Receiving abnormal ultrasound results at 20 weeks is never easy. These 7 helpful tips can help you cope with your abnormal 20 week ultrasound better.
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Abnormal 20 Week Ultrasound
I remember it like it was yesterday. It was an exciting day in February and we were on our way to finding out if we were having a boy or a girl at our 20 week ultrasound.
The older kids somehow convinced us to let them go with us to find out the results of our ultrasound. What could go wrong, right?
We headed back to the ultrasound room and the tech got everything all set up and began typing notes on the screen one which said “No abnormalities”
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The Abnormal Ultrasound Results
Soon after the ultrasound was done I saw my doctor, which with a big smile she told me there was nothing to worry about… Um…. Right!
Hope to Cope With Abnormal Pregnancy Ultrasound Results
Understand the Abnormal Ultrasounds Happen
I wish someone would have told me that abnormal ultrasounds happen. In fact 1 in every 21 women have abnormal 20 week ultrasound results.
Rather than understanding this I went into panic mode and started looking up everything I could on cysts on the choroid. This led me down a rabbit hole only to realize that this could lead to Trisomy 18.
I dwelled on this for several days… My suggestion is to understand abnormal ultrasounds happen all the time.
Get a second opinion / Follow up appointment
One of the best ways to cope with your abnormal pregnancy results is to get a second opinion or to go to your follow up appointment.
Doing this will either validate the results of your first ultrasound or it will come back as there being no abnormalities.
Occupy Your Time
Sometimes it takes a while to get into your second level ultrasound appointment. This allows you to have lots of time to think about the first set of results.
During this time, find things to occupy your time, find new hobbies for stay at home moms, find new date ideas that don’t break the bank so you and your husband can go out together, or go on a weekend getaway together.
This will help pass the time while you wait for your next ultrasound.
Learn as much as you can
I urge you to wait to learn everything you can until after your secondary ultrasound. If you get the same results then it is time to research as much as you can about your results so that you are informed.
When you begin researching prior to this you might be tempted to go through several rabbit holes and thinking the worst scenario will happen. This is what I did… I think it is natural and I regret it.
Get support / Talk with others
When we received our abnormal 20 week ultrasound Ty and I made a conscious decision to not talk to anyone about the results.
I literally walked around like a zombie struck with fear and worry! DO NOT DO THIS!
It is okay and I highly encourage you to talk to people. Perhaps you find someone who has gone through it and they can help, or at least be there to support you and listen to you while enduring this time.
Get the support you need from others.
Cope with the Results
Once those secondary results are in it is time that you cope with the results. This could include grieving, rejoicing if the results are now normal, and just dealing with all the emotions that come with getting results.
Whatever the results are this part of the process is important for you to fully be able to process this part of your pregnancy.
Take as much time as you need to do this. Get professional help if needed. Do everything you can to go through the process of an abnormal 20 week ultrasound.
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Michele is a Family Life Educator with her degree in marriage and family studies. She is a mom to 5 kids and loves helping others strengthen their families! When she is not blogging she is spending time with her family and running around drinking Diet Coke trying to get everything done!