Balancing Motherhood and Self Care
Balancing motherhood and self care can be difficult. Often times we might wonder how to not lose yourself in motherhood, but these 7 ways will help you rediscover yourself after motherhood.
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When you have a child, a mom’s world changes forever! It seems like everything that used to be easy is a little bit more difficult because you have a little one to take care. As a mom you might even feel a little overwhelmed trying to accomplish everything. Sometimes in fact we feel completely frazzled! There are even times where we feel like we have no time for self care. Some moms even feel like they have lost their personal identity because of motherhood. So here are 7 ways to rediscover yourself after motherhood.
How to Rediscover Yourself After Motherhood
Rediscovering yourself after motherhood is hard! We have all kinds of emotions running through us and we have a new little one to take care of! On top of this we have all our other responsibilities in life. We begin to wonder how will we ever find the time to take care of ourselves?
Wake Up Early
Waking up early is my secret weapon as a mom. This simple but effective thing allows me to rediscover myself every single day! I have time to do a few things just for me like mediate and exercise! 2 essential things when you are rediscovering yourself after motherhood. Yes, at first it is hard to wake up early, but the benefits of not losing myself after motherhood are worth a few less minutes of sleep.
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Find ways to relax
We all know when we are trying to balance motherhood and self care it can be hard, but we need to look for those opportunities to relax. Perhaps you sit down for a few minutes at nap time and read a book and enjoy a drink that you enjoy! Perhaps try a new drink, check out the health benefits of hibiscus tea. Perhaps going to the spa once in a while is how you like to relax. Whatever it is take that time for you!
When you begin your journey of motherhood your life changes forever. You no longer are just taking care of yourself, but you are taking care of someone else as well. This can be overwhelming and downright lonely! Maintaining your friendships and staying social can help you not be lonely! This is a great way to not lose yourself in motherhood.
I remember being invited to play dates and outings with little kids and my first thought was always, “ugh, that is so much work to get them ready and then they will just be crazy!” But every time I decided to go the benefits of being out with other moms and friends helped me rediscover myself after motherhood. Why? Because I felt like an actual person again! So, say yes to social gatherings, getting together for dinner with friends, and playdates!
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Don’t Listen to the Critics
Balancing motherhood and self care can be difficult. In fact, everyone has an opinion on what you should do or shouldn’t do. But I am going to tell you the real secret about how to not lose yourself in motherhood. Ready for it? Don’t listen to the critics! You will run into people that will tell you how to do all kinds of things that are best! Or you have some that say stay at home moms are lazy.
These comments can eat you up inside! I let them for so long! But then I discovered the best advice ever when I was rediscovering myself after motherhood and that was to not listen to their opinion. No one knows you or your family better than you, so use that intuition!
Oh Instagram and Pinterest. Thank you for making us aware of all the beautiful things in the world! By seeing these beautiful pictures all the time we can really begin to feel like we are not killing it in life like everyone else. But here is the thing… Pins on Pinterest are supposed to look perfect. We don’t see the 9000 failed attempts before that perfect picture and we don’t see the pre edited picture posted on Instagram. So another key to rediscovering yourself after motherhood is to stop comparing yourself to others. Keep trying and working hard doing what you are doing and this will help you rediscover yourself and be happy!
Date your husband
You just had a baby; your emotions are all over the place. Trust me I know! Dating your husband has been my golden ticket between balancing and self care. Think about it! We get dressed, we get out of the house, it is just us with another adult, who we love!
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Sure, it is hard to leave our babies at home, but you need this to rediscover yourself after motherhood!
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So go plan a date with your spouse! While you’re at it, send a sexy text to him and him know how important he is to you! If you really want to rediscover yourself after motherhood and find that spark again, grab our Naughty Coupon Book!
Consider part time or flexible work
Sometimes what you need to really rediscover yourself after motherhood is by working. This might be in the home or out of the home. This is a personal choice that you should make with your spouse. This might mean you working in or out of the home. These days you can start a blog, start a home business or freelance from home. Here are some great work from home options!
Balancing motherhood and self care can be challenging, but as you find this balance you begin rediscovering yourself after motherhood!
What do you do to not lose your self in motherhood? Share in the comments with others!
Michele is a Family Life Educator. She is a mom to 5 kids and loves helping others strengthen their families! When she is not blogging she is spending time with her family and running around drinking Diet Coke trying to get everything done!