Choosing to build trust in marriage is an important aspect of your relationship. Here are six ways to build trust in marriage.
How to Build Trust in Your Marriage
Trust is an important part of marriage. Without it, it is difficult to have a healthy relationship with your spouse. This often leads to insecurities and unhappiness. When trust is present, there is a feeling of security, a feeling of safety, a degree of comfort, and you have the freedom to express yourself. Here are six ways you can build trust in marriage.
Understand and Define Trust
In order to build a healthy, strong and loving relationship it is important to understand and define what trust is. Talk with your spouse about what trust means to both of you. What does trust look like in your relationship? What are some ways we can work to develop and build trust together? As you begin to understand what trust looks like you can start to build trust on a solid foundation together!
Do What You Say
Your actions should match your words. For example, if you tell your spouse you will take the garbage out then you should follow through with what you said you would do. When your actions match the words you speak, your spouse will believe you. Doing this allows trust in you to grow. Telling your spouse “I love you” and then spending little time with them or treating them poorly does not match what you are telling them. Trust in you diminishes. While it is important to tell your spouse you love them, it is even more important to show them.
Be truthful in all your dealings with your spouse. Lies can destroy a marriage. Being honest is one way to build trust in your marriage. This includes what you spend money on, where you are going and what you are doing. Be honest about the time you are spending on the internet and the activities you do there. The more honest you are about your activities, the more your loved one will trust you.
If you have wronged your spouse in some way, be humble and ask for forgiveness. It isn’t always easy to admit when you are wrong, but a little humility will go a long way in regaining trust in your marriage. Apologize for what you have done, and then let your actions show that you have made a change. As you do these things, your spouse will grow to trust you again.
Forgive your spouse if they have done something wrong. No one is perfect. Recognize your spouse probably doesn’t do things to make life harder for you. Sometimes they just make mistakes. I mean we all make mistakes, right? Be willing to forgive them for the things they do wrong. When you forgive, be sure to put past hurts behind you and prepare yourself to trust your spouse.
Keep Their Secrets
Keep what your spouse shares with you in confidence. Don’t share personal stories and information about your spouse without his or her permission—even if you share everything with your mother or best friend. Did you know the number one reason why husband’s don’t tell their wives everything is because they know they will tell their best friend? What your spouse shares with you should always stay between the two of you.
Just like love, trust in marriage needs to be nurtured and protected. It should never be taken for granted. By following these six steps you can be sure you will be successful in building a strong, healthy trusting relationship with your spouse in no time!
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