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5 Steps to a Blissful Baby Bedtime Routine

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My son did not enjoy sleeping AT ALL when he was a baby.  My husband and I literally tried everything to get him to go to sleep. We read every book we could get our hands on and searched far and wide for a solution that might help us in our struggle for some much-needed sleep. I personally had gotten to the point where I was so exhausted that I felt like giving up as a mom. When I was at my final breaking point, something amazing happened…

One day I was talking to my mom about my struggles and pretty much complaining about my lack of sleep and how hard it was to be a mom to a child who simply refuses to sleep! We have all been there with our moms right?! During this chat, she reminded me of her Fail-Proof way of getting babies to sleep with zero issues.  Her suggestion? Have a routine for the baby that works for you!  She went on to remind me not to try and implement some foreign unfamiliar tasks that I wouldn’t normally do. At this point, I was willing to try anything! And guess what?  IT WORKED! And I was FINALLY able to get some much-needed sleep!

I have used this tried and true method for all my kids since then and it has worked EVERY SINGLE TIME!

Ready to know What Bedtime Routine Worked For Us to Get the Kids to Sleep?

 

1. Take a Bath

Our son had awful eczema and allergies, so bathing was vital to our routine.  This gave us a scheduled time each day to care for his skin as well as get the wiggles out.  Because we bathed nightly, I bought some good bath toys that have lasted for 4 kiddos. Make bath time fun by giving them toys to play with like these cute little boats or some caterpillar stacking cups.  I also love to add my favorite baby bubble bath.  It’s always fun to hear those baby giggles!

2. Get a Fresh Diaper and Jammies

I don’t know too many kids who like getting dressed or putting new diapers on, but my husband and I made this fun! We would sing bedtime songs and give our son some extra special attention with conversation during this time.  As we lotioned him up we would implement baby massage to try and soothe him.

3. Read Books

We would always read a book or two as well.  All kids, even babies love to read and look at the bright colors of books. Our son always tried to grab the book, so we would always give him a different one to chew on. We would always read the same books in order to convey consistency and we would only read these particular books when it was bedtime. We called them “bedtime books.”

Some of our favorite books we would read at bedtime included Goodnight Gorilla, Spot Goes to the Library, Whose Baby Am I? and Brown Bear Brown Bear.

4. Cuddle and Feed

Once we got our son all settled, I would sit down with him in the rocking chair. I would cuddle and nurse him. Once he was sleepy but still awake, I would move him into his crib. He would get his pacifier and get zipped into a sleep sack. After he was all tucked in I would say goodnight to him.

I noticed with each one of my kids they all loved different comfort items. My oldest really loved his binkie and our daughter loved a stuffed animal. With our third, he loved a taggie, and we are still trying to figure out what our youngest likes, any ideas? Finding the right comfort item for your child is key to a successful restful night!

5. Sound Machine

Once he was all settled, I would gradually turn the sound soother on up to a volume that blocked out other noise and kept his bedroom quiet. We discovered that he had been restless and startled awake often because of random noises. Having a sound machine was a complete game changer for us and it helped him get into a deeper sleep much faster!

And there you have it! 5 Easy Steps for a normal routine without all of the crazy frills, so that you and your baby can start sleeping again!

~Written by Shiree.

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How to Recognize Over the Counter Drug Abuse in Teens

One of my very dear friends is so strong and so amazing. She is going through something so difficult right now with her son, Over the counter drug abuse, but wants to share it with all of us because if it helps just one other person her joy will be so full… This is raw and this is real, about the struggles of having a teen addicted to drugs. Please be supportive in your comments to her for sharing her struggle that they are currently going through.

My Nightmare: Dealing with a Teenager’s Over-the-Counter Drug Addiction

About a year ago, I decided to be a loving mother and clean my 15-year-old son’s room for him.  To be honest, I was tired of looking at it and for once wanted my entire house to be clean. I quickly started picking up trash such as sandwich size empty Ziploc bags pieces of straws, and dirty spoons that had a weird “sugar residue” on it. As I was picking up I thought how disgusting all this was.  

The week passed by, and I found myself heading into his room again the following week to clean it because obviously, he had forgotten those great life skills such as cleaning that I taught him before he became a teenager. As I cleaned his room I again found the same things, Ziploc bags, spoons, and pieces of straws. I again threw them all away kind of questioning the situation a little bit more this time. I continued to clean his room for the next few weeks, each time finding the same items, each time throwing them away, and each time being a little more confused as to how they appeared again.

Then it happened….Finding the Drug Supplies

One day I saw, my son came out of the bathroom with a weird look on his face. I knew right away something was wrong. As he staggered into his bedroom I went to retrieve his backpack.I found the same items, but also found an empty bottle of over-the-counter pills, a razor blade, and a lighter.  My worst fears have come true my son was abusing over-the-counter medication and the items I was finding in his room were signs this has been going on for some time.

I admit that my first reaction was not fear for his life but it was anger, anger that he could bring this into my home and expose his younger brother to drugs. They shared the same room, the room I was finding all these things in!

I knew that I would have to be in control of my emotions before I approached him concerning this issue, and I had time to cool off and figure out what was happening because it was going to take a few hours before the “high” he was experiencing wore off.

At that moment, I took the time to educate myself.  I mean let’s be honest, I was in shock! I never had to deal with this before, and I had always prayed that I would never have too!I mean I thought this would have been avoided after all the conversations we had about the dangers of drugs when they were younger.  

Yet, this is the road he chose…

I was forced to walk down the path of parenting a teen addicted to prescription drugs.

It scared me!

How Do You Talk to Your Teen Who is Addicted to Drugs and How Do You Get Through It?

1.Gather Evidence

I have learned through many conversations with other parents who have dealt with this type of situation that evidence is everything. Without evidence, your child will deny everything you have to say.  I personally have found out even with having evidence, he tries to deny his actions. My son has even gone so far to blame his younger brother.

Below is a list of items teenagers will use to hide or consume drugs. The most common places to find these items are in their backpacks, jacket pockets, or drawers under their clothes.  

What to Look for when you Suspect Your Child is Using Drugs:

  •     Plastic baggies (like the Ziploc bags I kept finding)
  •     Lighter
  •     Cigarette remains
  •     Small glass vials
  •     Pill bottles
  •     Candy or gum wrappers
  •     Razor blade (single edge)
  •     Straws (usually cut into smaller sections)
  •     Broken pen (only the tube case will usually be found)
  •     Empty water bottles

You will also see a change in their appearance.  I am not talking about changing from dressing like a jock to a more gothic look. What I noticed in my son was a physical change like bloodshot eyes, flushed cheeks, high energy but unable to concentrate or sit still, unusual smell on his clothing, and he chewed gum or mints more often than before.  

He also became extremely secretive about everything in his life.

Teenage drug abuse is a real problem. In 2015 the following was reported concerning high school seniors: 58% of used alcohol, 36% used marijuana, and 12.9% abused prescription drugs.  

My son is currently a Freshman. His odds are not great if he continues down this path.

2. Remember before talking with your teenager: Be United as Parents

Talk to your teen together.  Make sure you are both on the same page on drug and alcohol use before raising the subject with your teen. Even if you disagree, commit to present as a united front. This way you are not trying to figure it out in front of him and he knows that both of you are serious about drug use And remember, before approaching your teen, remind each other to come from a place of love.

I know it is hard to love someone who lies, cheats, and steals from you. I know It hurts! It makes you mad that the one person who you have dedicated the last 15 years of your life raising has treated you with disdain and called you nasty vial names.  I know It is so hard to love them when you have to stop feeling anything so you wouldn’t hate them. Love doesn’t conquer all, but if you really want to help them, they have to know you love them and you do this by showing them an increase in love even though this is so difficult, I know because I am right there with you!

You may hate what they are doing, but you love them enough to go through hell to get them back.  And that is what you need to prepare for. This is why you need the support of your spouse.

I have cried so many times but I am thankful for my husband, his strength and how we are working together to help our son.  It is comforting to know I am not alone. If you are a single parent, I urge you get get a support system in place. This will give you the strength you need to endure.

3. Expect Anger: Resolve to Remain Calm

You need to think about how you are going to react so you can be prepared for the worst.

Be prepared for your teen to say things to shock you, watch them deny even the most convincing evidence, accuse you of distrust, and then imagine even worse because it will probably happen.

Personally, I could not believe what came out of my son’s mouth.  We raised our children in a loving home. We go to church every Sunday, I am a stay at home mom, I homeschooled him since second grade (because of problems he was having in school), and did weekly family activities.

After the first conversation, I was in shock. I honestly had no idea my son could be so cruel.  With many conversations behind us, I know how hurtful my precious little boy can be. I have learned to put up a wall when we are talking so the darts of his venom do not penetrate until later when I am alone and allow the wall to come down, it’s the only way I can stay calm through conversations with him.

4. Be Prepared to be Bullied

I have learned that my teenager will grab at anything to call me a hypocrite.  To tell me I am a liar. He will push every button to get me to become an emotional wreck.  I have learned to stay strong when the words pierce my heart and cry when my house is empty.

Remember the point is not to allow your response to become a justification for your teen’s drug use. Keep the focus on the issue at hand – your teenager’s decision to use drugs, regardless that they are over-the-counter medications or illegal drugs, abusing drugs is dangerous.

5. Stay Strong: Spell Out Rules and Consequences

We are now in what I consider the final stage of communication with our son.  My husband and I have spelled out the rules and consequences.

When I say final stage, that does not mean we have stopped listening or are unwilling to work with our teenager if he is willing to change his behavior, but if there is no progress we need to make sure that he understands how life will be.  

This step helps clarify the point of your conversation.  Remember, you need to help him understand that you are trying to help him.  

He won’t believe you.  So make sure to say it multiple times as you talk.  

Remember to not set rules you will have no way of enforcing.  

My husband has to travel during the week so I am left to enforce consequences while he is gone.  With that in mind, we set rules and consequences that I can enforce. My relationship is different with my son than my husband’s.  So, trying to enforce yard work doesn’t work when it is just me. Therefore we look at other options such as taking away screens (tv, cell phones, gaming systems, etc), things I can do.  I stopped enforcing dishes after he broke too many. Remember, this does not make one spouse better than the other but allows each one to support the other in uniques situations such as ours.

What Are The Options for Help

There are teen boot camps or summer camps that are available to help at-risk youth. I have not contacted them because our son’s counselor recommended a local organization if things did not improve.  Local organizations don’t allow children with drug addictions.  The only local option we had was to enroll our son in a drug rehabilitation program.  When we called them, we were told that over-the-counter drug abuse was not “real drug abuse” and to find our son counseling (which he is already in) or wait until he was on illegal drugs and give them a call back (they don’t know how to detox what my son is taking). Since our local options are looking dim, my husband and I have talked about the other boot camps or summer camps available.

The is a Light at the End of the Tunnel

I have been dealing with this issue for over a year.

Over a year!

A year of anger.

Of stress.

Fervent prayers.

Over a year of not knowing what is next.  

Having a teenager who has decided to experiment with drugs is an emotional rollercoaster. When teenagers have an addiction to drugs it hurts everyone in the family; It’s like you’re living in your own personal hell. Over-the-Counter drug abuse is no different than street drugs on the addiction side of things. Over the counter, drug use is a gateway drug to harder drug use. I don’t even want to think about what will happen if he gets to that point in his life.

Taking the steps to prepare yourself, working together with your spouse as a team, and talking with your teenager will help open the pathway for help and hopefully will stop the behavior.

One thing I do know is that things get so much worse before they get better, but hold on, The Light Will Come. I know it is hard, you are not alone and your teenager needs you, he needs your support, and your love to overcome his addiction. I know it is hard, but I promise helping them through it is worth it!  

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Is it that Hard to Aim?

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Is it that Hard to Aim?

What is up with the boys in our lives? Is everything the urinal? I have even caught one of them, who shall remain nameless actually peeing on the side of my house like a dog… (Mad face) But seriously everything is their own personal toilet. Is it that hard to go inside to the bathroom and aim?

And then once they get there is it that hard to aim in the toilet? We don’t need pee on the shower curtain, or the toilet seat (it moves up and down in case you didn’t know) or the floor. Aim for the water, certainly, it isn’t that complicated. I mean really I shouldn’t have to check to make sure I don’t sit in pee, should I? And then you know that lever on the side… Well, it moves up and down and flushes what’s in there ESPECIALLY your stinky poo… Is this ALL BOYS? Or are mine just that lazy?

 

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The Honest Truth about Motherhood

In my 14 years of raising kids, I have realized a few things about Motherhood!

The Honest Truth About Motherhood

You can’t please everyone, there will always be someone who will complain about what’s for dinner.

Your kids will never match no matter how many times you buy them matching clothes.

On the days you are most tired just happen to be on the days your kids can’t sleep. 

The floors will never be clean, even right after you just cleaned them.

Boys don’t aim, it’s in their DNA, so you just learn to look before you sit.

On at least one occasion with each child, you will be peed on. Embrace it!

You will never ever be able to find a pacifier in the middle of the night for the screaming baby. The funny thing is your toddler will find one in no time flat when they aren’t supposed to have it!

You won’t actually get to use the bathroom by yourself for at least the next 18 years.

Your kids won’t hear you when you tell them to turn off the video games. They will, however, hear you opening the candy bar and come running wanting you to share.

The laundry will never be all done.

Your food and drinks are community property, but don’t you dare think about having a single M&M or swig of their soda.

A child will need to go to the bathroom REALLY BAD when there isn’t a single bathroom in sight.

You will probably run out of diapers or wipes at some point while you are out and about. You will beg for one from a stranger you met in the bathroom and in turn meet a new friend.

Sippy cups always leak no matter what, so your diaper bag will always smell like sour milk.

Wearing white is an invitation for your kids to hug you with Jelly on their hands, so find a really good stain remover!

You will give up a perfectly decorated living room to become “kid land” filled with toys just to make them happy.

Your kids will always remember the things that you wish they would forget like the time forgot them somewhere.

You will always be needed and your to-do list is always long, but you always figure out a way to get it all done.

Sleep will become a luxury at times, and you will realize why your mom drank Diet Coke because it’s the only way to stay awake all day.

You will laugh when your kids laugh, cry when they cry, and celebrate when they have success. You will pray for them, worry about them, and love them every single day no matter what. And no matter how hard or messy motherhood is we would not trade it for anything in the world because motherhood is joyful.

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One of My Greatest Fears Came True

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Mom Fail, Again!

I got up this morning like I get up every day and stumbled out to the kitchen to make lunches before the bus arrives. I packed all the lunches and put them on/in everyone’s backpacks. Yes, I know I let my kids be a little lazy with this because one of my greatest fears is them forgetting their lunch at home and not having a lunch at school and starving.my-greatest-fears-came-true
The bus comes and I begin the rest of my day…

My Fears Are About to Come True

My phone rings at 1:35 pm. I look down, it’s Colby, “Mom, where’s my lunch?”

“In your backpack.”

No, it’s not… I have my lunchbox, but no lunch…”

And then I walk to the kitchen and I realize his pile of lunch is still right there on the counter.my-greatest-fears-came-true-2.jpg

I felt like the worst mom in the world. I totally had failed at #momlife. How could I have forgotten the actual lunch? I tried to take him something, he said there is no time…I felt horrible.

Please tell me I’m not the only one who has failed at the lunch actually making it to the lunchbox?

After school, I, of course, took him to his favorite place to make it up to him and then the next day I snuck in a few pieces of candy so that I was no longer worst mom in the world!

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The Hardest Goodbyes

The Hardest Goodbyes

I feel a physical pang in my stomach that is indescribable. It happens 4 times a year; when I watch two of my greatest joys walk down the long runway to get on the plane to go see their dad. I feel the tears stream silently down my face. I hear the sobs of Talie wanting to chase after her older brothers. Hugging her and telling her they will be back soon doesn’t work because she doesn’t understand, she is only two. I push TJ in the stroller as I carry a sobbing little girl who just wants her brothers. We miss them already. We walk to the car hugging each other, we get in and start the silent drive home without a piece of us.

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The boys’ dad and I have figured out how to co-parent pretty well, always putting the boys’ needs and desires before our own, but it still does not make the sadness go away when they are gone.

The Things You Miss

You tend to start to miss the endless amounts of laundry they make, their shoes throughout the house. The little scuffles over who’s turn it is to play video games. The jokes they tell, the music they play and sing, and the requests to play outside with them. At dinner, you miss them “accidentally burping” and blaming other bodily functions on each other. I know what you are thinking, how do you miss all of that? but somehow you still do because it is a piece of them.

Throughout the day you find yourself wondering what they are doing and wishing you could talk them all the time. You find yourself listening intently for your phone to ring in hopes it is them just to say, “hi!” You begin to count down the hours until you get to see each other again. You find yourself thinking the house is way too quiet without them in it.

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The hardest goodbyes are watching my kids go away, but these hard goodbyes make all the moments with them even sweeter. It makes you cherish all the moments that everyone else takes for granted. It makes you grateful for the time you do have. It makes you love a little more while they are with you. The reason why I feel the pain when they leave is because I love them so much, and every time I feel that pain makes me realize I love them even more than I did the last time they left.

 

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The Number One Worst Mistake You Make While Nursing

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Back in the day (2004 and 2006) when I was having the boys I loved nursing them! I loved the 10-minute intervals throughout the day I was able to spend with them thinking about all the hopes and dreams I had for them and watching them grow before my very eyes.

Fast forward 13 years and I am once again sitting on the couch nursing a baby so many times a day because he loves to eat! No joke, he eats 4 times throughout the night and then eats another 9 times throughout the day. I spend at least 4 hours a day nursing Tony. I am so serious because I have timed it!

During this time I am pretty much stuck in one spot unable to get up and use the bathroom, have limited range of motion to help other kids, I can’t get up to go make dinner, I just get to sit there, and since “just sitting” is a little boring I begin to multi task (because let’s be honest, all women love to multitask) and I so I pick up my phone and begin checking my email, paying bills, grocery shopping, which then leads to checking Facebook, Instagram, and all my other social media accounts.  I then move on to playing a game or texting a friend all while sitting nursing my baby!

When it is time to feed Tony, I begin thinking, “Okay where is his pacifier, where’s his blanket, Oh! Where is my phone? And yes, if I don’t know exactly where it is I will look for it before feeding him. And on those rare occasions where I make it to the couch to feed him without it, I have been known to wander around the house feeding him to grab my phone on multiple occasions.

You Might Be Asking Yourself

Why is using my phone while nursing my baby a problem? I thought this too for a long time, in fact, I didn’t see a problem at all until I saw a HUGE PROBLEM!

You see my problem all started when I spent so much time at the hospital when Tony was born. I was all by myself all day and all night while he laid doing phototherapy, so I would just sit and play on my phone. Because of his sugar issues, I needed to feed him at least every two hours all day and all night long for the first few weeks of his life. Feedings lasted 20-30 minutes at a time. That was at least 4 hours of my life that I dedicated to feeding him, EVERY SINGLE DAY. It became very routine. The days were long, and the nights were longer. I began to rely on my phone as a timer as well as a source to just keep me awake during the feedings.

I began by reading on my phone, but then that would put me to sleep, so I became a Facebook scroller, acquired an Instagram account, so I could scroll there as well, I became a gamer, (if I could just beat one more level of candy crush), and I became an even bigger texter.

Over the next several (7) months this became my norm. I would sit down to nurse Tony and immediately pick up my phone, I would always justify it as multitasking, and I was good with it until I realized what I was doing one day!

What Was I Doing that was so Bad?

You see… Here’s what happened. I was sitting there feeding Tony (it was about the time that he was beginning to sitting up and he was rolling everywhere and was becoming so distracted),  and he just kept moving, he would squirm this way, then that way and then he would start to drink and then immediately move his head in another direction to look at something allowing milk to squirt everywhere, and I was trying to LOOK AT SOMETHING ON MY PHONE.

Annoyed at the situation I set my phone down and got him all set up again. I picked up my phone and he immediately did it again! This time he was grabbing my phone, trying to get it in his mouth!

“No, Tony,” I said annoyed again at the situation…

At that very moment, I knew there was a problem, and it wasn’t my baby grabbing my phone!

At that very moment, I realized I was addicted to my phone.

I was choosing to “get something else done” rather than focusing on making sure that he would sit there and eat. He was at the age where everything else was more interesting than eating and I was feeding his curiosity with this bright screen right next to his head.

I began to reflect back and think about when the last time I sat down for an entire feeding without my phone, and I couldn’t think of one, not a single one! I then began to think of other free moments I had. Every single one of these moments I found myself realizing that there was always a phone in my hand.

At that moment I decided I needed a Phone Detox, especially while nursing!

Have you done this as a nursing mom?

Do you find yourself always picking up your phone during feedings?

Do you find yourself picking up your phone and “checking it” at every free moment you have?

How Did We Become Addicted to Our Phones?

Let’s face it, our brains have trained us well to NEED that small screen always in front of us! With every ding and notification we receive, a little voice inside of us cheers with the thought that we Just received a message from a friend, a new follower on Instagram, or another life on our favorite game and we get excited!

We have become a society that uses our phones for everything from calling people, to finding directions to where we are going, to playing games and scrolling through news feeds. We use them to not only distract us from what is going on around us, but we use them as our number one source of entertainment.

Addiction to our phones didn’t happen overnight. It started with us innocently reading a book, or checking our email, or scrolling through Facebook for 5-minutes while nursing. It then turned into 5-minutes every feeding, which somehow made it to the whole feeding. And then if you are really like me, it turned into continuing to play on your phone because you have a sleeping baby on you who really needs to nap, so you think to yourself “what else am I going to do?” so you just keep scrolling and clicking.

Do you do this too?

We have now turned our special bonding moments with our babies, that we will never get back, into mind-numbing scrolling, just because we felt like we needed something to do because perhaps you are like me and felt like nursing your baby was not enough and felt the need to multitask.

There are so many moms out there that began picking up their phones while nursing their babies, it became innocent, just like mine did, but months, even years later after they were done nursing their babies they admit that they are still addicted to their smartphones picking them up 20 times a day for several minutes at a time.

I Decided it was Time to Take Back My LIfe and Get Off My Phone. Are you ready to join me too?

You might be wondering how do we even start to break the cycle we started?

Well, with this 7-day plan we will be off our smartphones in no time!

Here’s How!

Day 1 (Monday)

  • Clean UP Your Social Media- Unfollow people that you don’t talk to anymore. Unsubscribe to pages and groups that you don’t use anymore.
  • Clean Up Your Apps- Are there apps that you don’t want anymore? Delete those. Are there games that you have that suck all your time away? It is time for those to go too! Are there shopping apps that you have to check every single day at 6 am to make sure you get it before it is all gone, or that you spend too much money on? Delete those too.
  • Clean up your Email- Unsubscribe to all the emails that you NEVER open.

Day 2 (Tuesday)

  • Turn Off Your Push Notifications- I know how hard this is! One of my favorite things used to be to pick up my phone first thing in the morning and see if I had any new IG followers, Twitter Followers, or new Likes on our Facebook Page. This “simple check” turned into the first 15 minutes of my day staring at my phone rather than being productive.
  • Put your phone somewhere that you don’t go all the time and put it on vibrate (leave it on Vibrate for Detox Week and keep it in this location when not in use or charging)– When your phone is on vibrate you aren’t tempted to stop playing with your kids or making dinner to rush to see who is calling/ texting you. Trust me, whatever it is, is probably not that important. I set mine on my kitchen counter. It is far enough away to not distract me, but close enough that I can tap the screen every now and again to make sure my kids or husband haven’t called.

Day 3 (Wednesday)

  • Resist the urge to pick up your phone first thing in the morning! Get through your whole morning routine without looking at your phone. Need a morning routine? Check ours out here, you will love it! Once you get through it all, you can check your phone for 5 minutes. Set a timer. This teaches you to get through the most important things and not carelessly scroll for hours.
  • While in the car, leave your phone in your purse. Don’t immediately call a friend or your mom. Enjoy who is in the car with you, or if you are by yourself, enjoy a little peace and quiet. I guarantee the first time you do this it will feel really weird, but just keep doing it and you will begin to love the quiet time you have to just think and reflect.

Day 4 (Thursday)

  • Set up a new Charging Location that is not in your room. Our electronics charge in the laundry room. In our house, there is a rule that all phones need to be plugged in by 8:30 pm. I always felt exempt from this rule, but I decided that it might be good for me too, so I plug my phone in at least an hour before bed.

You know what happened when I started doing this?

I was actually tired and could fall right asleep when I went to bed, rather than just checking one more thing while laying in bed!

Day 5 (Friday)

  • Go 2 hours in the morning without looking/ checking your phone and 2 hours in the afternoon or night. When the two hours is up you can see if someone has called or texted you and if they have you can look at them and respond, but then put it right back. You might have huge anxiety doing this… It’s because your brain is telling you that you need your phone when in all actuality you don’t.
  • Go out to Dinner with your family and leave your phone in your purse the whole time. Don’t pull it out to even check the time. Just enjoy being in the moment with your family

Day 6 (Saturday)

  • Take the Day off from all Social Media and Games

Day 7 (Sunday)

  • Leave your phone plugged in all day and don’t use it.

After Phone Detox, Now What?

After you go through your 7 Day Detox you will (hopefully) no longer be addicted to your phone! Continue to plug it in an hour before bed in the same place outside your bedroom. Continue to keep it on vibrate for much of the day! Keep it in the spot you left it during your detox. Consider limiting your own screen time with an app or Circle by Disney, which is actually how I limit my kids’ screen time.

But What Do I Do While I am Nursing?

A new habit I have gotten into is reading books to our toddler or reading an actual book! I place it off to the side of me out of the way that is not distracting to Tony.  If I am being honest though, my favorite thing to do is to play with his bald little head! Will he ever get hair? Or I watch him squirm around, or hold his tiny little hands. After the detox, I have loved just watching him grow during these bonding moments.They will all slip away too quickly. I know when they are gone I will be wishing for them back, so I am so glad I was able to recognize that I was addicted to my phone and detox while there was still time to enjoy my last Nursing Baby like I enjoyed my first two so many years ago.

I know giving up your phones while nursing is hard! Trust me, I just went through it! I promise you it is so worth it in the long run because these moments will soon be gone!

Who’s ready to join me on the detox journey?

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Sometimes I Don’t Have it in Me

LifeUnEdited Week #4

I promised I would give you life UnEdited each week. So here it is me getting real with you with my adventures of Parenting and Marriage! If you are just joining us, click here to find out just why we are giving you Life UnEdited!

Sometimes I Don’t Have it in Me

Some days I just don’t have it in me to be a mom and a blogger, and to be all honest being a mom comes first. There are those days that I am able to sit and write and promote on social media for hours while the kids play around me and they take long naps so I can focus on my blogs, blogging-lifebut then there are days that at first sign of the computer opening they start the whining and the clinging to my side.

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I know to be what they call, a “successful blogger” you need to dedicate ALL YOUR TIME to blogging all day long, but I can’t, I can’t because I care about my kids too much! Do I wish I could pull all-nighters every night to get it all done? Of course, but that’s not reality.

Between kids, church callings,  being a good wife, and a blogger, something always has to give. And it usually is my blog.

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My sad lonely blogging chair, when life needs me…

So On the Days You Visit

So you know those days when you think to yourself, “I’m going to go read my favorite blog, Confessions of Parenting (wink, wink)” and you don’t see a new post, just know that life is happening and occupying a little more of my time than normal, but don’t worry I will always be back…

So on those days that I don’t have it me to answer your comments or respond to your questions, know that I read each and every one of them! Please know that I love hearing from you. You are all the reason that I keep writing. I continue to write my blog for all of you! Know that I share the inner workings of our crazy family life to hopefully make a difference in yours. So, Thank You for always being there for me, even on those days that I don’t have it in me because I am busy being a mom to my kids who really need me that day!

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5 Steps For Making New Mom Friends After a Move

5 Steps For Making New Mom Friends After a Move

After moving to a new state, my focus was getting the kids acclimated to our new area. I got them involved in activities and that helped them to make friends. A few months went by, and I realized I had no friends myself! I had put so much of my focus and attention on the kids that I had completely neglected myself.

Having mom friends or a mom tribe helps to keep you sane. They become your people. They’re who you call for a middle of the night emergency. They help you out at a moments notice because they understand life happens. But first, you have to find those people.

Finding new friends as an adult is not fun. We are usually set in our ways, and we do not have the time, patience, or energy for mama drama. So what’s a girl to do?

How Do We Find New Mom Friends?

Step 1: I showed up. Instead of just dropping kids off at activities or practices, I actually stayed. I put names to faces and figured out which kids belonged to which parents. Once I had that figured out, I could then muster up the nerve to approach and say, “You’re Molly’s mom, right?” Even though I darn well knew she was Molly’s mom, it was an easy icebreaker.

Step 2: Start talking! Beginning small talk is the stepping stone to putting yourself out there. It might be awkward, but hopefully, it gets better. If not, move on and hope for better results next time.

Step 3: Look for common ground. Not sure what to say? Look for “a me too” moment. Did someone show up late, or did someone forget something? Empathize and share your own oops moment. It helps ease that persons shame and embarrassment, and it makes you totally relatable.

Step 4: Be authentic. Don’t try to be somebody you’re not. People can see right through fakeness. While finding common ground is helpful, it’s also not required to make a friend. I’m not into all of the same things as some of my friends, and that’s okay! We love each other anyway.

Step 5: Keep trying. You’re not going to click with everyone you meet, and that’s okay. Someone may remain an acquaintance only, while others you meet become family. Keep trying, follow the steps, and soon you’ll have a few new friends.

As with anything else, there are always some don’ts that go along with the Do’s. Sometimes trying to make new mom friends can even feel like dating! Momma doesn’t have time for that!

The Don’t of Finding Mom Friends

When looking for new friends:

Don’t over analyze. I’m guilty of doing this. Did I say the wrong thing? Were my kids well behaved? Was I dressed weird? Was there something in my teeth? I could go on and on. Save yourself the trouble and just don’t do it.

Don’t Facebook stalk. Seriously. I know it’s so tempting. We all know it isn’t the best real-life representation of someone’s life. Don’t start the comparison game and think there’s no way you two could be friends because your lives are so different. It’s okay to look to see their highlights, but don’t get sucked into believing their life is as perfect as Facebook makes it seem.

Don’t fret over potential hangouts. If the person said, “We should go out for a drink sometime,” don’t sit there in anguish constantly checking your phone wondering when or if they will text you. If they genuinely meant it, it will happen. Otherwise, move on. You’ll hear from them when you hear from them.

Moving is tough. Making new friends doesn’t have to be. When you follow these steps, you’ll have yourself a new mom tribe in no time. And hopefully, it’ll feel like you’ve known each other your whole lives. I know these steps have helped me each time my family has moved. I hope they can help you too!

Written by Stacy. Stacy is an intern that is currently finishing up her degree in marriage and family studies. We are so glad to have her working with us this semester. 

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I Turned Around for Two Seconds

LifeUnEdited Week #3

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I Turned Around for Two Seconds

You know the saying, “I turned around for two seconds.” Well, it happened to me the other night… I turned around for two seconds and you aren’t going to believe what happened?!

It all started when I was in the kitchen making dinner for my people. My kids were starving (apparently), but I kept reminding them and insisting that dinner would be on the table in just 1 minute.

My older kids were “watching their younger brother” while watching a show on Netflix, which translates to me asking, “Where is Mason?!” pretty consistently now that he is super mobile. After asking a handful of times   I didn’t get an answer, so I rush into the living room and then I saw it, something green around his mouth and on his fingers, so I go in for a closer look… “What the heck is this?”

Play-doh.

Yep, you read that right. Play-doh…

Are you flipping kidding me?! How on Earth did he find play-doh?

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It seems as though it took way too long for me to make dinner according to the nine-month-old, I guess he knew that it was another night of Hamburger Helper, Go Me!

Please tell me I’m not the only mom on this planet that has let their kid take a bite of this stuff in lieu of their awesome cooking skills!

~Written by Shiree. Shiree is an intern that is currently finishing up her degree in marriage and family studies. We are so glad to have her working with us this semester.

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