Kids, parenting, Uncategorized

Let it Go

Life UnEdited #9

As I cleaned up after dinner I looked under the table…. I saw rice everywhere, smashed vegetables, and, a few candy wrappers.

I began to be frustrated because honestly, how could the kids make such a mess?! Is it really that hard to not get food on the floor?

I could feel my patience slipping as I cleaned up. This area had already cleaned up during dinner when the water spilled because the kids were too busy playing around than being careful.

I could feel myself getting mad at my kids all over again for their “carelessness.”

I had the choice right then and there to let these events bother me for the rest of the night or to Let it Go… So What did I choose?

Let it Go

Being the stubborn person that I am I really wanted to still be frustrated, but I decided to LET IT GO! And guess what happened?

As I cleaned up the rice and the smashed vegetables I became grateful for all my kids and how much joy they bring to my life. I became grateful for the fact that we have so much food that we could even spill some and feed the birds when we throw it in the trash. I became grateful that my table was full of happy kids that were sitting with us laughing and having fun during dinner.

It’s not fair for us as parents to become frustrated with our kids and hold things against them. Our kids are the most loving people we will ever meet. They forgive us every day for our shortcomings as parents. kids put all their trust in us. How do we repay them at times? IS it with frustration because of spilled rice and smashed vegetables? As we let it go we learn to love more and we will continue to have more joy in the journey of parenthood.

let-it-go

Wandering Wednesday

Wandering Wednesday #32

Wandering-Wednesday-Link-up

Welcome!

It’s Wednesday, which means it’s time to Wander! We love our little growing community! Thank you so much for joining us again this week!  We are looking forward to all your Family-friendly blog posts, which include: home and family tips, craft ideas, and recipes!

 

Be sure to scroll down to the links and enjoy the party! Also, don’t forget to vote for your favorite posts this week! Either vote in the comments or when voting opens Thursday morning!

  • We pin ALL posts to our  Wandering Wednesday Board on Pinterest! Be sure to follow the board and REPIN your FAVORITE Posts from this week to your boards!
  • Featured posts will be included in a SPECIAL GRAPHIC with their pins advertising Wandering Wednesday for even more exposure!
  • Next week we will share our favorite post and you can vote for yours on the individual thumbnail in the linkup after 8 am on Thursday.  Just look for the heart in the upper right-hand corner. You can also vote for your favorite in the comments below! The three posts with the most clicks will also get an honorable mention.

Here are “Our Favorite Picks” from last week!

Michele’s Favorite Pick!

Isn’t funny (or maybe overwhelming) to think of all the things we have to teach our children? Some of the things that I have had come out of my mouth make me wonder if I’m truly up to the task of parenting and teaching my children everything they need to know. Don’t worry, we aren’t alone in this! The Salty Mamas give us the lowdown on some of the hilarious scenarios they have come across in their parenting journey in 7 Things You Never Thought You Had to Teach Your Child.

Lori’s Favorite Pick!

I loved Meg from The Kusi Life’s analogy about perspective.  What sources are you relying on when your perspective may not be totally clear? She tells the story of her young son try to cross the street when a big boat was blocking his view, keeping him from seeing the danger of an oncoming car. As parents, we can provide a different perspective to our children.  We can help them see dangers they may not be aware of. Great life lessons! If you haven’t read Trusting in God’s Perspective yet – check it out!

 

Viewers Favorite

The viewers favorite this week was 7 Things You Never Thought You’d Have to Teach Your Kids by The Salty Mamas

Most Clicks This Week Goes To:

6 Insanely Easy Steps to Meal Plan by High Five Dad

How to Start Dating Your Husband Again by Mama at Play

Trusting in God’s Perspective by The Kusi Life

Do you LOVE Wandering Wednesday? Pin this to your boards!

 

Thank you so much for everyone’s entries and we can’t wait to read your posts this week!

Enjoy this week’s Wandering Wednesday!  Don’t forget to vote for your favorite post this week in the comments below.  See you next week!

So Now on to the party!

Click here to see the awesome blog posts!

If you still need our new widget codes click here

Add Your Favorite Post Here!

Party hours start Wednesdays at 8 am (CT) and close at 8 am the next day don’t miss out!

If you are looking for other link ups to join click here. Also, if you are wondering why linking up is so awesome or how to do it, click here!

Wandering Wednesday Rules

  1. Link to a specific post, not your homepage

  2. Don’t advertise, do giveaways, link parties, or links to your shops

  3. We are all stars on Wandering Wednesdays, so no more than one post per week.

  4. Make sure to check out and comment on at least two other links before leaving

  5. By entering a link you are giving me permission to feature an image on my blog, it will always link back to your blog.

  6. Follow Confessions of Parenting  Facebook/ Twitter/ Instagram/ Pinterest and Choosing Wisdom Facebook/ Pinterest/ Instagram/ Twitter/ LinkedIn.

This link party is for family-friendly articles, that relate to parenting, marriage, recipes, DIYs, recipes, and anything that has to do with the home!

Please share our LinkUP on Social Media use #WanderingWednesday. Tag me on Twitter @family_journeys @ChoosingWisdom in your posts and I will retweet as time allows in my day!

We reserve the right to remove any link, not in compliance with the rules.

~Signed Michele @ Confessions of Parenting and Lori @ Choosing Wisdom

If you want to be sent a reminder each week when Wandering Wednesday opens, subscribe here. You will only receive Wandering Wednesday notifications by signing up here. Be sure to add us to your address book so it doesn’t accidentally go to your “junk folder”

Subscribe to our mailing list

* indicates required



*This post has affiliate links. To learn more please see our disclosure.

Kids, Mom Life, parenting, Parenting is hard

Why We Should Let Our Kids Fail

It was the night before a big science test for Chase and I asked him if he had studied. He told me that he didn’t need to study because he knew exactly how to do it (in reality he wanted to play video games). I asked him one more time if he was sure he didn’t need to study or need help and he assured me he was fine.

The next day he went off to school to take the science test without studying. As I picked him up he seemed pretty optimistic that he did quite well. I told him that was great and we drove home.

A few days later I received a grade notification in my email:

“Unit J Test-Science” 67.00%

Chase had failed the science test.

why-kids-need-to-fail

Was I surprised he didn’t do well? NO, Not really; I mean let’s be honest he didn’t study, he probably didn’t apply himself during the test, and he didn’t know the material like he should have.

So at this point, you might be questioning Why I Didn’t Make Him Study because that’s what any RESPONSIBLE PARENT would do right?!

Well, the Reason I didn’t Make Him Study might Shock you, but I didn’t Make Him Because I am Okay with my Kids failing and here’s why!

Failing Helps Kids Learn BIG Lessons!

Mistakes Happen and Kids Need to Learn From Them

Failing Teaches our kids that mistakes happen and that we can learn from these mistakes. Chase made the choice to not study because he really wanted to play video games. His 11-year-old brain spoke to him and said, “this is a good idea,” when in reality it wasn’t. This was a mistake. If I would have told him that he is making a mistake by not studying and forced him too, he would not have believed me. He would have possibly gotten a better score on the test then he did, but then he would have continued to play video games every day when he came home from school. Since he failed, he now studies until 4:30 every day and then plays whatever he wants. He learned from his mistake!

Teaches Responsibility

Failing teaches responsibility. It teaches our kids to be accountable for their choices that they are making. When Chase failed that test he had to be responsible for it. He now had a grade he didn’t want in the class, so he ALL BY HIMSELF, had to make it better. He had to talk to the teacher about making it up or doing extra work. Then he had to study and retake the test for a better grade. If I would have forced him to study, to begin with, he would not have learned how to be responsible and have those conversations with his teacher.

It Builds Character

Failure builds character. It makes you become better. It teaches you patience, work ethic, dedication, and perseverance. When I got divorced it was hard. I had failed at something I never thought I would fail at. It was not a fun experience to go through, but because of that experience, it taught me so many life lessons. It built me into the person I am today. Letting our children fail builds their character and allows them to have growth that they wouldn’t have without it.

When We Carry Their Burdens, it Teaches them it is Too Hard For Them.

Do you remember teaching your kids to tie their shoes? Oh how badly we all just wanted to do it for them because it was way easier and faster! If we would have continued to do it for them it would have taught them that it was too hard to do. I remember teaching Chase to tie his shoes… Oh, my lanta it was painful, he would try and then start crying so then I would just do it for him until one day I stopped. I told him, “ Chase this is the last time I am going to tie your shoes for you. Next time you will do it by yourself.”

The next day there was wailing and gnashing of teeth about how he just couldn’t do it… He left the house with his shoelaces dragging, untied…

The next day the same thing happened. wailing and gnashing of teeth about how he just couldn’t do it… He left the house with his shoelaces dragging, untied…

Two days later I looked at his shoes while we were walking out the door and he had about 15 knots in his laces, but they were “tied” in his eyes.

Over time he learned to tie his shoes… In fact, he ties them in a way I can’t figure out, but it WORKS FOR HIM! If I would have never made him do it, I would still be tying his shoes at 11 years old I guarantee.

Helps Understand Priorities

Failing teaches kids priorities. Think about this, if your child goes out for the baseball team at school and they don’t make it, they will feel one of two ways, 1. They will be devastated and try even harder to make the team next year or 2. They will simply think, “that’s a bummer” and continue on with daily life. If they go on with life they will learn that wasn’t important to them. If they continue to try and work really hard they will learn that things that are a priority take effort and they will put the effort into those things.  

Real Life Does Not Protect You

We are headed in a direction in life where we are setting our kids up for big disappointments when they grow up. I mean let’s think about it for a minute, “participation trophies” “not keeping score at sporting events” “100% grades just as long as you turn it in” “A’s on major projects kids turn in 6 weeks late.”

These things are not teaching kids how the real world works. The bank doesn’t care that you were “too busy” to send the payment on time, they will slap you with late fees. Your boss won’t care if you were “too tired” this morning and showed up late, you will be fired.

It might be hard to compete all season and lose every game. It might be hard to get some wrong answers on last night’s homework, but these things teach you that success takes hard work and you can’t always win or have success.

Fail Now, Succeed Later

Failure now teaches them to be successful later. It teaches them to work hard and how to have patience. It teaches them how the real world works, shapes them into responsible humans and so much more! If I would not have let Chase fail on that Science test he would still be playing video games all day long after school, not studying.

If I was always dictating to him when it was time to study and to play video games when it was time for him to go off to college he would probably be spending the first semester hanging out in his dorm room playing Forte Night (video game) rather than sitting in class learning because he would not have learned these lessons on his own as a kid, when mistakes make less of an impact on your life.

Parents live in fear of their kids failing. They hover over everything their kids do to protect them from the world we live in. We are not teaching our kids to be responsible, we are in fact harming them for their future. If we continue to shelter them from failing when they are young, they will not be ready to venture away to college or to get jobs in the real world because we would have never shown them the great lessons they can learn by failing first. We need to let our kids fail so they learn how to succeed.

It is HARD to see our kids fail; I used to not let my kids fail either! I used to FORCE them to study and PRACTICE at home with things they didn’t really care about. I’ve since learned to let them fail teaches far greater lessons than I can teach pushing them to succeed. When we don’t let them fail we are actually not teaching them how the world really works. I know it is sad when they fail and I know we want to protect them from everything, but that is not life.

Do you agree that we should let our kids fail?

Do you like this post? Share it with Others on Pinterest!

why-failing-helps-kids-grow-and-why-you-should-let-them-fail

all-kids-need-to-have-their-kids-fail

 

7-reasons-why-we-should-be-letting-our-kids-fail
7-lessons-kids-learn-when-they-fail
baby, Kids, Mom Life, parenting

5 Steps to a Blissful Baby Bedtime Routine

*This is an affiliate post.

My son did not enjoy sleeping AT ALL when he was a baby.  My husband and I literally tried everything to get him to go to sleep. We read every book we could get our hands on and searched far and wide for a solution that might help us in our struggle for some much-needed sleep. I personally had gotten to the point where I was so exhausted that I felt like giving up as a mom. When I was at my final breaking point, something amazing happened…

One day I was talking to my mom about my struggles and pretty much complaining about my lack of sleep and how hard it was to be a mom to a child who simply refuses to sleep! We have all been there with our moms right?! During this chat, she reminded me of her Fail-Proof way of getting babies to sleep with zero issues.  Her suggestion? Have a routine for the baby that works for you!  She went on to remind me not to try and implement some foreign unfamiliar tasks that I wouldn’t normally do. At this point, I was willing to try anything! And guess what?  IT WORKED! And I was FINALLY able to get some much-needed sleep!

I have used this tried and true method for all my kids since then and it has worked EVERY SINGLE TIME!

Ready to know What Bedtime Routine Worked For Us to Get the Kids to Sleep?

 

1. Take a Bath

Our son had awful eczema and allergies, so bathing was vital to our routine.  This gave us a scheduled time each day to care for his skin as well as get the wiggles out.  Because we bathed nightly, I bought some good bath toys that have lasted for 4 kiddos. Make bath time fun by giving them toys to play with like these cute little boats or some caterpillar stacking cups.  I also love to add my favorite baby bubble bath.  It’s always fun to hear those baby giggles!

2. Get a Fresh Diaper and Jammies

I don’t know too many kids who like getting dressed or putting new diapers on, but my husband and I made this fun! We would sing bedtime songs and give our son some extra special attention with conversation during this time.  As we lotioned him up we would implement baby massage to try and soothe him.

3. Read Books

We would always read a book or two as well.  All kids, even babies love to read and look at the bright colors of books. Our son always tried to grab the book, so we would always give him a different one to chew on. We would always read the same books in order to convey consistency and we would only read these particular books when it was bedtime. We called them “bedtime books.”

Some of our favorite books we would read at bedtime included Goodnight Gorilla, Spot Goes to the Library, Whose Baby Am I? and Brown Bear Brown Bear.

4. Cuddle and Feed

Once we got our son all settled, I would sit down with him in the rocking chair. I would cuddle and nurse him. Once he was sleepy but still awake, I would move him into his crib. He would get his pacifier and get zipped into a sleep sack. After he was all tucked in I would say goodnight to him.

I noticed with each one of my kids they all loved different comfort items. My oldest really loved his binkie and our daughter loved a stuffed animal. With our third, he loved a taggie, and we are still trying to figure out what our youngest likes, any ideas? Finding the right comfort item for your child is key to a successful restful night!

5. Sound Machine

Once he was all settled, I would gradually turn the sound soother on up to a volume that blocked out other noise and kept his bedroom quiet. We discovered that he had been restless and startled awake often because of random noises. Having a sound machine was a complete game changer for us and it helped him get into a deeper sleep much faster!

And there you have it! 5 Easy Steps for a normal routine without all of the crazy frills, so that you and your baby can start sleeping again!

~Written by Shiree.

We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.

Like what you read? Share with others on Pinterest!

5-steps-to-a-blissful-baby-bedtime-routine (1)

 

5-fail-proof-tips-for-baby's-betime-routine (1)

 

five-things-you-need-to-know-when-it-comes-to-bedtime-for-babies

 

struggling-to-get-your-baby-to-sleep
baby, Mom Life

How to Successfully Breastfeed Your Baby

This post contains affiliate links

As a new mom, breastfeeding can be a challenge! I remember after my first week of breastfeeding being in so much pain and wanting to die! I remember thinking to myself, “Just do it for one more day.” “Just one more day.” The thoughts of one more day turned into, “I can do this for one more week.” These thoughts were finally replaced with, “I can do this until he turns 1!”

So How Did I get to the Point where I Knew I could nurse him for a whole year? I got smart on How to Nurse and What Supplies I Needed to Make that Successful!

How to Breastfeed

Skin to Skin

Getting a good start is really the key to breastfeeding successfully.  With each of my children, my experience was a little bit different, but I can tell you that I had each one of my babies skin-to-skin with me as much as possible in the beginning.

Latch

It may seem like everyone talks about latching all the time when it comes to breastfeeding, but it truly is the cornerstone of being able to actually breastfeed a baby successfully. Having the right latch helps prevent problems in the future as well.

Try to get baby to open their mouth as wide as possible

Infants have itty bitty mouths, but I try to get my babies to imitate me by opening my mouth really wide as I’m getting ready to feed them.

Breast Sandwich

It may sound funny, but it does help.  Try compressing your breast to fit as much of the boob into their mouth as possible. Make sure you make your breast parallel to your baby’s lips.  It’s also helpful to remember to have the baby latch with their lower jaw as you are guiding your breast into their mouth. I remember it chin to chest and nose to nipple.

Lips

Be sure your baby has a flared latch!  Trust me! It reduces a lot of pain if you can be sure to help baby with this as much as possible. My number one tip to do this is to have the baby latch and then slide your finger in the side of their mouth to fix each lip. I always do the bottom first and the top usually follows suit. This brings more of the breast into their mouth.

Nursing Positions

There are several different nursing positions that you can try. Finding the right position for you and baby will be key to nursing success! Some of the most popular are the cradle hold, football, and side lying.

Cradle Hold

The cradle hold is what you see a lot of moms use. This is when your baby rests their head on your elbow on the side you are nursing on. You typically will support their back with your opposite hand.

Football Hold

The football hold is popular if you have a c-section because the baby does not go across your stomach. It also works well for women with large breasts. Small/ premature babies are very successful in this position. You will hold your baby facing you with their legs going under your arm. Support their head with the hand on the side you are nursing on.

Side-Lying

One of my favorite positions is side-lying. This is when you and your baby lie down on your sides tummy to tummy with your baby. Use your hand to direct your baby’s head to your breast and the other hand to hold the breast steady. This is a great position at night for tired moms!

For more tips on nursing positions click here.

Sore Nipples

I’ll admit to you that having sore nipples is really inevitable but it doesn’t have to be unbearable. Your nipples have to build up a tolerance to nursing. Once you build that tolerance your nippled will not be sore. A good nipple cream will be super helpful!  

Supplies Any Nursing Mom Needs to Make Life Easy

There are countless lists out there of what Breastfeeding Moms need when they have a new baby,

Part of getting some good things going while breastfeeding a baby is having a comfortable position.  My Boppy pillow has been my favorite thing by far. Nursing pads are a must, especially in the beginning. Your milk will start to come in and engorgement sets in causing leaking. Keeping clean, dry nipples really helps keep them from getting chapped. Nipple cream really helps seal out the moisture. It also helps so much with getting some relief from nursing!  I like to keep mine handy and lather it on really thick. Having a good breast pump has saved me so many times. There are times when the baby doesn’t feel like eating or sleeps for a bit longer than usual and you get really full! And then when you pump you don’t want to waste your precious “liquid gold”, so breast milk storage bags make it so you can save every drop. My babies are always spitting up, especially when their tummies are learning how to digest.  And they always spit up when you least expect it! Having several good quality burp cloths all over the house has helped me so much! Finally, you need to find a Nursing bra that offers great support during the day and at night!

With these tips and tricks, you will be on your way to breastfeeding success!

Is your baby becoming distracted while nursing? Maybe you are making the Number 1 Biggest Nursing Mistake?

We are a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for us to earn fees by linking to Amazon.com and affiliated sites.

 

how-to-be-successful-at-breastfeeding

 

breastfeeding-made-easy

 

how-to-be-successful-at-breastfeeding (1)
Family, Kids

What Will Summer Have In Store For Your Family This Year?

*This is a collaboration post

travel-summer
Although we’re firmly in the middle of spring, it seems that summer is just around the corner. Spring break may only just have ended, but before long, you’ll find that you’ll be looking at the summer break. When it’s been a long winter, and you’re looking forward to a bit of respite, there’s nothing quite like planning out your summer for the family. But if you find yourself sticking to the same kinds of routine each year, you might like to think about shaking things up and doing something different. At the same time, waiting until the summer break starts to plan out your time might mean that you’re a little rushed and lacking in inspiration. So to help you think ahead, here are some ideas for your family to enjoy this year.

Vacation

First of all, you’ve always got the idea of heading out on vacation. Because most families are going to want to enjoy some time away and a bit of a break over the summer. But don’t just decide on this last minute, why not do a little research and book something a bit different now? Instead of heading to your usual lakeside cabin, why not head to a beach across the country, or even fly out to Europe? Then, you get to change the pace a little.

summer-plans

A Road Trip

Next, you might like to think about heading out on a road trip. This can often be a lot of fun for your family if you have family across the country that you want to visit. Load up the car and take the scenic route. Not only will this mean that you get to have a lot of fun as a family, but also that you’re able to enjoy a bit of a vacation along the way too.

Camp

However, if you know that you’re going to be really busy and you won’t be able to take the entire summer off of work (if only), finding a great day camp could be a lot of fun for your kids. With the right program, like fitnessbythesea.com, you won’t have to worry about being at work. And the best part is, your kids will probably have much more fun doing activities and making new friends anyway. They’ll have a blast.

camping

Summer School

If your kids are a little older, they may also be interested in summer school abroad. When they’re focused on a set career or they want to boost their college applications, doing something like this shortcoursesportal.com could be perfect for them. If you want to make sure they get the most out of their summer, this could be it.

Educational Trips

And finally, if you do get some time to do things as a family or if you are a stay at home mom, then why not think about the different cool places that you could all visit together. By heading out on educational trips, you’re not only thinking of their education, but you’ll all have a lot of fun too.

family-travel

 

 

Kids, Mom Life, parenting, Uncategorized

I Screw Up as a Mom!

Life UnEdited #8

The other day I was driving in the car just thinking. I was thinking about all the times I had screwed up that day. That morning I accidentally overslept and Chase woke me up, telling me it was time to get up so that he could get on the bus on time. Then there was when I forgot to put the laundry soap in the washing machine. This leads me to have to do ANOTHER load of laundry. The best was when I THOUGHT I could leave TJ in the living room for 5 seconds… Boy was I wrong! I found him chewing on Talie’s training potty (BLAH!)

I screw up EVERY SINGLE DAY, A LOT! Do you?

I have always felt guilty for all these screw ups, I think it is only normal, but as I drove something happened. I actually started to be THANKFUL for every time I had screwed up.

I am thankful Chase was responsible and got out of bed and loved me enough to come check on me. I am thankful I have a washing machine to help me do the endless amounts of laundry. I am thankful that I have fewer diapers to change and my living room is the “pee station” for Talie.

It is so easy for us to always feel guilty for all the things we don’t get right, but why do we do this? Why do we make ourselves feel so guilty for the mistakes we make? EVERYBODY screws up, and we forgive EVERYBODY else, but yet we have such a hard time forgiving ourselves!

Let’s make it a goal this week to forgive ourselves for our screwups and be thankful for the life lessons we learn from our mistakes!

 

 

 

Wandering Wednesday

Wandering Wednesday #31

Wandering-Wednesday-Link-up

Welcome!

It’s Wednesday, which means it’s time for Wandering Wednesday! Thank you so much for joining us again this week! We are so glad you are here! We are looking forward to all your Family-friendly blog posts, which include home and family tips. Craft ideas, and recipes!

Be sure to scroll down to the links and enjoy the party! Also, don’t forget to vote for your favorite posts this week! Either vote in the comments or when voting opens Thursday morning!

  • We pin ALL posts to our  Wandering Wednesday Board on Pinterest! Be sure to follow the board and REPIN your FAVORITE Posts from this week to your boards!
  • Featured posts will be included in a SPECIAL GRAPHIC with their pins advertising Wandering Wednesday for even more exposure!
  • Next week we will share our favorite post and you can vote for yours on the individual thumbnail in the linkup after 8 am on Thursday.  Just look for the heart in the upper right-hand corner. You can also vote for your favorite in the comments below! The three posts with the most clicks will also get an honorable mention.

Here are “Our Favorite Picks” from last week!

Michele’s Favorite Pick!

Being a parent is an endless task and there is so much that goes into it each and every day!  I had been discussing with my husband how we needed to be more intentional in our parenting, and what do you know?  Ashley from Navigating the Years posts about how to do that very thing.  I chose to focus on monitoring my response to my children’s actions, but there were so many other great points that she references from the book Conscious Discipline, which is now on my reading list for the year. Hop on over and read her post How My Parenting Changed with Conscious Discipline.

CDPin

Lori’s Favorite Pick!

What NO CHORES! How can a mom survive without putting her littles to work as her slaves? Better yet, how do you teach them any kind of responsibility without the daily or weekly job? Those were my thoughts when I saw Moments for Morale’s post Why My Kids Don’t Do Chores. How on earth does she do it? Well, it is really about using words that promote a more positive feeling in our homes. I love her ideas and proactive approach to making sure her kids still learn responsibility while under the label of a more positive name.

momentsformorale.com-1

Viewer’s Favorite

The viewers favorite this week was My Worst Day of Motherhood from The Wit Logs.

DSC_8504-8x12-1

Most Clicks This Week Goes To:

The Best Educational Toys For Toddlers And Preschoolers by Fab Working Mom Life

Elephant Toothpaste: An Easy at Home Explosion by Team Cartwright

How to Never Lost Your Kid on the Playground with Ikiki by Mommy in Flats

 

Do you LOVE Wandering Wednesday? Pin this to your boards!

link-up

Thank you so much for everyone’s entries and we can’t wait to read your posts this week!

Enjoy this week’s Wandering Wednesday!  Don’t forget to vote for your favorite post this week in the comments below.  See you next week!

So Now on to the party!

Click here to see the awesome blog posts!

If you still need our new widget codes click here

Add Your Favorite Post Here!

Party hours start Wednesdays at 8 am (CT) and close at 8 am the next day don’t miss out!

If you are looking for other link ups to join click here. Also, if you are wondering why linking up is so awesome or how to do it, click here!

Wandering Wednesday Rules

  1. Link to a specific post, not your homepage

  2. Don’t advertise, do giveaways, link parties, or links to your shops

  3. We are all stars on Wandering Wednesdays, so no more than one post per week.

  4. Make sure to check out and comment on at least two other links before leaving

  5. By entering a link you are giving me permission to feature an image on my blog, it will always link back to your blog.

  6. Follow Confessions of Parenting  Facebook/ Twitter/ Instagram/ Pinterest and Choosing Wisdom Facebook/ Pinterest/ Instagram/ Twitter/ LinkedIn.

This link party is for family-friendly articles, that relate to parenting, marriage, recipes, DIYs, recipes, and anything that has to do with the home!

Please share our LinkUP on Social Media use #WanderingWednesday. Tag me on Twitter @family_journeys @ChoosingWisdom in your posts and I will retweet as time allows in my day!

We reserve the right to remove any link, not in compliance with the rules.

~Signed Michele @ Confessions of Parenting and Lori @ Choosing Wisdom

If you want to be sent a reminder each week when Wandering Wednesday opens, subscribe here. You will only receive Wandering Wednesday notifications by signing up here. Be sure to add us to your address book so it doesn’t accidentally go to your “junk folder”

Subscribe to our mailing list

* indicates required



*This post has affiliate links. To learn more please see our disclosure.

Kids, parenting

How to Prepare Your Family For Tornado Season

Do you know what to do during tornado season?

Last night was family date night, which included a trip to the bookstore and dinner. As we were in the bookstore looking around all of a sudden we heard it start to rain hard! It poured for a good five minutes. When the rain stopped (because you don’t run to the car in a Texas Rainstorm unless you have too) we checked out and headed outside. As we walked outside it was muggy and 80 degrees. It was gross, to say the least.

We got in the car and drove to dinner. The restaurant seemed a little crowded, so we dropped Ty off at the door to put our name down. The kids and I parked the car and started to get out. It was noticeably at least 10 degrees cooler than it was 10 minutes ago. The restaurant was an hour wait, so we decided to go someplace else.

Upon arriving at the next restaurant we got out. It had dropped another 10 degrees in a matter of 5 minutes. My husband looked up and then he saw the clouds spinning above us.

Yes! It was the start of a Tornado!

We went into the restaurant to eat dinner. As soon as we sat down the tornado alarms started going off throughout the town and then the lights started flickering… Outside it sounded like a train was right there.

Welcome to Tornado Season!

Our family stayed cam and ate dinner, but many families were panicked! So why did we stay calm and others panicked?

Because we had taught our Kids what to look for and how to be prepared for Tornadoes!

So What Do You Do to Teach Your Kids about Tornados and

How Do You Keep Your Family Safe?

Preparing Ahead of Time

There are things that you can do to prepare for a tornado before you are in danger. In fact, these things you need to do to help keep your family safe!

As my Family learned in 2015, in Texas with the Rowlett Tornado, you can prepare, but this doesn’t 100% protect you. Being Prepared helps you stay calm and prepare for the worst.

how-to-prepare-for-tornados

Develop a Plan

Tornadoes can be scary. In a moments notice a funnel can begin and does not give your family time to prepare. This is why you need to have a plan already in place so you can act in a moment’s notice.

Your plan should lay out exactly what each member of the family should do as soon as the tornado alarms go off. It needs to include where each member of the family will go. Develop a plan for each member of the family to have a buddy to get where they need to go.

Find A Shelter Within Your Home

When finding a tornado shelter you want it to be in the center of your home. You don’t want it to include any outside walls or windows. We use the pantry because it is the very center of our house. We all don’t fit there, so there is one closet and few sturdy nooks we also use.

Make a Checklist

Make a checklist of the things you Need to Grab on the way to your shelter. This way in the heat of the moment you don’t forget things like cell phone chargers, cash, purse, shoes for each member of the family, important documents, etc.

Talking about tornado safety with the kids ahead of time is a key to success so that they are not as scared when the alarms go off.

Have 72-Hour Kits Ready

Have 72-hour kits ready to go to your shelter with you. A 72-hour kit is a kit that you have ready and available with supplies and food for each member of your family. This includes flashlights, batteries, diapers, medication, etc. Anything each member of the family needs to survive for three days. Backpacks work great to hold your supplies. These kits will go into your shelter with you that way if you get stuck in your shelter you have the things you need. If you will also take these kits with you should you need to evacuate to a different shelter.

Have the Car Ready

If you are like me, there are many times where you are low on gas. During tornado season always have at least a half a tank of gas in case you need to drive somewhere quickly without stopping. As well as gas in the tank, have first aid kit ready in the car.

Practice Tornado Drills With the Kids

I remember the Rowlett tornado. It was my first tornado experience. I was so unprepared. I was running around trying to get everything ready and make sure everyone was where they needed to be.

It is important to practice tornado drills with the kids in a variety of situations. Know the school’s tornado plan. Talk about what to do if your kids are at a friend’s house when the tornado strikes. What will your kids do if you are running errands and they are at home? Where will you go if you are not home? All these things need to be talked about.

Practice the plan you put in place. Pretend the tornado alarm is going off when the kids least expect it. How do they react? Do they remember to grab their buddy? Did you remember the 72-hour kits? How long did it take each member of the family to get there? Make sure everyone can get to the shelter quickly!

Watch the Skies

When the weather is changing be aware of the skies. Be aware if the clouds are starting to turn. Don’t wait for you to really know that a tornado is here. Start to recognize what bad weather looks like. When the skies start to change, start watching for weather alerts on your phone, on the TV or listening for them on the radio. Keep your cell phones with you and be sure to charge them.

Once the Alarm Sounds

When the alarm sounds go to your pre-designated tornado shelter quickly!

Take the Warning Seriously

The first time we ever were under tornado warnings my husband went outside with one of our kids and watched the storm brewing for a bit. I do not recommend this! Do not ignore the warnings they are there for a reason. Get to your shelter quickly!

Communications

Once in your shelter listen through your phones or weather radio for news as to what is happening. Be sure to have a weather radio just in case you lose power or internet connection. Once you are in your shelter, be sure to let your family know that you are out of the storm and safe in your shelter. Continue to keep in contact with them throughout the storm.

Flashlights

Keep flashlights in your shelter that way if the power goes out you will be able to see. We keep flashlights in each bedroom and several in our tornado shelter. You want to be prepared in case you need to be in your shelter without power for several days.

Stay Calm

It is our job as parents to stay calm. This is a scary time for you, but especially for your kids. Sing songs with them, play games. Help them not think about what is happening. The calmer you are the calmer they will be.

After the Storm

Have a plan as to what you will do after the storm hits. This can be an emotional time for your family depending on the damage that has just occurred. It is highly possible that communication will be at a minimum because of downed telephone poles. There will probably lots of traffic trying to get people where they are trying to go. Debris and rubble could be all over the roads.

If your kids are not with you when the storm hits, it is important that they know that you will get them as soon as you can.

They will know this because you would have already have talked about it in preparing for the storm.

If you are stuck because of the storm, rest easy that rescue crews are on their way to help you! Remind the kids that help is coming. So sit tight and wait for them. Don’t try to get it out if you can’t.

Check for Injuries

Check with each member of the family and make sure they are okay. Does anyone need medical attention? Handle small wounds with your first aid kit. Other injuries might need medical attention.

When Leaving Your Shelter

When leaving your shelter, be careful! There can be debris all around you. Your home’s structure might not be sound any longer. There could be loose boards, broken glass, and nails. Safely get your family out.

Tornadoes can be scary. You can never be too prepared for the storm. Practice your plan with the kids a few times a year. Take each warning seriously and stay safe!

Help others prepare by sharing this!

how-to-prepare-your-family-for-tornado-season

prepare-for-the-next-tornado

 

get-prepared-for-the-next-tornado
tornado-tips-to-prepare-for-the-next-storm
Kids, Mom Life, parenting

How to Recognize Over the Counter Drug Abuse in Teens

One of my very dear friends is so strong and so amazing. She is going through something so difficult right now with her son, Over the counter drug abuse, but wants to share it with all of us because if it helps just one other person her joy will be so full… This is raw and this is real, about the struggles of having a teen addicted to drugs. Please be supportive in your comments to her for sharing her struggle that they are currently going through.

My Nightmare: Dealing with a Teenager’s Over-the-Counter Drug Addiction

About a year ago, I decided to be a loving mother and clean my 15-year-old son’s room for him.  To be honest, I was tired of looking at it and for once wanted my entire house to be clean. I quickly started picking up trash such as sandwich size empty Ziploc bags pieces of straws, and dirty spoons that had a weird “sugar residue” on it. As I was picking up I thought how disgusting all this was.  

The week passed by, and I found myself heading into his room again the following week to clean it because obviously, he had forgotten those great life skills such as cleaning that I taught him before he became a teenager. As I cleaned his room I again found the same things, Ziploc bags, spoons, and pieces of straws. I again threw them all away kind of questioning the situation a little bit more this time. I continued to clean his room for the next few weeks, each time finding the same items, each time throwing them away, and each time being a little more confused as to how they appeared again.

Then it happened….Finding the Drug Supplies

One day I saw, my son came out of the bathroom with a weird look on his face. I knew right away something was wrong. As he staggered into his bedroom I went to retrieve his backpack.I found the same items, but also found an empty bottle of over-the-counter pills, a razor blade, and a lighter.  My worst fears have come true my son was abusing over-the-counter medication and the items I was finding in his room were signs this has been going on for some time.

I admit that my first reaction was not fear for his life but it was anger, anger that he could bring this into my home and expose his younger brother to drugs. They shared the same room, the room I was finding all these things in!

I knew that I would have to be in control of my emotions before I approached him concerning this issue, and I had time to cool off and figure out what was happening because it was going to take a few hours before the “high” he was experiencing wore off.

At that moment, I took the time to educate myself.  I mean let’s be honest, I was in shock! I never had to deal with this before, and I had always prayed that I would never have too!I mean I thought this would have been avoided after all the conversations we had about the dangers of drugs when they were younger.  

Yet, this is the road he chose…

I was forced to walk down the path of parenting a teen addicted to prescription drugs.

It scared me!

How Do You Talk to Your Teen Who is Addicted to Drugs and How Do You Get Through It?

1.Gather Evidence

I have learned through many conversations with other parents who have dealt with this type of situation that evidence is everything. Without evidence, your child will deny everything you have to say.  I personally have found out even with having evidence, he tries to deny his actions. My son has even gone so far to blame his younger brother.

Below is a list of items teenagers will use to hide or consume drugs. The most common places to find these items are in their backpacks, jacket pockets, or drawers under their clothes.  

What to Look for when you Suspect Your Child is Using Drugs:

  •     Plastic baggies (like the Ziploc bags I kept finding)
  •     Lighter
  •     Cigarette remains
  •     Small glass vials
  •     Pill bottles
  •     Candy or gum wrappers
  •     Razor blade (single edge)
  •     Straws (usually cut into smaller sections)
  •     Broken pen (only the tube case will usually be found)
  •     Empty water bottles

You will also see a change in their appearance.  I am not talking about changing from dressing like a jock to a more gothic look. What I noticed in my son was a physical change like bloodshot eyes, flushed cheeks, high energy but unable to concentrate or sit still, unusual smell on his clothing, and he chewed gum or mints more often than before.  

He also became extremely secretive about everything in his life.

Teenage drug abuse is a real problem. In 2015 the following was reported concerning high school seniors: 58% of used alcohol, 36% used marijuana, and 12.9% abused prescription drugs.  

My son is currently a Freshman. His odds are not great if he continues down this path.

2. Remember before talking with your teenager: Be United as Parents

Talk to your teen together.  Make sure you are both on the same page on drug and alcohol use before raising the subject with your teen. Even if you disagree, commit to present as a united front. This way you are not trying to figure it out in front of him and he knows that both of you are serious about drug use And remember, before approaching your teen, remind each other to come from a place of love.

I know it is hard to love someone who lies, cheats, and steals from you. I know It hurts! It makes you mad that the one person who you have dedicated the last 15 years of your life raising has treated you with disdain and called you nasty vial names.  I know It is so hard to love them when you have to stop feeling anything so you wouldn’t hate them. Love doesn’t conquer all, but if you really want to help them, they have to know you love them and you do this by showing them an increase in love even though this is so difficult, I know because I am right there with you!

You may hate what they are doing, but you love them enough to go through hell to get them back.  And that is what you need to prepare for. This is why you need the support of your spouse.

I have cried so many times but I am thankful for my husband, his strength and how we are working together to help our son.  It is comforting to know I am not alone. If you are a single parent, I urge you get get a support system in place. This will give you the strength you need to endure.

3. Expect Anger: Resolve to Remain Calm

You need to think about how you are going to react so you can be prepared for the worst.

Be prepared for your teen to say things to shock you, watch them deny even the most convincing evidence, accuse you of distrust, and then imagine even worse because it will probably happen.

Personally, I could not believe what came out of my son’s mouth.  We raised our children in a loving home. We go to church every Sunday, I am a stay at home mom, I homeschooled him since second grade (because of problems he was having in school), and did weekly family activities.

After the first conversation, I was in shock. I honestly had no idea my son could be so cruel.  With many conversations behind us, I know how hurtful my precious little boy can be. I have learned to put up a wall when we are talking so the darts of his venom do not penetrate until later when I am alone and allow the wall to come down, it’s the only way I can stay calm through conversations with him.

4. Be Prepared to be Bullied

I have learned that my teenager will grab at anything to call me a hypocrite.  To tell me I am a liar. He will push every button to get me to become an emotional wreck.  I have learned to stay strong when the words pierce my heart and cry when my house is empty.

Remember the point is not to allow your response to become a justification for your teen’s drug use. Keep the focus on the issue at hand – your teenager’s decision to use drugs, regardless that they are over-the-counter medications or illegal drugs, abusing drugs is dangerous.

5. Stay Strong: Spell Out Rules and Consequences

We are now in what I consider the final stage of communication with our son.  My husband and I have spelled out the rules and consequences.

When I say final stage, that does not mean we have stopped listening or are unwilling to work with our teenager if he is willing to change his behavior, but if there is no progress we need to make sure that he understands how life will be.  

This step helps clarify the point of your conversation.  Remember, you need to help him understand that you are trying to help him.  

He won’t believe you.  So make sure to say it multiple times as you talk.  

Remember to not set rules you will have no way of enforcing.  

My husband has to travel during the week so I am left to enforce consequences while he is gone.  With that in mind, we set rules and consequences that I can enforce. My relationship is different with my son than my husband’s.  So, trying to enforce yard work doesn’t work when it is just me. Therefore we look at other options such as taking away screens (tv, cell phones, gaming systems, etc), things I can do.  I stopped enforcing dishes after he broke too many. Remember, this does not make one spouse better than the other but allows each one to support the other in uniques situations such as ours.

What Are The Options for Help

There are teen boot camps or summer camps that are available to help at-risk youth. I have not contacted them because our son’s counselor recommended a local organization if things did not improve.  Local organizations don’t allow children with drug addictions.  The only local option we had was to enroll our son in a drug rehabilitation program.  When we called them, we were told that over-the-counter drug abuse was not “real drug abuse” and to find our son counseling (which he is already in) or wait until he was on illegal drugs and give them a call back (they don’t know how to detox what my son is taking). Since our local options are looking dim, my husband and I have talked about the other boot camps or summer camps available.

The is a Light at the End of the Tunnel

I have been dealing with this issue for over a year.

Over a year!

A year of anger.

Of stress.

Fervent prayers.

Over a year of not knowing what is next.  

Having a teenager who has decided to experiment with drugs is an emotional rollercoaster. When teenagers have an addiction to drugs it hurts everyone in the family; It’s like you’re living in your own personal hell. Over-the-Counter drug abuse is no different than street drugs on the addiction side of things. Over the counter, drug use is a gateway drug to harder drug use. I don’t even want to think about what will happen if he gets to that point in his life.

Taking the steps to prepare yourself, working together with your spouse as a team, and talking with your teenager will help open the pathway for help and hopefully will stop the behavior.

One thing I do know is that things get so much worse before they get better, but hold on, The Light Will Come. I know it is hard, you are not alone and your teenager needs you, he needs your support, and your love to overcome his addiction. I know it is hard, but I promise helping them through it is worth it!  

Was This Article Helpful? Share With Others.

what-to-expect-when-you-discover-your-teens-addiction
how-to-handle-your-teens-over-the-counter-drug-addiction
signs-of-teen-over-the-counter-drug-abuse
what-every-parent-needs-to-know-about-teen-drug-abuse

 

how-to-recognize-over-the-counter-drugs-in-teens