How to Cope with Ultrasound Abnormalities at 20 Weeks

Ultrasound day is always an exciting day, but when you hear you have ultrasound abnormalities it is hard to cope with the news you hear.

 Ultrasound day is always an exciting day, but when you hear you have ultrasound abnormalities it is hard to cope with the news you hear.
It was an exciting day in February; it was ultrasound day! The boys had convinced us that they should go with us to see if we were having a boy or a girl. After much convincing, we finally agreed reluctantly after remembering how Colby reacted (whaling and gnashing of teeth stating that she will NEVER go to any of his sports games) when we told him we were having a girl two years ago!

Prepping For the 20 Week UltraSound

Soon after we arrived at our ultrasound we headed into the small room. I climbed onto the table and got ready. The boys and Ty were excited. The ultrasound tech was typing notes on the screen, one which stated no abnormalities, which we could see on the TV on the wall.
As the ultrasound began we all actively searched for little boy parts. I thought I had spotted something, but didn’t want to say anything. After a few minutes, we got the news that we were all there for!

Are you serious?

The tech looked at us and said, “It’s a boy!” The boys hooted and hollered and Ty with a huge grin on his face stated, “Are you serious?” The tech said, “Serious. Look here.” As we looked we definitely saw it was a boy!

Continuing to See our Baby

The ultrasound continued and we saw his limbs, his heart, his lungs, everything. We finally made it to his brain. I begin to see these asterisks get put on his brain. Not thinking much about it I just keep watching trying to control the boys because they might not have been on their best behaviors at this point.

Ultrasound Abnormalities

All of a sudden I see the tech go back to the original screen and delete No Abnormalities. Holding back the tears I ask if something is wrong. I am basically told she can’t tell me but I know there are ultrasound abnormalities. She then flips back to the baby and I ask, “Is that his brain?” She confirms that it is. I wonder what those 4 asterisks mean; what is wrong? The tech finishes up and says that she is going to go get the doctor. Oh Crap! What is Wrong?

Nothing to Worry About!

Soon after waiting for a few minutes, my doctor came around the corner with a smile. I must have looked panicked because she smiled even bigger and said that we had nothing to worry about. She stated that there were some ultrasound abnormalities, there are cysts on the choroid. She said that it was no big deal and we had nothing to worry about. We would go to a level 2 ultrasound once the referral went through. We had a million questions, all of them unanswered.

The Waiting Game

Ty and I agreed that we didn’t know enough to tell anyone, so I had to deal with all these feelings alone. It was a slow quiet drive home. I still remember the uneasiness and the feelings of inadequacies. The feeling that I had done something wrong. The feeling of being so alone. The next day came and went with no call about another ultrasound. I began to research what exactly cysts on the choroid were and what it could lead to. That’s when I read those horrible words that I will never forget, Trisomy 18.

Trisomy 18 Concerns

Trisomy 18 is a probability when there are this many cysts on the brain. It basically is an abnormality that happens during cell division giving you an extra chromosome 18. From what I read there is only 50% chance that your baby will be born alive, but even then they will have significant delays.

The Day Finally Came

I finally heard from the doctor’s office and got my appointment scheduled two weeks after my first ultrasound. We saw one of the best OB Specialists in the Dallas area. He was amazing. He was so comforting and explained everything to us. We saw every intricate detail of our sweet baby. He looked perfect, not a single pregnancy abnormality. We looked at his brain and I began to feel anxious. The doctor looked at his brain with great detail and let us know that there was one cyst present. Wait, what? One! I was so relieved to hear that because where did all the others go? Did they disappear? Did we just witness a miracle?

The Outcome

After the ultrasound, the specialist said that he was not worried about a thing. He said he was 99% sure that we would have a perfect baby boy. What a relief that was to hear!
Do I still worry a little bit? I would be crazy to say that I am not a little worried, but then again faith and fear cannot exist together. We must put our faith in the Lord’s hands and know that he will do what is meant to be, so for now our precious boy will continue to grow healthy and strong and we will continue to trust in the Lord and just pray that the two words “No Abnormalities” are what this sweet boy has!
~June 28th we delivered a beautiful baby boy! To read more about our delivery click here!

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Ultrasound day is always an exciting day, but when you hear you have ultrasound abnormalities it is hard to cope with the news you hear.

Michele is a Family Life Educator. She is a mom to 5 kids and loves helping others strengthen their families! When she is not blogging she is spending time with her family and running around drinking Diet Coke trying to get everything done!

10 thoughts on “How to Cope with Ultrasound Abnormalities at 20 Weeks

  1. My daughter had cysts too. The doctor did not act concerned at all, even said usually they disappear by 32 weeks, but like you said T18 we will do chromosome testing… what if? I was scared. My husband was in training in Louisiana when the blood work came in to give a more definitive answer. I was too scared to go alone so I waited an excruciating 2weeks. The answer wouldn’t have changed the fact that I wouldn’t terminate. I have complete faith to God but I was so scared that it was a death sentence. Blood work came back normal, cysts disappeared at 30 weeks and I had a natural and relatively easy labor, perfect little girl. All I can say is those cysts made us prepare for the worst and made us so thankful for the blessing of life.

    1. I agree with everything you said. We would have never terminated his life no matter what either. It made us prepare and love him even more when he got here! The lord works in mysterious ways! I’m so glad you have a precious little girl!

  2. I remember when the told me my son had a hole in his heart at the 20 week ultrasound. It was the worst by the time we went for the more detailed ultrasound it had gotten smaller. When he was born it was completely closed and he was perfect

  3. My daughter was born with Down syndrome, or an abnormality as you call it, and she is still perfect.

    1. Lynne she must be such a blessing in your life! Every child is such a blessing in each one of our lives and is so perfect! Thanks for reading/commenting.

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