Getting a toddler to stay in their own bed can be difficult! Does your toddler keep getting out of bed in the middle of the night? We tried many different techniques before we found one that worked. These tips can help you!
How to Get Kids to Stay in Their Bed
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Our daughter was the most amazing sleeper while in a crib. She would fall asleep without even a peep and sleep through the night. Her naps consisted of three hours of “me time” (me time= dishes, laundry, cleaning toilets, etc) because everyone else was gone.
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How to Keep Toddler in Bed When Transitioning From the Crib
When she was a little older than 1 we got pregnant with our last baby and knew we would need to move her out of the crib. At 21 months we moved her to a “big girl” bed and everything changed! She was no longer taking good naps. Bedtime became a three ring circus trying to get her to fall asleep. She was waking up with every sound, and she now was wandering into our room at all hours of the night to sleep with us.
Being hugely pregnant, I didn’t have the time or the energy to continue the bedtime fight for who knows how long, so we tried everything and I mean EVERYTHING to get Talie, my toddler, to stay in her own bed!
After 2 months we finally found the perfect bedtime routine that keeps her in her bed through the whole night 95% of the time!
How to Get Your Toddler to Stay in Their Own Bed
Before sleep training and keeping your toddler in their own bed, you need to think of your child’s sleep schedule. Is your toddler waking up at night? Toddlers that take naps will naturally stay up later than those that don’t because they aren’t as tired. Make sure to allow at least 5 hours of playtime after they wake up from their nap. So on those “late nap” days that we all hate, it means you will probably have a little one bouncing around the house still at 10 pm.
Be Consistent with Your Toddler’s Bedtime Routine
Be sure you stay consistent with the same routine for getting into bed.
This is what works for us:
Talie always says goodnight to everyone before she heads to her room. Then she and I head in there. I put her pillows on the floor, pull back her blankets, she climbs in and then I hand her each stuffed animal one at a time, with their correct name, Pink bear, dog sheep, super dog, and Minnie.
I push her hair off her face because it is usually everywhere and I kiss her good night. She kisses me and I tell her I love her, which then leads, I love you more, I love you most, I love you right up to the moon. After that, I kiss her again and remind her that she is a big girl and she is going to sleep in her bed all night and we will see each other in the morning.
I sing her one song! I then kiss her one more time and tell her goodnight and as I am a little bit away from her room she will sit up and say, “I love you, mom. Goodnight!” Of course, I say it back and that is the end!
In the morning I praise her for being such a BIG GIRL for sleeping in her bed and tell her what a good job she did.
This is our routine now and it works! It didn’t always work that well though.
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How We Got to What Works Now to Get Your Toddler to Stay in Their Own Bed
What We Thought Would Work to Keep Our Toddler in Their Own Bed
I remember when we first were sleep training Talie we would go into her room to tuck her in. We were a little inconsistent with things and, like I said, we tried everything! Every time we laid her down and would walk out she would run out behind us crying and screaming.
This is what we did at that point:
We would carry her back in coddling her and loving her telling her it was going to be okay and that she needed to sleep.
Once we were in there we would sing her additional songs, which then would have her chasing after us for more songs.
We would lay with her as she poked us in the eye, played with our hair, stuck her fingers in our mouth while we (more my husband) slept and she entertained herself until she was exhausted and fell asleep.
ALL OF THESE METHODS FOR KEEPING OUR TODDLER IN HER OWN BED WERE EPIC FAILS!
What Worked To Keep Our Toddler From Getting Out of Bed
We had a consistent routine when we were in Talie’s room. She knew what to expect. She looked forward to each part of this routine. After we said goodnight and left that was it.
At first, Talie would get up A LOT!
The first time that she got up we picked her up gave her a kiss and told her it was time to sleep and that was it. We carried her back to her bed and laid her down with nothing else said.
She begged and pleaded for another song and a hug, but we said nothing and did nothing. She, of course, started crying.
We walked out. It is crushing as a parent to do this, I get it… I have been there, but the extra hugs and songs after the initial tuck in defeat the whole purpose of getting them to stay in bed. When you do the extra stuff, you are establishing the idea that if they get up you will come in and give them the attention they want.
At this point, every child, of course, will chase after you. This is where you need to stay STRONG!
You will simply pick them up, no hugs, no kisses, no words and put them back in their bed.
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You will do this until they stay in their bed. It might take an hour the first night, but the point is to be consistent. Do not, I repeat, DO NOT just give in after 15 minutes say that it is not working and lay down with them because. If you do that, you have now just established with your toddler that they can follow you out for 15 minutes and then you will give them exactly what they want when it is bedtime.
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Additional Tips to Get Your Toddler to Stay in Their Own Bed
Nightlight: Sometimes a nightlight can really help toddlers feel safe. Think about it, they are in a big room with “noises” all by themselves. We didn’t realize at first (because Talie couldn’t communicate that well with us) that she was afraid of the dark. She would say it was scary. We bought a nightlight and put one in her room and one in the hall. Bedtime became a lot smoother once we did this.
Be Consistent: Have a consistent sleep training routine. Do the same thing for your toddler bedtime routine. Toddlers thrive on consistency. When you give them that the world is a better place in their eyes. If mom has always tucked in the toddler and dad is going to do it tonight, make sure dad has the same routine or the whole night will be thrown off for your toddler.
Find Something Comforting that they Like to Sleep With: Toddlers love to feel a sense of security. Find a stuffed animal, a special blanket, or something that they like to sleep with. This allows them to feel safe while they are away from you.
Getting toddlers to stay in bed takes consistency and time. It will be a struggle to teach your toddler to stay in their own bed. In the long run, it will be beneficial for your toddler and for you and your spouse (wink, wink).
What have you found that works for you?
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Michele is a Family Life Educator. She is a mom to 5 kids and loves helping others strengthen their families! When she is not blogging she is spending time with her family and running around drinking Diet Coke trying to get everything done!