your phone during feedings?

Do you find yourself picking up your phone and “checking it” at every free moment you have?

How Did We Become Addicted to Our Phones?

Let’s face it, our brains have trained us well to NEED that small screen always in front of us! With every ding and notification we receive, a little voice inside of us cheers with the thought that we Just received a message from a friend, a new follower on Instagram, or another life on our favorite game and we get excited!

We have become a society that uses our phones for everything from calling people, to finding directions to where we are going, to playing games and scrolling through news feeds. We use them to not only distract us from what is going on around us, but we use them as our number one source of entertainment.

Addiction to our phones didn’t happen overnight. It started with us innocently reading a book, or checking our email, or scrolling through Facebook for 5-minutes while nursing. It then turned into 5-minutes every feeding, which somehow made it to the whole feeding. And then if you are really like me, it turned into continuing to play on your phone because you have a sleeping baby on you who really needs to nap, so you think to yourself “what else am I going to do?” so you just keep scrolling and clicking.

Do you do this too?

We have now turned our special bonding moments with our babies, that we will never get back, into mind-numbing scrolling, just because we felt like we needed something to do because perhaps you are like me and felt like nursing your baby was not enough and felt the need to multitask.

There are so many moms out there that began picking up their phones while nursing their babies, it became innocent, just like mine did, but months, even years later after they were done nursing their babies they admit that they are still addicted to their smartphones picking them up 20 times a day for several minutes at a time.

I Decided it was Time to Take Back My LIfe and Get Off My Phone. Are you ready to join me too?

You might be wondering how do we even start to break the cycle we started?

Well, with this 7-day plan we will be off our smartphones in no time!

Here’s How!

Day 1 (Monday)

  • Clean UP Your Social Media- Unfollow people that you don’t talk to anymore. Unsubscribe to pages and groups that you don’t use anymore.
  • Clean Up Your Apps- Are there apps that you don’t want anymore? Delete those. Are there games that you have that suck all your time away? It is time for those to go too! Are there shopping apps that you have to check every single day at 6am to make sure you get it before it is all gone, or that you spend too much money on? Delete those too.
  • Clean up your Email- Unsubscribe to all the emails that you NEVER open.

Day 2 (Tuesday)

  • Turn Off Your Push Notifications- I know how hard this is! One of my favorite things used to be to pick up my phone first thing in the morning and see if I had any new IG followers, Twitter Followers, or new Likes on our Facebook Page. This “simple check” turned into the first 15 minutes of my day staring at my phone rather than being productive.
  • Put your phone somewhere that you don’t go all the time and put it on vibrate (leave it on Vibrate for Detox Week and keep it in this location when not in use or charging)– When your phone is on vibrate you aren’t tempted to stop playing with your kids or making dinner to rush to see who is calling/ texting you. Trust me, whatever it is, is probably not that important. I set mine on my kitchen counter. It is far enough away to not distract me, but close enough that I can tap the screen every now and again to make sure my kids or husband haven’t called.

Day 3 (Wednesday)

  • Resist the urge to pick up your phone first thing in the morning! Get through your whole morning routine without looking at your phone. Need a morning routine? Check ours out here, you will love it! Once you get through it all, you can check your phone for 5 minutes. Set a timer. This teaches you to get through the most important things and not carelessly scroll for hours.
  • While in the car, leave your phone in your purse. Don’t immediately call a friend or your mom. Enjoy who is in the car with you, or if you are by yourself, enjoy a little peace and quiet. I guarantee the first time you do this it will feel really weird, but just keep doing it and you will begin to love the quiet time you have to just think and reflect.

Day 4 (Thursday)

  • Set up a new Charging Location that is not in your room. Our electronics charge in the laundry room. In our house, there is a rule that all phones need to be plugged in by 8:30pm. I always felt exempt from this rule, but I decided that it might be good for me too, so I plug my phone in at least an hour before bed.

You know what happened when I started doing this?

I was actually tired and could fall right asleep when I went to bed, rather than just checking one more thing while laying in bed!

Day 5 (Friday)

  • Go 2 hours in the morning without looking/ checking your phone and 2 hours in the afternoon or night. When the two hours is up you can see if someone has called or texted you and if they have you can look at them and respond, but then put it right back. You might have huge anxiety doing this… It’s because your brain is telling you that you need your phone when in all actuality you don’t.
  • Go out to Dinner with your family and leave your phone in your purse the whole time. Don’t pull it out to even check the time. Just enjoy being in the moment with your family

Day 6 (Saturday)

  • Take the Day off from all Social Media and Games

Day 7 (Sunday)

  • Leave your phone plugged in all day and don’t use it.

After Phone Detox, Now What?

After you go through your 7 Day Detox you will (hopefully) no longer be addicted to your phone! Continue to plug it in an hour before bed in the same place outside your bedroom. Continue to keep it on vibrate for much of the day with it living in the spot you left it during your detox. Consider limiting your own screen time with an app or Circle by Disney, which is actually how I limit my kids’ screen time.

But What Do I Do While I am Nursing?

A new habit I have gotten into is reading books to our toddler or reading an actual book! I place it off to the side of me out of the way that is not distracting to Tony, but to be honest, my favorite thing to do is to play with his bald little head (will he ever get hair?), or watch him squirm around, or hold his tiny little hands. After detoxing from my phone I have loved just watching him grow during these bonding moments that will all slip away too quickly. I know when they are gone I will be wishing for them back, so I am so glad I was able to recognize that I was addicted to my phone and detox while there was still time to enjoy my last Nursing Baby like I enjoyed my first two so many years ago.

I know giving up your phones while nursing is hard! Trust me! I just went through it, but I promise you it is so worth it in the long run because these moments will soon be gone!

Who’s ready to join me on the detox journey?

Comment Below!

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5 Steps For Making New Mom Friends After a Move

5 Steps For Making New Mom Friends After a Move

After moving to a new state, my focus was getting the kids acclimated to our new area. I got them involved in activities and that helped them to make friends. A few months went by, and I realized I had no friends myself! I had put so much of my focus and attention on the kids that I had completely neglected myself.

Having mom friends or a mom tribe helps to keep you sane. They become your people. They’re who you call for a middle of the night emergency. They help you out at a moments notice because they understand life happens. But first, you have to find those people.

Finding new friends as an adult is not fun. We are usually set in our ways, and we do not have the time, patience, or energy for mama drama. So what’s a girl to do?

How Do We Find New Mom Friends?

Step 1: I showed up. Instead of just dropping kids off at activities or practices, I actually stayed. I put names to faces and figured out which kids belonged to which parents. Once I had that figured out, I could then muster up the nerve to approach and say, “You’re Molly’s mom, right?” Even though I darn well knew she was Molly’s mom, it was an easy icebreaker.

Step 2: Start talking! Beginning small talk is the stepping stone to putting yourself out there. It might be awkward, but hopefully, it gets better. If not, move on and hope for better results next time.

Step 3: Look for common ground. Not sure what to say? Look for “a me too” moment. Did someone show up late, or did someone forget something? Empathize and share your own oops moment. It helps ease that persons shame and embarrassment, and it makes you totally relatable.

Step 4: Be authentic. Don’t try to be somebody you’re not. People can see right through fakeness. While finding common ground is helpful, it’s also not required to make a friend. I’m not into all of the same things as some of my friends, and that’s okay! We love each other anyway.

Step 5: Keep trying. You’re not going to click with everyone you meet, and that’s okay. Someone may remain an acquaintance only, while others you meet become family. Keep trying, follow the steps, and soon you’ll have a few new friends.

As with anything else, there are always some don’ts that go along with the Do’s. Sometimes trying to make new mom friends can even feel like dating! Momma doesn’t have time for that!

The Don’t of Finding Mom Friends

When looking for new friends:

Don’t over analyze. I’m guilty of doing this. Did I say the wrong thing? Were my kids well behaved? Was I dressed weird? Was there something in my teeth? I could go on and on. Save yourself the trouble and just don’t do it.

Don’t Facebook stalk. Seriously. I know it’s so tempting. We all know it isn’t the best real-life representation of someone’s life. Don’t start the comparison game and think there’s no way you two could be friends because your lives are so different. It’s okay to look to see their highlights, but don’t get sucked into believing their life is as perfect as Facebook makes it seem.

Don’t fret over potential hangouts. If the person said, “We should go out for a drink sometime,” don’t sit there in anguish constantly checking your phone wondering when or if they will text you. If they genuinely meant it, it will happen. Otherwise, move on. You’ll hear from them when you hear from them.

Moving is tough. Making new friends doesn’t have to be. When you follow these steps, you’ll have yourself a new mom tribe in no time. And hopefully, it’ll feel like you’ve known each other your whole lives. I know these steps have helped me each time my family has moved. I hope they can help you too!

Written by Stacy. Stacy is an intern that is currently finishing up her degree in marriage and family studies. We are so glad to have her working with us this semester. 

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10 Ways to Rock Being a Stay at Home Mom

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Being a Stay at Home Mom is a choice many people make, but for some, it is something that we do because it “just makes the most sense” in our family’s lives. Taking care of the ins and outs of your family can take a huge toll on you!


If you think about it as a stay at home mom we are “on duty” 24 hours a day 7 days a week, from the moment we wake up to the moment we go to sleep, and then we even are blessed with the 2 am wake up call and the 4 am wake up call because our kids can’t sleep. We are in knee deep with kids activities, cleaning, running errands for the family, and everything else that consumes our day. Everything always falls on us because “we are the ones that stay home all day…”


The world thinks that we are at home all day eating bon bons and watching TV and taking naps while the little ones sleep, but in reality we are folding our 18th load of laundry for the day, prepping dinner, scrubbing toilets, paying bills, and possibly taking a shower after day 3 of not getting one if we can fit it in before nap time is over.

Every day we say the same things to our kids, “It’s time to go potty…” “Did you wash your hands?” “Have you finished your homework?” “How long have you been playing video games for?” “Please stop arguing with your brother, or I am taking that toy away…”

Every day we are faced with the same to-do list, “laundry, make dinner, clean kitchen, clean bathrooms, figure out where that horrible smell is coming from, pick kids up… and the list goes on and on”

When we get in the cycle of everything always being the same I think it is only natural for us to start wondering what our worth is and just “start going through the motions” of life rather than really enjoying it!

It can be really difficult to be a Stay at Home Mom! We put EVERYTHING and I mean EVERYTHING in front of us, even the dog!

Think about it for a minute…

We make what everyone else wants for dinner, even if we don’t like it. When we shop for our kids we buy what they like and then we search the clearance rack for something for ourselves because “no one will see it anyway” because we just stay home with an occasional trip to the store… We ALWAYS make sure our kids have showered, but there are MANY days we go without one unless we want to count when our toddler licks us when they are acting like a dog.

When we do this day after day we will eventually get to the point where we are no longer finding joy as a stay at home mom, we are constantly tired, constantly short on patience, constantly out of clean clothes (because we don’t really buy them for ourselves), constantly dreaming of the day where things will change.

Being a Stay at Home Mom is one of the greatest blessings in my life! I get to see and take part in all the “firsts” my kids do! I get to snuggle them all day and read storybooks. I get to see the smiles throughout the day and I get to be the one they always want!

I love being a Stay at Home Mom, but with that being said, it is challenging because I was constantly feeling like I WAS LOSING  WHO I WAS along the way of raising kids. I felt like the joy was fading, I felt like my patience level was non-existent, I felt like I wasn’t happy like I once was, I found myself constantly daydreaming of the days when all the kids would be in school rather than enjoying the time with my little ones. I was fantasizing about days where I actually did my hair and put makeup on and didn’t think, well I will just wear Pajamas today because I am not going anywhere anyway.

And then it came to ME! Why do I have to wait to care about me?! I care about everyone else!

As mothers, we constantly put everyone else before us! We put us LAST. But if we never take care of us, we are not able to take care of our kids

So, Guess what I did?


I HAD TO do this because my KIDS deserve an AWESOME MOM, who loves being home with them, my HUSBAND deserves a Wife who isn’t constantly depressed and irritable, and MOST OF ALL, I DESERVE IT! I deserve to be happy and feel like I was worth something!

So if you want to Rock at BEING A STAY AT HOME MOM (and who doesn’t?), you must put yourself on the To Do List every day!


How Do We Do This?

Wake Up Before the Kids Do

I know what you are thinking… I already get like zero sleep and you are saying to get up earlier? Yes! That is exactly what I am saying! If you wake up and start your day before you have kids running around asking you a million questions and tending to everyone else you will feel refreshed and ready for the day.


I heard you just say, “ugh!” Trust me I said it at first too!

Find Something that you love to do! Maybe it is a workout video, or maybe it’s throwing the kids in the stroller and going for a walk! Here is my favorite stroller! Perhaps it’s going to the gym and taking a yoga or spin class!

I am not one who likes gyms… I find them to be a waste of money and then the time it takes to drive there and back home, I feel like my whole day is wasted… So I love taking the kids for a walk/ run. I love being outside putting earplugs in and listening to my favorite Jam!

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Exercise helps you feel good about yourself! If you are stressed and want to tear your hair out it is the perfect release of all that negativity.

I love to think about everything bothering me and amazingly enough step by step those things that were bothering me aren’t as big of a deal as they were before I left my front door.


Get Ready Every SINGLE Day

If I know I am not going anywhere, I am notorious for living in Pajamas or workout pants all day. I sometimes  (ok, you caught me) usually don’t brush my hair and just throw it in a ponytail and I never put makeup on. This look makes me just want to curl back into bed and sleep all day! There was nothing that said I am motivated to care for myself. (I know, honesty is hard to admit, but there you go)

When our wardrobe says, “Hey, I am headed to the gym at some point today…” or “Hey, I just rolled out of bed it is time to start caring about YOU!

Let’s ask ourselves some questions:

  • When was the last time you showered?
  • When was the last time you put makeup on when you knew you weren’t going anywhere?
  • When was the last time you did your hair, other than a messy bun so that your baby didn’t rip out all your hair throughout the day?
  • When was the last time you put something on that you were excited to wear?
  • When was the last time you were ready to go anywhere that popped up a moments notice?

Let’s be honest a shower makes us all feel like a million bucks! And when we get dressed in clothes we actually love it just makes us feel a TON BETTER about life! And honestly, it doesn’t take any more time to put on a pair of jeans and cute shirt than it does to put on workout pants and a sweatshirt. Throw on a lit bit of lipstick and you will want to hit the town running! With very little effort you will feel like a whole new person!


Establish Friendships and Do Things With Them

As women, we have a need to talk and communicate with others! I mean girls naturally just talk more than boys. I remember when I first became a stay at home mom,  I would get so excited for my husband to get home so I could literally word vomit everything that happened that day as well as everything else I wanted to say… Let’s just say he was not able to take all the talking that I wanted to do (he let me know this by falling asleep sitting up on the couch in the middle of one of my VERY IMPORTANT thoughts). I quickly learned I needed to find someone else who would listen.

Spending all day with little kids can be lonely. We spend all day doing mom tasks and the one thing we all crave is an adult conversation. Someone that talks back at our level! It is important to have other mom friends! Other women that are going through exactly what you are going through!

Do you see other moms playing with their kids at the park? Do you know of a neighbor who stays home with their kids? Are their playdates you could attend in your area to meet other people? What about at church? Who do your kids like to do things with? Establish good friendships with other moms.

Once you find friends, do things with them! Spend time together! Invite them over or go out to lunch, or better yet exercise together! If you are headed to the store and want some company, invite them along. It is so nice to have friends that you know you can pick up the phone at any time and know that they would have your back in any situation.

Ask For Help

So many times I have been stressed and at wit’s end and I still refused to ask for help. I always looked at asking for help as a sign of weakness; I now realize it was only a sign of being too prideful and that asking for help is a strength.

In order to rock at being a stay at home mom, we need to know it’s okay to ask for help and also accept help when people offer it!

I remember when I was pregnant with TJ I was deathly sick… In bed for days… I had an 18-month-old at the time. I knew I needed help, but refused to ask for help “because I can do it myself!” Well, my very sweet neighbor knew how sick I was and she offered to help me… I, of course, told her that I was fine and that Talie could just watch TV with me in bed and snuggle. We went back and forth, her insisting and me refusing, but finally, she said I will be at your door in two minutes to get her. I grudgingly said, “yes” not because I didn’t trust her (she is an AMAZING MOM), but because I didn’t want to ask for help or accept help. She came and grabbed her and I was able to sleep and not have to worry about what she was doing. A few hours later Talie came home. I was able to actually play with her and spend quality time with her, rather than us just lay in bed watching TV all day. That help was the best gift I ever received.

I learned a valuable lesson that day that asking for help is not a sign of weakness, it is a sign of strength and we need to let others help us! That’s what we are here for to help one another!


Have a Routine

As a stay at home mom, we have to establish a daily routine in order for us to be happy! Kids thrive on consistency and so when we are able to give that to them then the world is a better place for them and for US!

Naptime/ Rest Time

As a stay at home mom, you need a designated nap/ rest time every day! I have been able to align the two nappers schedules to nap at the very same time in the afternoon. This allows me to have a few minutes (at least 30) of peace and quiet while I fold laundry, clean up a mess, or even sneak away to my room to read a book for a few minutes (yes, it’s okay to leave a mess to have some you time!)

You need a break in the day and that is what this time does for you. It allows you to take a breather! It is a perfect time to break out the good chocolate and have a piece. When they wake up, not only will you be refreshed and rejuvenated, but they will as well!

If your kids are past napping stage they still need down time just like you. Set them up with some good books to read in their room and let them know it is quiet time. After your predetermined time is up then go and get them and let them know it is playtime again!


Kids Play

Kids don’t need our complete focus all the time. They need to learn to play on their own. They need to learn to use their imagination, explore, and have fun as an individual. This also gives you time to get things done.

We also need to let kids play. We need to let them explore, make messes, as well as fail while playing. This teaches them life lessons. When they are done with their mess help them learn to clean up what they have done. When they get bigger it will become second nature to clean up after themselves.

With that being said we need to designate time to play with them. They need to know we love spending time with them and exploring. I have noticed on the days that I don’t give the kids the attention that they need I get super frustrated because they spend most of the day climbing up on me when I am trying to get something done and whining at me while making dinner. They do this because they want your attention. When we stop and give it to them everybody is much happier in the end and we are able to get more done!

You Time

You spend all your time caring for everyone else, but you can’t forget about YOU TIME! This is time away from the kids. Maybe it is a night out with a friend, maybe a quiet bath after dinner while your husband is playing with the kids, or curling up with a book during nap time. It could be as simple as escaping into the bathroom to paint your nails. These simple things allow you to continue to ROCK at being a stay at home mom. These small moments allow you to breathe, to reflect, to be happy. It allows you the strength to continue being an AWESOME MOM to your kids!

Letting Go

Motherhood is hard. It doesn’t come with an instruction manual. When you think you figured out being a mom you quickly realize what works for one child doesn’t work for the other.

It is easy to question what we do as a mom every single day. It is easy for us to get in our heads and think we suck at being a mom and that everybody could do it better than us! It’s easy to get frustrated and yell… Trust me I have!

Stay at Home Moms that Rock know that they are doing the best they can! They know that life is not perfect and there are always things to learn along the way! They know that some moments will be easier than others, but they try their best in every situation and that is all that matters!

As a Stay at Home Mom, we expect so much of ourselves. We expect us to maintain a perfectly clean house, we expect our kids to be well behaved all the time, we expect perfection, and when it’s not we are so hard on ourselves.

We feel like we are failing, we become depressed. We are our own worst enemies. So the most important thing we can do to Rock at being a stay home mom is to FORGIVE OURSELVES! No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. We all wish we would have done things differently at times. Parenting is hard, why make it harder by not forgiving yourself for doing the best that you know how to do. When you learn to forgive yourself you will be happier, and by doing this you will ROCK at being a stay at home mom.



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This House Runs on Love, Laughter, and Lots of Diet Coke


Diet Coke is so close to my heart! Growing up I remember lots of love, lots of laughter, and an endless supply of Diet Coke. So many great chats were over an ice cold Diet Coke with my mom! She of course has carried her love for Diet Coke on to all her Grandkids by giving them their first little taste of Diet Coke when they turn 6 months old! My kids now love when Grandma comes to visit because that means plenty of Diet Coke to go around! Who else loves Diet Coke as much as we do?

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Life UnEdited

If you have been following my blog for awhile you will know that I try to be brutally honest about my life with you. I try to really show you who I am as a mom, as a wife, as a daughter, and as a friend.

As a blogger it is easy for us to display a “Pinterest Perfect” life with stock pictures that we can find on the internet of perfectly clean houses, beautiful food, and perfectly put together children and we have the ability to give you the impression that we have it all together, even though our houses are not always clean, we have toys everywhere, we eat fast food about 3 times a week in between running the kids around, and our kids have messy faces from the last meal they ate.

Great picture! But who’s kids wouldn’t be jumping in the water by now?

If you think about it, we all do this! You get a text that someone is on their way to drop something off and you madly start cleaning everything in sight that they will see when the rest of the house looks like a bomb went off in it. Or you blame the dishes in the sink on it being “your child’s job” even though they have never once cleaned the dishes. The best one is when someone asks you if you are okay, and you say, “I’m Fine.” even when you really aren’t fine and on the verge of tears. (I’m Guilty of this big time!)

Why do we do this? I will tell you why! Because we feel like we are not good enough. We feel alone. We feel self-conscious because we feel like everyone else has it together while we are barely holding it together. We come up with this facade of the “perfect life” because we worry if someone saw us for who we really are they would think to themselves, “Oh my gosh… Can you believe… (fill in the blank).”

I promise you that you are not alone in your struggles! There are so many people out there that are struggling with similar things that you struggle with! But why don’t we share these things? Because we are scared. Because we always put our best foot forward for the world to see! On Instagram, we see all the happy moments from everyone’s photos. On Snapchat you pick a really good filter to cover up your newly acquired zit, and oh Pinterest, thank you so much for making us all feel like our child’s first birthday needs to be on the same caliber as planning a wedding! Whatever happened to a simple cake, a few presents, and some balloons? (Oh I guarantee they still exist we are just afraid to show those pictures in fear we might be judged for not throwing the perfect party!)

After writing “How Do You Get It All Done” and “10 Ways to Fall Back in Love with Your Husband” (and some other posts here and here) it felt so good to share some hard things I have really struggled with. It felt even better to KNOW that they HELPED PEOPLE because they were struggling just like I was!

I started this blog to help people, so I decided that every Thursday I am going to change it up a bit and show you real life! I will show you the good and the bad. The happy and the sad. The celebration and the tears and of course it will all be unedited, unfiltered, just life…

unfiltered, unedited, just me in real life!

Welcome to Life Unedited!

We will see how this goes, I mean let’s be honest… My life is not that glamorous! I don’t wear makeup 80% of the week and I hardly ever do my hair! I love to wear my pajamas for most of the day (even leaving the house if I know I am not getting out of the car) and I try to get stuff done, but usually, something always comes up! I am a stay at home mom who stays home a lot! But guess what is so awesome about this? I am probably like a lot of you! Yes, I am bored out of my mind on some days and wish I was shopping at the mall or climbing the corporate ladder, but then there are days that I get things done and I feel so accomplished! I bet even if you aren’t a stay at home mom we have things in common, like eating out, shopping at Target, kids who love video games a little too much,  or running around the bedroom right before bed to get our 10,000 steps in.

Yep! It’s noon and I still have my pajamas on and yesterdays makeup… In fact, I haven’t even brushed my hair yet! Now That’s honesty for you!

Join our Journey

I invite you to join this journey with me of #LifeUnedited where we share real life with one another! We share the good and the bad. The happy and the sad. The celebration and the tears, so that everyone out there knows that they are not alone! That there are people just like them!  What do you say will you join us?

Life UnEdited