New Year’s Resolutions are meant to help us become better people, not to overwhelm or discourage us. This year, try setting more realistic goals!
Top 10 New Year’s Resolutions For Mom
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Can you believe it is already that time of year again? It seems that every year I set ambitious goals that are going to be life-changing. I think to myself, “This year, I am actually going to follow through.” Well, guess what? I never actually follow through on every single goal. So sue me!
It can be discouraging when we look back and realize we haven’t met our goals. This year, instead of setting unrealistically fantastical goals, let’s try and be more reasonable! Here are a few resolutions that you may be able to keep.
How to Make a Good New Year’s Resolution
Making a “good” New Year’s Resolution is all about setting realistic and achievable goals. Yes, it is good to want to lose 70 lbs for health reasons, but it might be difficult to lose that much weight by March.
Setting small, realistic goals will help you be able to stay on track and not become discouraged. The biggest mistake people make when creating New Year’s Resolutions is setting unrealistic goals. Are you really going to go to the gym every single day? Probably not!
Why Have a New Year’s Resolution?
Goals are what drive us to achieve something that we never imagined that we could. Do you think that any of the famous people we read about in history books just happened to discover or create something incredible? I strongly suggest no! I am positive they set goals and had clear objectives in mind.
The road to greatness is paved with goals and persistence. Yes, I just made that up but I think it is true! Goals push us to become better than we were yesterday and help motivate us to keep on trying.
10 New Year’s Resolutions for 2019
1. Enjoy the Little Moments With Your Kids
Have you noticed that you spend a lot of time worrying, looking at Facebook, or otherwise distracted when you are with your kids? I do this more than I care to admit. I find myself ignoring my daughter just so I can see what Stacey is doing this week that is so much cooler than anything I’ll ever do in my life. Does this happen to you, too? If it does, now is the time to make a change!
When you get to spend time with your kids, make sure to enjoy it! Talk to them about school, friends, or life in general. Look for reasons to talk and interact with them. Pick up a lightsaber (or lego, doll, Barbie, etc) and play pretend with them! You can learn a lot about your child by playing alongside them. They will remember the moments you were there for them. Trust me.
2. Find Time Each Day to Exercise
I know you have heard this before, and you are probably sick of reading about it. But anyone who has consistently exercised can tell you- the benefits are unreal! You will feel so much better about yourself and have increased levels of energy. Sounds backwards, right? But it is true!
Exercise does not and should not be miserable and painful. If you have to drag yourself to the gym, maybe you aren’t doing the right type of exercise.
There are so many more ways to exercise than lifting weights or running! Dancing, swimming, deep cleaning, biking, Zumba, HIIT classes, yoga, and water aerobics are all excellent ways to stay fit. Find something that you love doing, and exercise will stop feeling like a chore and start feeling like a reward!
Don’t put pressure on yourself to exercise every single day of the week. Strive to exercise at least 3 times a week, and eliminate guilt for missing a day or two.
3. Reduce Time Spent on Social Media Applications
Spending less time on social media will change your life. I promise you. I went 6 months without social media, and I felt so liberated. It often seems like I get trapped in this cycle of comparison, self-defeating thoughts, and depressive thoughts. When I reduced my social media usage, I felt so much self-confidence and I had more time to do things that I actually wanted to do.
Reducing time spent on social media will also help you achieve goal #1 which is to enjoy your kids and family more. One day you will regret not having spent more time with your kids because you were glued to your phone.
4. Write Down One Sentence in a Gratitude Journal
Studies have proven that gratitude can change our brain! It helps us become more appreciative of others around us, and improves our relationship with others. Even if you are too introverted to openly express your gratitude, writing it down is just as effective.
Make a New Year’s Resolution to write down one thing you are grateful for each day. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy- simple things are often the most meaningful. Are you grateful that your child came home from school and talked about how kind their friend was? Are you grateful that your show came on TV right when you needed a break? Or, are you grateful for your health? There are innumerable things to be grateful for.
Try writing somewhere your kids will see. It will encourage your kids to be more thankful.
5. Date Your Husband Every Week
Marriages are like a houseplant. They need a lot of attention. If you neglect to water the plant or give it adequate sunlight, it is going to die. Our marriages need nurturing. It is no wonder that we “grow apart” from our spouse if we are not making them a priority in our daily life.
Right now, decide on a time each week that you will set aside to date your spouse. It could be a few hours on Thursday evening after the kids are in bed. Or, it could be Tuesday afternoon when you go out for lunch. Whatever time you decide on, make it sacred. Do not plan anything else in its place.
6. Declutter One Area of Your Home Each Month
When you break large tasks into smaller, more manageable tasks, you are much more likely to achieve your goals. Before the new year, sit down and make yourself a decluttering schedule. It might look something like this:
January- Kitchen Cupboards, February– Kitchen Pantry, March– Coat Closet, April- Master Closet, May– Toy Room, June– Storage Room, July– Kid’s Closets, August– The “Junk” Drawer (I know you have one), September– Kid’s Bedroom Dressers, October– Master Bedroom Dressers, November– Laundry Room, December– Office.
7. Make More Phone Calls and Send Fewer Texts
In our modern world full of technological delights, we often find ourselves become less interactive and sociable. Our interactions are limited to the screens of electronic devices. I understand the ease and convenience of text messaging, but there is something so lovely about a good old-fashioned phone call.
Rather than text your friend down the street, give her a call. We can learn so much about a person by having a conversation on the phone with them. Who knows, you might even be able to detect sadness or sickness if you give someone a call, and be able to serve them. Doesn’t that sound nice?
8. Date Your Children Once a Month
Have you ever spent one-on-one time with each of your children? There is nothing sweeter than a parent taking their child out for ice cream and giving him their undivided attention. Children feel so loved when they are listened to, and “dating” your children is the perfect opportunity to listen without any distractions.
When you are making your schedule for the month, plan a time to take each of your children out one-on-one. These mommy- daughter or father-son dates will be something your kids remember well into adulthood.
9. Watch Your Favorite Show Without Guilt
You may be wondering, why is this even a New Year’s Resolution? Well, listen up! How many times have you been plagued with guilt for watching a show or doing something else for yourself? I know I have!
Taking care of yourself is a necessity, and you should schedule time for it. If you schedule time for you, then you don’t have to feel guilty for ignoring your kids or missing out on that PTA meeting. Try it once and you’ll be sold, I promise!
10. Create Something
Finally, one of the biggest boosts to our self-esteem is when we create something that we are passionate about. For me, it is baking. I get such a natural high from baking something delicious and sharing it with the people that I love.
Find whatever it is that makes you happy. Is it writing? Crafting? Building model trains? Sculpting clay? Painting? Or, creating memories with your kids? Whatever you love to create, make a goal to do more of it this year.
Michele is a Family Life Educator with her degree in marriage and family studies. She is a mom to 5 kids and loves helping others strengthen their families! When she is not blogging she is spending time with her family and running around drinking Diet Coke trying to get everything done!