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One Day This Will All Be Gone and You’re Going to Miss This

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Yesterday I got nothing done because we were on a two hour delay from school.

Today I had to drive everyone to school because it was simply “too cold” they said to get on the bus.

But one day I won’t have any kids at home anymore to help get ready in the morning.

 

Yesterday I did 5 loads of loads of laundry and it still didn’t look like I had done any.

Today I have washed, dried, and folded 4 loads of laundry and have three more to do.

But one day my washer and dryer will be empty and there won’t be folded piles all over the table.

 

Yesterday I slept all day because I had mastitis.

Today I fed a child 9 times taking up approximately 4 hours of my day.  

But one day my kids will be grown and I won’t get those precious moments with them anymore.

 

Yesterday I listened to my baby “cry it out” until I couldn’t handle it anymore.

Today I was greeted by my 2 year old at 10 o’clock at night who was scared and didn’t want to sleep alone.

But one day my bed will only be filled of the snores of my husband.

 

Yesterday I picked up a gazillion toys around the house.

Today Today I picked up a gazillion and one toys, 19 pairs of shoes, 5 winter jackets, and 13 socks.

But one day I will have a perfectly clean house, but will be missing the kids who made the mess because they will be grown and have their own kids making messes in their house.

 

Yesterday I said “uh huh” about 30 times to the kids when I wasn’t really listening because I was trying to get something done.

Today I let the kids play video games and watch TV so I could get something done.

But one day I will wish there was someone to talk to and someone to do something with.

 

Yesterday I rolled my eyes when Colby slid into home plate when he really didn’t have to just to get his pants dirty.

Today Tony got sweet potato puree all over his brand new shirt.

But one day I will no longer stand in the laundry room for hours trying to remove stains thinking of the memories of how they got there.

 

Yesterday I ran kids to sports practices, choir concerts, band performances, church activities, and got to eat PB and J for dinner in the car because it’s all I had time for.

Today it will be spent doing pretty much the same thing minus help from Ty because he’s out of town.

But one day I will wish I had these days back spending time watching the kids do things that they love.

 

Yesterday I was the worst mom in the world because I made the kids clean their room.

Today I will again be the worst mom in the world when I make them clean the playroom and put their laundry away.

But one day they will thank me for teaching them to be organized and clean.

 

Yesterday I felt like a failure as a parent.

Today I don’t feel much better about that.

But one day I will look back and realize that I did something right because my kids turned out pretty good!

 

So with that being said, I’ll keep doing what I’m doing. I will keep making plans and to do lists that need changing when something comes up with the kids. I’ll keep doing laundry day after day so the kids have their favorite shirt to wear the next day. I will treasure the moments of feeding my baby rather than dwelling on what else I “could be doing”. I will snuggle my baby until he learns to fall asleep on his own and welcome our daughter into our bed at any hour. I will listen more when my kids talk. I will cheer louder when Colby slides into home and praise Tony for actually eating real food after trying for a month to get him to eat. I will happily treasure the time in the car of having time with the kids while on the way to their activities. I will treasure the words as “worst mom in the world” because that usually means you’re doing something right. Because one day all these things will just be distant memories we wish we still had when our kids are grown.

 

Parenting is hard. There are days where I wonder if I am making a difference. There are days when I feel like I am failing. There are days that I wish I could go to the bathroom by myself or take more than a two minute shower, but then I look at my kids and realize how have you grown up so fast? Where have all my little babies gone? And then I think, one day this will all be gone, and I’m going to miss this!one day this will all be gone, and I’m going to miss this!one day this will all be gone, and I’m going to miss this!

 

What are you going to miss most when your kids aren’t so little anymore?

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Kids, Mom Life, parenting

I’m a Yeller and I’m ready to Change!

According to my boys I’m a yeller, I tend to think I speak in a voice that they can actually hear me in over their shenaniganz. Last night though was a turning point for me, I decided that I might just be a yeller, even though I don’t want to be one!

It all started when Ty decided that we should have hot chocolate before bed. The kids of course went crazy as I was trying to get Tony ready for bed. They ran into the kitchen to make hot chocolate… Followed by the whip cream getting squirted into each other’s mouths, followed by Talie spilling her hot chocolate all over the table and me having to clean it up one handed. Then Colby brings out an Australian accent followed by talking about “Baby Jesus” from Talladega nights…  I lost it… I admit it… I yelled at them and sent them to bed…

 

Confession Time

I felt horrible for yelling, I felt sad for the night ending like that…  Were they doing anything wrong? Not really, they are just typical 13 and 11 year old boys having fun, right? And because of me the peace was gone in our home. My yelling was the one who made it go away… Me, the one who learned about all the different parenting techniques in school, but yet can’t implement any of them when they are most needed.

I confess I have always blamed them for me yelling or raising my voice (I mean if they would have listened to begin with 🙂 …), but really, it’s not them, it’s me… I am the one who needs to change. I am the one who needs to get better. I am the one that needs to have more control over my feelings. I am the one who needs to strive to have more peace in the home. I decided right then and there it was time for a change!

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What’s the Plan?

Last night I decided to not yell for one solid year! (except when appropriate: sporting events, playing outside having fun with the kids, if crisis is happening and it will save someone’s life… you know those moments.) Lao Tzu says, “A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” So I knew that the first step would be the hardest, which is why I am telling you all that I  am making the commitment to not yell for one year! There it is a step in the right direction! To being a more patient and loving mom. A step towards using those parenting techniques when I need them most!

A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Now you might be thinking, “Holy cow! What is her house like? Do they just yell all the time?” Of course we don’t. There is lots of love, lots of peace and lots of harmony, but there are those moments when we are plagued with loud voices that drive all this away. It’s at those times when I fall into Mom Funk, especially since our house has been plagued with sickness for the last 22 days and I have been sick with the flu or a double ear infection for two weeks now. It’s on those days that are too cold and windy to go outside and play so those dang little screens occupy the kids, until bedtime when they decide it is now time to get some energy out.

 

Who’s With Me?

I’ll be honest… This journey is going to be hard… I’m going to fail a few times, okay probably many many times, but I do so much better when I am surrounded by others doing things with me, so with that being said, Who wants to join me? Who wants to change? Who wants more peace in their home? Who wants to share this journey with me? You certainly don’t have to do a year, like me, but I challenge you to set a certain amount of time to make your home a No Yelling Zone and see just what happens. Will you join me on this journey?NO YELLING ZONE!.png
Together we can share stories, encourage one another, and just support one another in being better parents and bring more peace into our homes! Join the challenge today and comment on this post: “I’m in!” Let’s all offer each other encouragement and share stories along the way on our journeys to have more peaceful loving homes, so who’s with me?

With Love~

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What I Wish I’d Known as a Teenager about Dating

WHAT I WISH I'D KNOWN AS A TEENAGER-2

It’s the start of a new year! Most of us have probably made New Year’s resolutions and goals that we’d like to accomplish in 2018. But have we made any goals that involve what we plan on teaching our children?

Oftentimes we as parents get so caught up teaching our children the day to day life lessons that we forget to teach one of the bigger lessons, such as understanding what dating is and why it’s important.

When I was in High School one of the main things on my mind was if I would have any opportunities to date. Going on a date at the time meant that someone found me attractive, wanted to date me all the time, and that we would end up being boyfriend and girlfriend.

If I got asked out even once, I almost automatically assumed the boy liked me as more than “just friends”.  Isn’t this a typical mindset of High School students?! I hope so at least!

Jumping forward 10 years and going out on a date has a completely different meaning to me.

It now means spending time with someone in order to get to know them better, and to see if this is someone I would enjoy spending more time with. The guy doesn’t necessarily have to like me as more than friends or an acquaintance. What a drastic change! How did this happen?

 

5 Lessons I Wish I Knew and How we as Parents Can Teach Them

There are 5 main lessons teenagers and young adults need to understand as they start the process of maturing and interacting with people who they would like to eventually be committed to.

“A date is a planned activity that allows a young man and young woman to get to know each other. In cultures where dating is acceptable, it can help them learn and practice social skills, develop friendships, have fun, and eventually help them find a future companion.”

1.     Do I Need Someone to Complete Me/Make Me Happy?

 

The fundamental answer to this question is an absolute NO!

 

When I was a teenager I would have thoughts like, “When I get married, I will finally be happy”, or “When I get married, I will become better at organizing, be more outgoing, I’ll know how to cook better,” and the list goes on and on.

These, and other similar thoughts, are thoughts that many young people have. They look to the future for better things to come, and think once they finally happen then they will be happy. They will wait for a partner to start being the best they can be, to learn certain things, and they don’t think that they can possibly be happy now without it .

 

This thought process is perpetual, and the grass will always be greener on the other side.

 

What we need to help our children realize is that you don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend in your life to be happy. You don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be in your life to accomplish your goals and dreams. You can be happy now and you don’t have to hold back to be your best self.

 

2.     Love vs. Attraction

 

We hear so often young people (teens/ young adults) say, “But mom I love him! You just don’t understand!” But honestly, do they really understand what love is?

When we hear the word “love” we usually think of the love between a male and female. There’s the kissing, the cuddling, hand holding, and eventually sex, right? However, this kind of love is not applied to everything. I mean when we say “I love you dad,” we don’t also mean that we ever have the desire to make out with him right?

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So what does love actually mean if it’s not applied to both situations?

The difference is that attraction is involved with someone around our age and not towards our parents, siblings, most friends, grandparents, etc.

Love is the deep emotional connection we have with those people who are close to us. It comes from time, hardships, patience, and service.

Attraction is what makes us crave the physical pleasure. It comes from hormones, how pretty or good looking the other person is, fun times you have with this person, kissing, cuddling, hand holding, and eventually sex.

 

Some teenagers might dispute this difference, saying love and attraction are basically the same thing. But again, when we say we love our mom or dad that doesn’t mean we want to make out with them. There IS a difference.

 

The attraction, or “twitterpation” stage, is what most of us feel in the beginning of relationships, but we should not confuse this feeling with love. Love will come with time and experience.

 

3.      “Soul Mates”

 

Many people, including teenagers, have probably thought at least once that they want to find their “soul mate.”

First of all, there is no such thing as ONE person you are supposed to marry. It’s simply a ridiculous idea that there is only one person in the entire world that you are meant to find, and thanks to Hollywood chick-flicks we ALL have this thought process (though they are fun to watch!).

There can be, however, a certain type of person you are meant to marry. But how do we teach our children what type of person they like? We teach them that they need to go on many dates to see what kind of person they are attracted to both physically and personality wise.

It’s not a bad thing to date a lot of people; in fact it is a very good thing! There is a strange notion that if you “date around” you are a player. We need to help young adults understand that going on lots of dates is a good thing. Of course in a committed relationship, dating around is wrong.

We need to help young adults understand that going on lots of dates is a good thing

It is also important to teach our children what type of person they should become starting at a young age.

Raising boys to become gentlemen is something that isn’t as popular as it used to be, but boys who know how to treat a girl with respect, and know how to be chivalrous, is something everyone is looking for, I promise.

Raising girls to become more feminine. Being feminine does not mean being someone that others can walk over, or someone who is helpless. Being feminine is a strength that not many women have in today’s society.

I know you might be thinking, “I want my daughter to be strong and independent!” but this video explains my point perfectly!

 

4.     What is a good date?

 

Dating has become more serious than it used to be.

As I described earlier, as a teenager I assumed going out on a date, even once, meant there was something more serious involved. If dating was meant to be casual and fun, then how did it become something so serious?

Dallin Oaks gives a seminar in which he describes the differences between dating and hanging out, and what a good date should look like.

Helping our children follow these guidelines to good dating can help with the confusion some feel about what to do. A good date should include these three things:

 

  1.     Planned Ahead: Making sure there is actually a plan, and letting the young woman know what it is well in advance so she can prepare. Avoid showing up to pick up your date and asking “so what do you want to do?”

By making sure a plan is made before the actual date helps teach young men how to be leaders and organizers. This is helping them practice for not only a future marriage, but also in life and future careers.

It also shows young women what kinds of men they should look for. Men who will take the initiative to plan something and take charge, and to be responsible.  

  1.     Paid For: As a general rule (at least for me) if a guy asks me out and we end up going somewhere that requires money, I’m expecting him to pay for me. If I ask a guy out it’s a different story. If we begin dating long term, then paying for dates can be discussed and equalized.

When a boy pays for his date, it teaches him how to provide. In essence this is practice on how to provide for a future family.

When a girl sees a boy pay for her, it helps show her that he is responsible, and it helps teach her how to be treated right. It doesn’t mean that she can’t pay, but it shows her what it’s like to be taken care of (even just for one night). Girls should also be taught to say “Thank You” when a guy pays, instead of expecting it and not saying anything.

  1.     Paired Off:  You + your date. No third wheel friend, not a bunch of random people that you bring with you, just you and your date. You asked them out specifically, which means there is a commitment of short duration expected.

When guys ask a girl out they are then also responsible for her safety and well-being. This helps teach him how to be a protector, because he is now responsible, for a short period of time, for someone other than himself.

Protection from others, and sketchy areas is included, but it can also be from each other. Guys shouldn’t force the girl to kiss them or make out, they should respect her space and never try and do anything that would make her uncomfortable.

When a girl goes out with a guy she should feel safe with him, and should feel like he will take care of her for the duration of their date. This helps teach her how she should be treated and how she feels with this certain individual.

 


  1.     Discussing the Dating Rules or Guidelines for your Family

Dating is fun, and adolescents should be allowed to experience it when they are of an age that is appropriate. This is based on every family’s personal guidelines, but they should definitely be discussed and solidified.

For me, 16 is when I could start going out on group dates. Each of us had an individual date, but there were multiple couples involved. Those were some of the most fun activities I’ve ever been on. It was fun, safe, and I got to know a lot of different people.  Notice that this is actually a group DATE, instead of a hang out.

Now as an adult, I don’t have as many group dates because my focus is now on finding someone who I could see spending the rest of my life with. I’m not looking for that at 16, and my maturity level has increased (well, in some areas at least).

Parents need to discuss with each other:

-What age their child should be allowed to start dating

        -Is there an age difference for group dates vs. single dates?

-Curfew and what time is appropriate for weekdays and weekends

-How involved you are knowing where they are, who they are with, what the activity is, etc.

Dating is how children and young adults practice their social skills, and it exposes them to different types of people. It can be looked at as an educational experience, but overall it is FUN and should be FUN!

Dating doesn’t have to be so serious, and teaching our children these points will help them feel like dating is something they can do frequently and with a confident attitude.

 

-Written by Lisa Jensen. 

Lisa Jensen is a recent graduate of BYU-Idaho with her degree in marriage and family studies. She has spent the last semester interning for Confessions of Parenting. She is striving to help young adults and teenagers become more confident in themselves, and their abilities, in all aspects of their lives. She hopes to help parents become more informed and involved with topics that children and young adults don’t often get taught at home, but rather from their peers and society.

 

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Blogmas, Christmas, Holidays, parenting, Uncategorized

Teaching kids to Enjoy Giving, Not Just Recieving

Welcome to Blogmas 2017! Today Katelynne is guest blogging for us from The Disguised Supermom! Visit her at her website and say, “Hi!”

Anyone else find that their kids get an extra case of the “gimmies” this time of year? The list of things they need seems to be endless and it’s no surprise since they are constantly bombarded with images and ideas of things they have to have. It drives me crazy, but it’s not actually their fault. Instead, it’s the culture they’re surrounded by and more importantly, the example we set for them. If we want to raise kids who are just as excited to give than to receive, we need to teach them its importance.

As parents, we are trying to fight against this trend of “me-first” and raise our children to think of others before themselves, to do good in the world and always be on the look-out for ways to help somebody. There are great books to read, movies to watch and conversations to be had around these ideas but the truth is, our children will mirror what they see. Or more accurately, who they see – us, their parents.

I see two ways we can be more intentional about teaching our kids the joy that can come from giving to others, both which fit perfectly with this holiday season.

First, involve them in gift giving within the family. Let them help come up with the list of people that you need to purchase or make gifts for. For us, this includes grandparents, aunts and uncles. The kids also love adding each other and mom and dad to the list. Once you have your list of people, ask them to help you brainstorm ideas. Even if you already know what you’re getting them, give them a chance. I’m always impressed by the thought my kids put into it – even if the actual gift idea seems crazy to me!

If you’re purchasing gifts, consider bringing them with you when you do the shopping. Yes, it will probably take a little longer and may be more stressful but it will be worth it. My kids get so excited to help pick out gifts for others! Make no mistake though, they still need a gentle reminder from time to time to think about who the gift is for instead of themselves – especially if we’re at a toy store!

If you usually make your gifts (or even if you are purchasing gifts yourself), let the kids make their own gifts to give. The gifts can be as simple or elaborate as you want to make them – the age and personalities of your kids will probably determine this. Kids love giving people homemade creations and most people I know also love receiving them.

Kids can also make or decorate the cards, gift bags or wrapping paper.   Last year, I purchase 2 rolls of plain brown packaging paper to wrap our gifts in. Once they were wrapped, the kids got to decorate them with markers, crayons and stickers. You can be sure they were more excited to hand those out than the ones in store bought paper!

The second way to teach your children to think of giving over receiving is through acts of kindness. Last year, we started the tradition of doing as many acts of kindness throughout the month of December as we could. Before the month started, I had a general list of ideas I planned to incorporate but the kids quickly started coming up with their own ideas too. Again, how you implement this depends on the ages of your kids, but it can be done with any ages!

Some of our favorite ideas include:

  • Bring coffee or hot chocolate to the Salvation Army workers outside the supermarket
  • Visit an elderly neighbor who lives alone
  • Donate food to the food pantry
  • Make Christmas cards for a nursing home
  • Leave a treat for the mailman
  • Make thank you cards for the librarians
  • Take supplies to an animal shelter
  • Donate a pair of pajamas to a child in foster care

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There are countless other acts of kindness that can be done with very little prep and minimal money. My kids are young (5, 3 and 1) so I try to keep our list do-able for them. I want these activities to be things they can do themselves. For example, when we donated food to the food pantry, we went to the grocery store just for this and the kids each got to pick 5 items to purchase. Last year, I brought them to the aisles with the staples – pastas, canned goods, cleaning supplies – but my oldest insisted on going to the baby aisle. When I asked why, she responded “I want my 5 things to be baby food, babies need to eat too.”

If we give our kids the chance, they will rise to the occasion.

Things are simpler for them –

Someone is hungry, of course we feed them.

Someone is cold, of course we get them a coat.

Some kids won’t get presents this year, of course we should get one for them.

Somewhere along the lines as we grow up, things become more complicated but kids are naturally giving people. It’s our job as parents to nurture that instinct by giving them a strong example to follow.

 

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Katelynne is married to her high school sweetheart and is a stay at home mom raising three little ones (ages 5, 3 and 1) in Connecticut. You can find her running around with the kids, homeschooling, chasing chickens in the backyard or curled up with a good book and strong cup of coffee. She blogs at www.thedisguisedsupermom.com about how mamas can simplify life at home and how to incorporate literature into your everyday living and learning.

Blogmas, Christmas, Holidays, Kids

Maintaining Family Christmas Traditions While Incorporating Travel During the Holiday Season

Welcome to Blogmas 2017! Ruth from www.havekiddoswilltravel.net is joining us today with tips on how to travel with kids this holiday season! Be sure to stop by and say. “hi” to her!

Traveling with children during the busy vacation season can be an exhausting and even dare I say a traumatizing experience. Prior to having children, my husband and I took turns traveling to spend the Christmas Holiday with my parents or extended family. We would hop on a Christmas Eve flight to Florida, Washington DC, Virginia or Maryland and enjoy an adult focused, memory filled vacation where we were spoiled, fed, rested and stayed out late with friends reminiscing about childhood and college memories. After welcoming our first born, we longed to wake up in our own beds on Christmas morning, yet felt that she was too young to remember and thus, creating memories with family outweighed the negatives of leaving our warmly decorated home to live out of a suitcase throughout Christmas and New Year. We continued this pace until our second child was one and our first-born was three. Suddenly, I struggled through conflicting emotions of wanting to maintain close extended family connections and the desire to create our own immediate family traditions. After much dialogue and reflection, a compromise was reached.

A Path to Creative Family Traditions

Our first tradition was staying home for Thanksgiving annually and cooking from scratch our own meal while using recipes from both sides of our family. Our children get up early on Thanksgiving Day to help their Papi prep the brined turkey for the oven. Some years, we are blessed to have family or friends from out of town join us at our Thanksgiving table, but for the most part it’s about our immediate family. The Friday after Thanksgiving is the kick off to our Christmas traditions. We bundle up and go to our favorite farm to pick out the perfect tree. While playing Christmas music, the tree is carefully decorated with ornaments, which we have collected throughout the years from every location that we’ve checked off our family travel bucket list. We love reminiscing about our honeymoon in Hawaii as we hang the pineapple ornament and share the many memories that coincide with the Christmas trips taken prior to having children.

Now that we have four kids, we do in fact stay home for Christmas Eve. We go to church and cook our big Christmas meal that evening. Our children are allowed to open their stockings before bed on Christmas Eve and we tuck them in and make them promise not to wake up until 7 AM on Christmas Day. We open gifts as a family and spend the majority of Christmas Day in our PJs, throwing on outfits in time for a late dinner with friends. Our official Holiday travel doesn’t start until Christmas night. This allows our kids to slow down and savor the day as well as spend time as a family prior to moving into the hustle and bustle of holiday travel. We are known to take road trips to MA, PA, DC or even ski trips to Northern New England. We’ve also traveled to Orlando to spend time with my parents and go to Disney World. A note to my readers, this is my least favorite week to go to Disney World. You can enjoy all of the Christmas decorations and festivities by going to Disney World in November and early December without all the crowds and aggravation that comes along with the week between Christmas and New Year. Trust me, don’t do it. Please plan a trip anywhere else during the holiday break. I know that I digressed, but I’m adamant about preventing families from creating negative family memories, hindering their interest in future family trips.

Large Family Approved Guide to Holiday Family Travel

  1. There is no such thing as being overprepared when traveling with children during the busiest season of the year. Our family has taken December vacations to warm locations, ski resorts and have celebrated duplicate holidays with family between Christmas and the first week in January. Packing for any of these destinations for a family of six requires a serious packing list and the strategic use of layers. The experienced family globetrotter checks the list twice.
  2. If you’re traveling prior to Christmas Eve and are visiting family or going to a location that accommodates deliveries, use Amazon Prime or other online shopping service to send small gifts, toiletries, baby wipes, diapers and other essentials to your destination resort (you can even ship water, snacks and essentials to Disney properties). This strategy will reduce your luggage and minimize stress.
  3. Pack your child’s lovie. If your child doesn’t have a comfort item, I highly recommend the Angel Dear Napping Blanket. Our kids each have one and they are globetrotting lovies, having accompanying us on all of our family vacations.
  4. Allow your child to pack a small gift with them if you’re opening presents at home on Christmas Day and then immediately departing on a trip. We’ve done this with our children and it leads to complete buy in when discussing travel plans requiring us to depart on Christmas Day or the day after. Our kids each have a lightweight backpack that they use to pack their lovie, headphones, water bottle, snacks, journal, book and one toy. They’re responsible for packing their bag, which I secretly go through prior to leaving, as I’m not carrying anyone’s backpack through a busy airport.
  5. Learn to say no and don’t travel out of obligation during the holidays. I’ve often told new parents that traveling with children is not a vacation, but rather a trip. Accept it, embrace it and travel with them anyway. The memories are worthwhile. The amount of planning, energy and coordination required to travel during the holidays with little people is physically exhausting. The only way to not grow to recent all of the work involved is to only travel if you are enthusiastic about the location and the people that you’ll be fellowshipping with.
  6. If you’re flying domestically during the winter break, make sure to book your flights early and consider flying from a nearby airport if it allows you to travel nonstop at a more affordable rate.

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As you prepare your family’s hearts for the holiday season, I encourage you to play traditional Christmas music if that’s the holiday that you celebrate. There is something to be said for centering our hearts and spirits on the reason for the season. I wish you peace and safe travels wherever your adventures lead you, and like my grandmother use to say “vallan con Dios” which translates to “Go with God!”

 

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Ruth is a wife and mami of 4 active and globe-trotting kids. She’s always loved a good adventure and truly believes that it’s possible to not only travel with, but actually enjoy traveling with children. Join her, as she shares their adventures and inspires you to get out of the house with your kiddos. www.havekiddoswilltravel.net

 

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#Thankful2017

I know I never post on Wednesday’s because we have Wandering Wednesdays happening on the blog, but I couldn’t let the first day of November pass us by without starting our Gratitude Challenge for the month of November!

I am captivated by taking hundreds of pictures each week of everything around me because I love to look back and remember all the memories through pictures! With that being said, I am doing a photo gratitude challenge this month to express my thanks for everything I have! Will you join me?

30 Day Challenge/ Perfect for Kids Too!

I have created a printable calendar for you to display in your home so that you can spend each day focusing on something that you are grateful for.  When you find something that sparks each day’s prompt snap a picture of it to record what you are grateful for! (To download click the link below each picture!)

30 Days of Gratitude Photo Challenge

 

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Click here to Download a black and white copy! 30 Days of Gratitude Photo Challenge

Now that kids have all kinds of technology they can snap a picture too of things that they are grateful for! If your kids are too little to have cameras of their own involve them and help them take a picture of things they are grateful for! At dinner each night talk about what you have chosen to take a picture of. It starts a great conversation of gratitude!

If you choose to join in the fun, and post on social media use #Thankful2017 so we can all see what we are grateful for… Who knows, maybe your pic will end up being shared on the blog (With your permission of course!)!

Wanna Track my grateful journey? Follow me on Twitter or Instagram to see just what we are grateful for in our household!

Don’t forget to post on the fridge and share with your friends!

Happy Grateful Month!

baby, Kids, parenting, pregnancy

5 Simple Steps to Finding the Right Pediatrician

IMG_0385Today was TJ’s 4 month check up; as I was there I was reminded just how lucky I am to have  great pediatrician for my kids! One of the biggest concerns moving to Texas was “Would I ever be able to find a pediatrician I liked for all my kids?” I can honestly say yes! I have! Dr. P is kind, loving, and frankly the best pediatrician I have ever had for my kids in the 14 years that I have been a mom. My kids love going to the doctor. He goes out of his way to make each one of my crazy kids feel special… Even when Talie wants to hide in the corner with her pouty lip he finds a way to make her smile and laugh! I have been so blessed with finding just the right doctor for our family.

(Here’s a little video of TJ chatting with Dr. P today~)

So how do you go about finding a great Peds Doctor?

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Kids, parenting, Parenting is hard

The 6th Grade Curse and How to Get Through It

Two years ago when Colby entered the sixth grade along came a horrendous attitude. I thought to myself where did this come from and where is my child? The attitude came along with the back talking, the refusal to help, and a list and mile long of other things that we got to deal with. We felt at the time the best thing to do was to be more strict and show him that we were in charge and that he needed to be respectful to us… Needless to say this technique did not work. We thought to ourselves this must just be our child going through a rough patch and that we obviously were failing as parents… But now two years later we are faced with the exact same challenges with Chase. We now refer to this stage as the “sixth grade curse”.

In our house we refer to this as the sixth grade curse because as soon as the kids hit sixth grade no becomes their favorite word again and listening becomes optional. Along with that the back talking begins, the refusing to help, and the blatant disrespect. We all think that something is wrong with our child, but it is not; this is caused by our child’s development. You see our kids are growing faster than the brains can develop which causes these types of behaviors because they are unable to adapt to the growing body and mind. There development is telling them they are older, but they are not capable of dealing with all the changes. Will kids overcome this? Yes. And we have discovered things that word to help us all deal with the situation a little bit better.

The 6th Grade Curse-2

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Kids, Mom Life, My Life, parenting

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me… So Far

As a toddler mom again after 11 years I feel like I have been blessed with learning things a little quicker this time around. Maybe it’s because I have had prior experience, or perhaps it is because I am a little older and a little wiser. We will just dwell on the wiser part ;). But regardless I feel like I have learned to do things better, had more patience, shown more love, enjoyed the moments more rather than stressed about the small things, and learned to live in the moment rather than let the moment pass me by. Today I am sharing with you the 10 things my 2-year old has taught me… so far

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me... So Far

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me… So Far

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My Life, parenting

How I Became the Worst Mom in the World

I have come to the conclusion that I am the worst mom in the world. It all started last weekend when #2 deemed he had a Chigger bite on his face. I told him to not scratch it and we all moved on with our day. Sunday was busy going to church and getting a million things done. By Sunday night I noticed my son’s chin from across the room, “Was that a big giant zit?” I told him to come here so I could look at it…

It certainly looked like a zit. I told him it was gross, it needed to be popped and that he really needed to clean better because what almost 11 year old has zits?!

I made him lie down so I could squeeze it… Have I told you I have a love for popping zits yet?

I gave it a good squeeze and the most disgusting pus came out… I kept squeezing, pus kept coming, and #2 kept screaming because he’s a tad sensitive. I realized we were going to have to come back to this….

 

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