My Life

25 Things About Me!

Every week, you, my loyal readers, come and visit my blog, which I am so grateful for! So I thought it was about time you learned a little bit more about me, the person behind the blog! So without further ado, here are 25 Things About Me!

25 things about me

  1. I love Diet Coke… If I could live on only drinking it, I would.
  2. I have a hidden desire to live a semi-crunchy life… You know the cloth diapers, make my own baby food, make loaves and loaves of bread every week, grow everything in our garden, have a huge orchard with all kinds of fruit trees, oh and to have chickens! What stops me? Well, I can’t stand the thought of swireling diapers in the toilet to get the poop off and then smelling a pile of diapers waiting to get washed. As for the homestead aspect… Well, if I made my own bread I would weigh about 50 pounds more because I love homemade bread, and as far as eating only what we grow… we live in Texas and the ground here stinks making it a very tedious.
  3. I love running, but i tend to find any excuse to not run. When I lived in California I had the best running buddies and I just loved to run, but here in Texas I haven’t found the “perfect buddy” yet and it gets cold… Once I am doing it I love it, but I will find any excuse to not do it at all…
  4. I hate clutter, even during the holidays. Yes, I hate stuff everywhere. Things need a place. When Christmas comes around I don’t mind putting a tree up and a few other decorations, but I am so ready for them all to come down on the 26th!
  5. My husband and my mom are my best friends who i tell everything to.
  6. I am a Reality TV Junkie. Yep, every Monday night is Date night with my hubby watching the Bachelor.
  7. I love to cook and bake, but i hate cleaning it up! (That’s why I love doing it when around my mom, because she loves to clean up, I swear she does!)
  8. I wish there were more hours in the day.
  9. it only took me 15 years to graduate from college. I began taking some college classes right after High School, but then I got married when I was 20 and started having kids. Nine years later I ended up getting divorced with nothing to fall back on, so I went back to school and Graduated in 2016 with my degree in Marriage and family Studies.
  10. Because of #9, and you never know what will happen in life,  I will strongly encourage my kids to graduate before they get married.
  11. I wish we only have spring and fall… Capris and cardigans with sandals is my go to favorite outfit that I could wear everyday.
  12. We have 0 pets and if my husband has anything to do with it we never will.
  13. I am far from a hoarder. I am more like, oh you haven’t used that in a week, we must not need it anymore and will want to get rid of it. 
  14. My husband and i never went on a honeymoon. We got married and escaped from all the kids the night of our wedding, but hit the ground running the next day blending our family.
  15. I live by to do lists. If it’s not written down it’s not getting done.
  16. I love grocery pick up. I love not having to haul the kids into the store to shop for groceries. I mean with a toddler in the front of the cart and an infant carrier in the back where am I supposed to put anything?
  17. I love ice cream. I have been known to sneak into the freezer in the laundry room on many occasions ust to snag a bite before bed.
  18. The first convert i went to was Dr. Dre 2001 concertYou couldn’t pay me enough money now to go see Snoop Dogg, Dr. Dre, or Eminem…
  19. Call me Grandma, but I love to sew. My Grandma taught me when I was 8 and I feel like this hobby connects us together everytime I sit down.
  20. I live in my pajamas. If I have no plans to go anywhere that day, you will find me in very comfy clothes. My kids pray I never have to get out at their school when picking them up or dropping them off.
  21. Ever since I was little when catalogs come I love to circle everything I want. If I am really bored I will even add up how much all of it would cost and dream about being rich enough to buy it all.
  22. We have a big his, mine, and ours family! We have a total of 3 boys and 2 girls. If we were younger, we probably would think about having more, but we are not young anymore. 
  23. I love Mexican food. Hands down I would eat it every day and never get tired of it!
  24. My dream would be to have an interior designer come in and decorate my entire house exactly how I want it.
  25. One day i hope to make a small difference in the lives of couples who are trying to blend a family together!

Done! Now you know just a little bit more about me! What are 25 things about you?

 

Photo credit: Michelle Thurgood Photography

Marriage, My Life, remarriage

Cleave to Each Other

Learning to Cleave
As I walked up to the door I was nervous. I was meeting my future mother in law for the very first time. I knew she was concerned because we had only dated a short time. I had hoped she would like me that night to start our relationship off on a good note. I knocked on the door and the door opened. On the other side of the door was a perfectly dressed lady that looked like she had just stepped out of a Nordstrom catalog. The home was perfectly decorated as well. I smiled brightly and said, “Hi!” I recall her reaction as she observed my clothes I had carefully selected to wear that night and she with no smile at all responded, “Come in.”
I recall that night her not being very positive, but I kept giving her the benefit of the doubt that perhaps she was just as nervous as I was. Throughout the night she had made several comments that didn’t sit well with me about her disapproval of our upcoming marriage and if I really knew who I was marrying. I was young and naïve and shrugged them off determined to have a good relationship with her. In one study 80 percent of couple’s marriages end in divorce when their marriage does not have the support of the parents of who they are marrying.

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Mom Life, My Life

101 Goals in 1001 Days

With the new year coming I feel like everyone is frantically searching for the perfect New Years Resolutions or goals to be set. I personally love setting goals because it allows me to grow and when I achieve them it gives me a great sense of accomplishment.

I have always been a goal setter. Daily I make to do lists to cross off what I get done. It doesn’t stop there though, my obsession grows to weekly lists, monthly lists, cleaning checklists, etc. Pretty much if I can track it there is probably a notebook or calendar laying around this house with some sort of list in it that documents some sort of progress on a goal that I have in mind.

Several years ago I ran across the idea of 101 goals in 1001 days. The idea of these goals is to set goals in a variety of categories to really help you grow. Some of these goals might be big goals that are difficult to accomplish, like saving enough money to take the family to Disneyland, but then some might be easy that you just haven’t made the time for, like meal planning each week to save money. With 1001 days (over 2 ½ years)  to accomplish these goals it allows you the opportunity to be really creative while planning out what you want to accomplish. It also allows you time to try, try and try again when you hit a stumbling block while accomplishing your goals.

Another perfect thing about 101 in 1001 is you can start it any any point throughout the year! So if you are finding this in June, don’t wait until January 1st; the best time to start setting goals is right now! I started my 1001 days on December 20, 2017 so my 1001 days will be up on September 16, 2020. (Crazy to think at that point I will have a almost 16 year old, an almost 14 year old, a 13 year old, a 5 year old, and a 3 year old!)  So when setting your goals you want to keep the timeline in perspective that you can go on a cruise with your spouse and leave your baby at home, because they won’t be a baby when the 1001 days is up! To calculate 1001 days from any date, click here. There are so many bloggers out there who have blogged about this great idea, so if you are finding it hard to set 101 goals do a google search or look on Pinterest for great ideas! Of course, feel free to steal any of mine as well! I have categorized my ideas in the following  categories, you can use these same ones or create your own! Family, Personal/ Self Improvement, Home Life, Spiritual, Health and Fitness, Financial, Create/ Sew, Travel, Organization, and Misc. goals.

 

Now that I talked your ear off about another way to set goals and achieve them here are my 101 Goals in 1001 Days!

(I will update my progress throughout my journey! Be sure to keep me posted on your journey as well!)

 

101 Goals in 1001 Days

Family Goals

  1. Teach Colby to drive (I can’t believe I am writing this!)
  2. Have a planned family activity once a week for 6 months
  3. Take a trip with my Mom on a girls weekend
  4. Teach Chase to tie a tie
  5. Go to the Farmer’s Market in Dallas
  6. Teach Talie to read
  7. Teach Talie to write her name
  8. Have preschool time with Talie 3 times a week for 6 months
  9. Have 10 minutes of intentional time with each child one on one for 1 month
  10. Create a family Motto/ theme for the year
  11. Teach Colby and Chase to iron
  12. Adopt a family for Christmas
  13. Mail Taya a just because box twice
  14. Send a note to Grandma K. every month for a year
  15. Go through everyone’s clothes get rid of what they never wear. Don’t replace it.

 

Personal/ Self Improvement Goals

  1. Learn to play the Piano
  2. Write a Book to help Blended Families be more successful (started 12/20/17)
  3. Learn to take Pictures and edit them
  4. Shave my legs once a week for 6 months (Hey! I have kids and no time)
  5. Don’t complain for one month
  6. Keep a journal for 5 months
  7. Have a wifi free weekend/ no games on phone either
  8. Make a list of birthdays send out birthday cards to everyone for an entire year (started 12/27/17)
  9. Write 5 posts for another blog or a magazine/ newspaper

 

Home Life Goals

  1. Built in cabinets in Playroom for toys
  2. Acquire 4 month food Supply (started 12/20/17)
  3. Make 72 hour kits for each member of the family
  4. Decorate for each holiday for one year
  5. Plant a garden each season for a year
  6. Plant and maintain 6 fruit trees
  7. Declutter, clean out, donate, throw away what we don’t need
  8. Meal Plan for 6 months (started 12/20/17)
  9. Acquire a 8 month supply of food (started 12/20/17)
  10. Try a new recipe Twice a month
  11. Make Homemade baby food for 1 month
  12. Make homemade bread that my family will eat
  13. Change photos to new ones around the house. Have some with the littles in it
  14. Redecorate bedroom, find the perfect mirror for above the bed
  15. Have family jobs and stick to them for 4 months (started 12/20/17)

 

Spiritual Goals

  1. Read all the General Conference talks for a year (started 12/20/17)
  2. Study the Book of Mormon for 30 minutes a day for 6 months with the Book of Mormon Study Guide
  3. Pray daily morning and night. (started 12/20/17)
  4. Have meaningful FHE lessons for 6 months
  5. Increase my spiritual knowledge/ keep a scripture journal
  6. Read the Book of Mormon as a Family
  7. Memorize the Proclamation to the World
  8. Memorize the Living Christ
  9. Memorize 10 scriptures or quotes
  10. Index 1000 names

 

Health and Fitness Goals

  1. Take 10k steps a day for 1 month
  2. Drink half my bodyweight in water for 1 month
  3. No soda for a month (no lemonade)
  4. Exercise for 30 minutes 5x a week for 4 months
  5. Do a Pinterest Ab challenge
  6. Cut out junk food except once a week for 4 months
  7. Get back to Prepregnancy weight (started 12/20/17, but let’s be honest this has been ongoing for awhile now)
  8. No eating out for one month (no take out delivery etc.) except on Date night for 1 month 
  9. Floss Daily for 1 month ( I know, I know… with 5 kids this will be a challenge, trust me!)
  10. Buy a piece of exercise equipment for in the house (Bike, treadmill) (accomplished 12/25/17)

 

Financial Goals

  1. Save $500 in Household Budget to spend in Hawaii
  2. Plan a budget and stick to it for 3 months

 

Create/ Sew Goals

  1. Redo Mom and Dad’s Wedding Album
  2. Scrapbook the kids’ lives
  3. Sew a blanket for mom
  4. Make a quilt for each one of my kids for Christmas
  5. Create a work environment for blogging
  6. Create Daily Marriage Tips
  7. A homemade Christmas to all Extended Family Members that we buy for
  8. Make church books for the littles
  9. Create a preschool lesson plan with printables
  10. Sew an Apron
  11. Sew matching PJ’s for all the boys for Christmas
  12. Sew matching PJ’s for all the girls for Christmas
  13. Learn to bind a quilt
  14. Create a family photo album
  15. Make/ fix Recipe Book (one with all the recipes and a smaller one with the ones we cook all the time)
  16. Print out recipes I always look up on the internet for a hard copy
  17. Coffee Table for the living room
  18. Matching end Table for the living room
  19. Learn to Calligraphy/ Hand Letter
  20. Teach Taya to sew
  21. Make all the birthday cards and thank you cards I send out this year (started 12/26/17)

 

Travel Goals

  1. Take the kids to Maui
  2. Go to Vail, CO in the summertime
  3. Visit both of Ty’s and my Family in 2018
  4. Go on a cruise with just Ty and I
  5. Take the kids to Disneyland
  6. Travel some place outside the USA
  7. Take a road trip with the kids. Stop along the way and see cool stuff

 

Organization Goals

  1. Gather and make emergency preparedness notebook
  2. Create a cleaning schedule and stick to it for 6 months
  3. Organize closets and cupboards. Keep them organized for 6 months
  4. Organize bathroom cupboards. Keep track of what we have so we don’t run out
  5. Send out Christmas Cards
  6. Organize all financial paperwork. Keep it organized for 3 months
  7. Organize kids’ clothes and get rid of what they don’t need or want

 

Misc Goals

  1. Get 1000 Likes on FB (blog related)
  2. Get 4000 Followers on Instagram and Twitter (blog related)
  3. Make an income blogging (blog related)
  4. Follow a blog Schedule for 6 months (M, T, W (Wandering Wed), Th, Fri (only reviews)
  5. Compile a new 101 list when this is done

 

So what’s on your 101 goals in 1001 days list?!

 

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forgiveness, Marriage, married life, My Life

What if It’s the Last Time?

As I was sitting earlier today with my husband before he had surgery I glanced over at him in between coloring with Talie and feeding Tony and saw him just staring at me with the most loving look with watery eyes… I said to him, “What are you doing because you are looking at me as if you will never see me again?” He smiles and said, “Just looking at you…” As we (the kids and I) left the hospital (yes, I have some wife guilt not staying with him, but with so many kids at home some things are just not possible) I began to think to myself, “What if this is the last time I saw him, would he know… and so many thoughts ran through my head….”

I hope he would know just how much I love him and how no one could ever replace him. I hope he would know that I think he is the most patient loving dad I have ever known. I hope he would know that not a day would pass that I would not think about him and miss him tremendously.I hope he would know that he is the best thing that ever happened to me… I hope he would know…

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I then began to think about all the little things that I made into big deals like the toilet seat being up, the dishes he put in the sink right after I just finished doing all the dishes, and amount of perfection he has on every project we do therefore it taking 5x as long… And thought are these things really that big of a deal that I should have spent those moments complaining to him about, rather than loving him for who he is?

I then thought if this was the last time I saw him I wished we would have snuggled more, laughed a little harder together, disagreed a little less; compromised a little more, dated more after having kids, and really enjoyed our time together so we had so many memories to look back on.

Thankfully this not the end for us… I get to pick him up in a few hours, and we get to continue to make memories and learn from the past to make the future brighter together. We get that… I am lucky, some are not so lucky where the last memory they have of their spouse is the fight over what to watch on TV or who left the shoes in the hallway that they tripped over, or some other small thing they wished now they would have never brought up.

Do we Spend our time...-2When it comes to our spouse, do we give them our best or what’s leftover after everything else we have done that day? Do we make the most of our time together or do we make it about who can be the most snarky or sarcastic to each other? Do we spend our time wondering if our spouse loves us or spend it showing them just how much we love them?

Let’s make our marriages more intentional where we love more and get offended less so if it was the last time, we would not regret the memories we have together. So when we want to get upset or mad just think to yourself, “What if it’s the last time?”

 

 

What if it's the last time?

Divorce, Marriage, My Life, remarriage

The Forgotten Pathway and Remarriage

The Forgotten Pathway and Remarriage

15 years ago I was 19. I remember heading off to college with the hopes of getting
a college education, but more specifically a husband if you want me to be completely honest. While I was away at school I noticed something unusual when it came to dating, it was sort of non-existent. There were a lot of people hanging out, but no one was really going anywhere. Sure groups of us would watch movies and go out to dinner, but that was the extent of it. In the 6 months I was away at school (Yes, 6 months, that is a blog post all by its self!) I never once was asked on a date, nor had dinner bought for me, or anything else that remotely symbolized a date. I was confused, was I really not cute at all? Did I have a big zit on the end of my nose I didn’t know about?
It wasn’t until I returned back home that I realized the world is taking a whole new approach to getting married. I was apparently an “emerging adult”, someone who was no longer a child, but yet someone who was not married because we don’t have to deal with any of the commitments of marriage. These adults are more pessimistic when it comes to marriage, they want to get ahead in life before they settle down and get married, they would rather just hook up and hangout with no real strings attached, and they want to accept cohabitation as a form of making doubly sure they really want to live with and marry the person they have hooked up with. This was not me! I wanted to be married I wanted to have a family and I wanted to be successful with my husband, not before I married him! I then realized that I was on the forgotten pathway in the world. I was going my own direction towards finding a companion who would love me for who I was and who would want to grow old with me.
So how do you find a spouse in these challenging dating times? The first step is to prepare yourself for marriage! No, I don’t mean buy a house and have a six-figure income, but what I do mean is become the spouse you want to be. Do you want to be kind; do you want to be loving? Develop these qualities now. The question you should ask yourself is, “How can I be prepared to form and nurture an enduring marriage?” Next, we need to put our trust in the Lord. When we follow him and his teachings he will direct our paths. I understand it is scary to get married at times, you worry about the future, and you worry because everyone around you is getting divorced, but we cannot live in fear. Faith and fear cannot exist together. We must have faith that we have the ability to make things work. We need to develop the ability to love and learn how to express that love in meaningful ways. As we do this our mate will know the intentions of our heart. Learn to communicate. Learn to listen as you communicate. Don’t just hear the words, but listen to the desires. They will tell you what you need!
We then have to remember we don’t always choose the timing of things, and I have discovered the Lord has a sense of humor at times. This is why it is important to prepare for marriage now, so you are ready when the time is right. I was married in 2003 to which I thought I would spend forever with.  Unfortunately, 9 years later we filed for divorce and 6 months after that it was finalized. I had all the feelings of an emerging adult again. I didn’t want any of this to happen again. I was heartbroken, but like I said 1015712_10151424357036316_472262850_othe Lord has a sense of humor and within a couple weeks after my divorce was finalized I met a guy. I was like no way! Absolutely not doing it!  But he did everything I wanted! He dated me, he loved me, he communicated with me. I still was unsure of life because of the hurt that I had just overcome, but the Lord testified to me that he was the one.  I recalled the thought, “his way and in his time”

946609_10151480772036316_1278735238_n I wasn’t emotionally ready for marriage, but the Lord knew it was my time.  My sweet husband was patient, we dated for a year for us to both be ready and then we got married. We celebrated our year anniversary this year and as I look back I would not have wanted it any other way. He is my forever and I found him on the forgotten path, and I know you can find yours on this path as well! Just remember his way and his time!

Marriage, married life, Mom Life, My Life, parenting, relationship skills

To My Husband

To My Husband

To My Husband,

I promise it’s not you… It’s me…

You see it goes like this… All day and all night I am touched. My body is not my own right now. It seems our 4 month is always latched on or attached to me somehow and our two year old waddles behind me all day touching my bum and wanting up.

By the end of the day, I have been spit up on, barfed on, drooled on, had snot wiped on me, worn a little breakfast on my sleeve, and now am covered in dinner because someone was “helping me” all without a shower because I just didn’t have time in my day.

I have been pulled on, dragged by the hand to turn on the TV, laid on, and slept on since the moment I woke up this morning.

I don’t remember the last time I actually felt pretty because who feels pretty when they are pregnant and then after a baby you just still feel fat because nothing fits quite right. On top of that who has time to paint their nails, or shave their legs, or put on makeup or do their hair? Certainly not me…

By the end of the LONG day of taking care of kids the last thing I want is to be breathed on, touched, or laid on because I have been touched all day. My body is currently not mine. It is shrinking back to normal size as well as fulfilling the purpose of feeding our child.

Every morning when I wake up I make the decision that today is going to be the day when I show you all the affection in the world when you get home from work and I can show you just how much I love you, but then reality hits, and the last thing I want to do is show any more affection or stay up even one minute later after the kids go to bed because I am tired, mentally and physically.

So I ask you to please just be patient with me. Please continue to love me even when I push you away. Continue to take me on dates even though at first I complain that I have to put on real clothes. Continue to try to kiss me even though I turn my cheek the other way. Continue to grab my hand when you want me to hold yours… Continue to love me through this stage of our life.

I promise I want you to touch me and snuggle with me in bed and hear all about your day. I promise my love for you grows each and everyday, even though I might not always say it or show it. I promise my world would be incomplete without you in it. I promise I miss you when you are gone and can’t wait for you to come home each day. I promise that one day I will be back to wanting to be touched, wanting to hold your hand, and wanting to be constantly kissed by you. I promise I love you more than I can say and express, and one day when I feel like myself again I will show it. So in the meantime please know that I love you more than anything and just be patient with me.

Love,

Me

 

 

 

Mom Life, My Life

How to Survive a Loved One’s Suicide

How to Survive a Loved One's SuicideI remember the day we got the life changing call stating that my Uncle had been found dead. We got the news on  May 1,1999,  my dad’s birthday. That day my life changed forever. For months I went through the motions of life wondering, wishing, and hoping for answers as to why my Uncle decided to take his own life. To this day I still wish he was here with us taking us to Great America (Amusement Park in CA) and the baseball games. I still wonder what his life would be like if he were here, who he would have married, and how many kids he would have had. Uncle Dave was more than an uncle to me, he was an older brother.

After losing my uncle to suicide I am convinced this is the MOST PAINFUL way to lose someone in your life. With suicide there are so many unanswered questions and puzzle pieces to try and fit together, but thatt no one really knows the answer to. like if you will see them again and if they killed themselves for reasons you could have helped them with. You are left wondering if you could have done more and if you would have done more would they still be here with you? Suicide is something that a family never fully recovers from because you are left with constant grief, guilt, pain, and sadness.I am convinced that the MOST PAINFUL way to lose someone in your life is through suicide.

With Suicide there are several emotions that family members go through while dealing with a death of a loved one.

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Mom Life, My Life

Finding the Perfect Balance

 

Finding the Perfect BalanceDo ever feel like you are the tug of war rope being pulled every which way trying tomake everyone happy? Do you struggle finding a balance between kids, your spouse, volunteering, cleaning, and time just for you? If you are like me you can’t even make it to the bathroom by yourself and you walk around with half painted toe nails because you don’t have an extra 5 minutes.

As moms we naturally put EVERYONE and EVERYTHING before anything we do for ourselves. And let’s be honest there are not enough hours in a day to get everything done, so we go without taking care of needs or desires. Can I just tell you how many days I have gone without a shower because I just didn’t have time? Ok… So maybe I won’t tell you… 🙂 Getting time each day, even if it is 5 minutes,  for ourselves is a must to escape mom funk! But how do we do find this time when we already feel pulled a million different directions? We learn to balance our time a little differently.

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Kids, Mom Life, My Life, parenting

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me… So Far

As a toddler mom again after 11 years I feel like I have been blessed with learning things a little quicker this time around. Maybe it’s because I have had prior experience, or perhaps it is because I am a little older and a little wiser. We will just dwell on the wiser part ;). But regardless I feel like I have learned to do things better, had more patience, shown more love, enjoyed the moments more rather than stressed about the small things, and learned to live in the moment rather than let the moment pass me by. Today I am sharing with you the 10 things my 2-year old has taught me… so far

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me... So Far

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me… So Far

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Mom Life, My Life

Planning With a Purpose

Planning with a PurposeAs much as we would love to tell ourselves that we don’t need a plan, but in all actuality  we do! This plan helps us to stay on track and helps us fulfil our purpose. It also allows us to get more things done each day.

At the beginning of each day I reflect for a few moments on what I want to accomplish that day. It might be as simple as take Talie to the park to play or as difficult as get the shed painted! By coming up with what I need to do and what I want to accomplish allows me to go through the proper steps to make this happen through a plan.

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