An Open Letter To My Husband After Our Baby

Last Updated on October 4, 2023 by Michele Tripple

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An Open Letter to My Husband After Our Baby…Please continue to love me even when I push you away. My love for you grows each and every day.

An Open Letter to My Husband

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I promise it’s NOT you… It’s me…

You see it goes like this… All day and all night I am touched. My body is not my own right now.

It seems our 4-month-old is always latched on or attached to me somehow and our two-year-old waddles behind me all day touching my bum and wanting me to pick her up.

By the end of the day, I have been spit-up on, barfed on, drooled on, had snot wiped on me, worn a little breakfast on my sleeve, and now am covered in dinner because someone was “helping me.”

All without a shower because my morning routine for moms went out the window after being woken up 6 times in the middle of the night.

I have been pulled on, dragged by the hand to turn on the TV, laid on, and slept on since the moment I woke up this morning.

I don’t remember the last time I actually felt pretty… because who feels pretty when they are pregnant? And then after a baby, you just feel fat because nothing fits quite right.

On top of that who has time to paint their nails, or shave their legs, or put on makeup or do their hair? Certainly not me…

I Just Don’t Have it in Me

By the end of the LONG day of taking care of kids, the last thing I want is to be breathed on, touched, or laid on because I have been touched all day.

My body is currently not mine. It is shrinking back to normal size as well as fulfilling the purpose of feeding our child.

Every morning when I wake up I make the decision that today is going to be the day when I show you all the affection in the world when you get home from work and I can show you just how much I love you.

But then reality hits, and the last thing I want to do is show any more affection or stay up even one minute later after the kids go to bed because I am tired, mentally and physically.

Please Be Patient

So I ask you to please just be patient with me.

Please continue to love me even when I push you away.

Take me on dates even though at first I complain that I have to put on real clothes. Keep kissing me even though I turn my cheek the other way. Continue to grab my hand when you want me to hold yours…

Help me make our marriage a priority with kids and spice up the bedroom again, even if I push you away.

My Promise to You

I promise I want you to touch me and snuggle with me in bed and hear all about your day. My love for you grows each and every day, even though I might not always say it or show it. My world would be incomplete without you in it.

I promise I miss you when you are gone and can’t wait for you to come home each day. One day I will be back to wanting to be touched, wanting to hold your hand, and wanting to be constantly kissed by you.

I promise I love you more every day, and one day when I feel like myself again I will show it. So in the meantime please know that I love you more than anything and just be patient with me.



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23 thoughts on “An Open Letter To My Husband After Our Baby”

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  2. This right here! Everything I feel everyday. I love my husband more than words, but by the end of the day I just want to hid by myself and not interact with one more person.

  3. Beautifully worded post. I know that feeling, where you just crave personal space and some alone, quiet time, despite loving your husband and child to bits. Another of those strange motherhood dilemmas…

  4. Thanks so much for sharing this! I definitely get ‘touched out’ by the end of most days! The most romantic thing my husband can do is to keep the TODDLER’S hands and feet and body off of me for an hour. I always feel so refreshed!

  5. This is such a heartfelt letter! I completely understand the feeling and wish that many other people could understand the real struggle of Motherhood more. Thanks so much for sharing this and being the voice for so many of us. Wishing you the best in everything!

  6. The hardest part of being a new mom is achieving balance. It is hard when you are so needed by such young children. I have been there. Great post Michele!

  7. I think so many of us moms can fully relate to this! We recently had our first weekend away with just the two of us and it did wonders for our relationship because there was no spit-up, dirty diapers, and tugging involved! It is important to keep fueling our marriages and it is easy to put it on the backburner. Thanks for sharing!

  8. This is so well written it’s most if what I want to say but can’t really express them as accurately as you did. thanks for sharing.

  9. Oh my goodness, I feel like you took the words out of my mouth! Sometimes I wonder if I will ever not feel overwhelmed or touched out again?!? Will I ever be able to focus on our relationship as man and wife? Or will I always just feel like I’m passing the baton to a roommate at the end of a long day with our kids? I know it will though. I have sparks of my old self come through and there is no love like that of seeing your husband holding his newest offspring for the first time. Hugs. We’ll all make it through- I hope ❤️❤️❤️ <3 Jamie

    • This to shall pass right? 🙂 there is a time and a season. I’m so glad I’m not the only one feeling this way right now. 🙂 we can get through this together!

  10. This is the perfect description of what moms of littles feel like. Every. Single. Day. I think new dads could really see where moms are coming from if they read this. Great post.


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