Kids, Mom Life, parenting

I’m a Yeller and I’m ready to Change!

According to my boys I’m a yeller, I tend to think I speak in a voice that they can actually hear me in over their shenaniganz. Last night though was a turning point for me, I decided that I might just be a yeller, even though I don’t want to be one!

It all started when Ty decided that we should have hot chocolate before bed. The kids of course went crazy as I was trying to get Tony ready for bed. They ran into the kitchen to make hot chocolate… Followed by the whip cream getting squirted into each other’s mouths, followed by Talie spilling her hot chocolate all over the table and me having to clean it up one handed. Then Colby brings out an Australian accent followed by talking about “Baby Jesus” from Talladega nights…  I lost it… I admit it… I yelled at them and sent them to bed…

 

Confession Time

I felt horrible for yelling, I felt sad for the night ending like that…  Were they doing anything wrong? Not really, they are just typical 13 and 11 year old boys having fun, right? And because of me the peace was gone in our home. My yelling was the one who made it go away… Me, the one who learned about all the different parenting techniques in school, but yet can’t implement any of them when they are most needed.

I confess I have always blamed them for me yelling or raising my voice (I mean if they would have listened to begin with 🙂 …), but really, it’s not them, it’s me… I am the one who needs to change. I am the one who needs to get better. I am the one that needs to have more control over my feelings. I am the one who needs to strive to have more peace in the home. I decided right then and there it was time for a change!

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What’s the Plan?

Last night I decided to not yell for one solid year! (except when appropriate: sporting events, playing outside having fun with the kids, if crisis is happening and it will save someone’s life… you know those moments.) Lao Tzu says, “A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” So I knew that the first step would be the hardest, which is why I am telling you all that I  am making the commitment to not yell for one year! There it is a step in the right direction! To being a more patient and loving mom. A step towards using those parenting techniques when I need them most!

A Journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.

Now you might be thinking, “Holy cow! What is her house like? Do they just yell all the time?” Of course we don’t. There is lots of love, lots of peace and lots of harmony, but there are those moments when we are plagued with loud voices that drive all this away. It’s at those times when I fall into Mom Funk, especially since our house has been plagued with sickness for the last 22 days and I have been sick with the flu or a double ear infection for two weeks now. It’s on those days that are too cold and windy to go outside and play so those dang little screens occupy the kids, until bedtime when they decide it is now time to get some energy out.

 

Who’s With Me?

I’ll be honest… This journey is going to be hard… I’m going to fail a few times, okay probably many many times, but I do so much better when I am surrounded by others doing things with me, so with that being said, Who wants to join me? Who wants to change? Who wants more peace in their home? Who wants to share this journey with me? You certainly don’t have to do a year, like me, but I challenge you to set a certain amount of time to make your home a No Yelling Zone and see just what happens. Will you join me on this journey?NO YELLING ZONE!.png
Together we can share stories, encourage one another, and just support one another in being better parents and bring more peace into our homes! Join the challenge today and comment on this post: “I’m in!” Let’s all offer each other encouragement and share stories along the way on our journeys to have more peaceful loving homes, so who’s with me?

With Love~

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Kids, parenting

What I Wish I’d Known as a Teenager about Dating

WHAT I WISH I'D KNOWN AS A TEENAGER-2

It’s the start of a new year! Most of us have probably made New Year’s resolutions and goals that we’d like to accomplish in 2018. But have we made any goals that involve what we plan on teaching our children?

Oftentimes we as parents get so caught up teaching our children the day to day life lessons that we forget to teach one of the bigger lessons, such as understanding what dating is and why it’s important.

When I was in High School one of the main things on my mind was if I would have any opportunities to date. Going on a date at the time meant that someone found me attractive, wanted to date me all the time, and that we would end up being boyfriend and girlfriend.

If I got asked out even once, I almost automatically assumed the boy liked me as more than “just friends”.  Isn’t this a typical mindset of High School students?! I hope so at least!

Jumping forward 10 years and going out on a date has a completely different meaning to me.

It now means spending time with someone in order to get to know them better, and to see if this is someone I would enjoy spending more time with. The guy doesn’t necessarily have to like me as more than friends or an acquaintance. What a drastic change! How did this happen?

 

5 Lessons I Wish I Knew and How we as Parents Can Teach Them

There are 5 main lessons teenagers and young adults need to understand as they start the process of maturing and interacting with people who they would like to eventually be committed to.

“A date is a planned activity that allows a young man and young woman to get to know each other. In cultures where dating is acceptable, it can help them learn and practice social skills, develop friendships, have fun, and eventually help them find a future companion.”

1.     Do I Need Someone to Complete Me/Make Me Happy?

 

The fundamental answer to this question is an absolute NO!

 

When I was a teenager I would have thoughts like, “When I get married, I will finally be happy”, or “When I get married, I will become better at organizing, be more outgoing, I’ll know how to cook better,” and the list goes on and on.

These, and other similar thoughts, are thoughts that many young people have. They look to the future for better things to come, and think once they finally happen then they will be happy. They will wait for a partner to start being the best they can be, to learn certain things, and they don’t think that they can possibly be happy now without it .

 

This thought process is perpetual, and the grass will always be greener on the other side.

 

What we need to help our children realize is that you don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend in your life to be happy. You don’t need a boyfriend/girlfriend to be in your life to accomplish your goals and dreams. You can be happy now and you don’t have to hold back to be your best self.

 

2.     Love vs. Attraction

 

We hear so often young people (teens/ young adults) say, “But mom I love him! You just don’t understand!” But honestly, do they really understand what love is?

When we hear the word “love” we usually think of the love between a male and female. There’s the kissing, the cuddling, hand holding, and eventually sex, right? However, this kind of love is not applied to everything. I mean when we say “I love you dad,” we don’t also mean that we ever have the desire to make out with him right?

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So what does love actually mean if it’s not applied to both situations?

The difference is that attraction is involved with someone around our age and not towards our parents, siblings, most friends, grandparents, etc.

Love is the deep emotional connection we have with those people who are close to us. It comes from time, hardships, patience, and service.

Attraction is what makes us crave the physical pleasure. It comes from hormones, how pretty or good looking the other person is, fun times you have with this person, kissing, cuddling, hand holding, and eventually sex.

 

Some teenagers might dispute this difference, saying love and attraction are basically the same thing. But again, when we say we love our mom or dad that doesn’t mean we want to make out with them. There IS a difference.

 

The attraction, or “twitterpation” stage, is what most of us feel in the beginning of relationships, but we should not confuse this feeling with love. Love will come with time and experience.

 

3.      “Soul Mates”

 

Many people, including teenagers, have probably thought at least once that they want to find their “soul mate.”

First of all, there is no such thing as ONE person you are supposed to marry. It’s simply a ridiculous idea that there is only one person in the entire world that you are meant to find, and thanks to Hollywood chick-flicks we ALL have this thought process (though they are fun to watch!).

There can be, however, a certain type of person you are meant to marry. But how do we teach our children what type of person they like? We teach them that they need to go on many dates to see what kind of person they are attracted to both physically and personality wise.

It’s not a bad thing to date a lot of people; in fact it is a very good thing! There is a strange notion that if you “date around” you are a player. We need to help young adults understand that going on lots of dates is a good thing. Of course in a committed relationship, dating around is wrong.

We need to help young adults understand that going on lots of dates is a good thing

It is also important to teach our children what type of person they should become starting at a young age.

Raising boys to become gentlemen is something that isn’t as popular as it used to be, but boys who know how to treat a girl with respect, and know how to be chivalrous, is something everyone is looking for, I promise.

Raising girls to become more feminine. Being feminine does not mean being someone that others can walk over, or someone who is helpless. Being feminine is a strength that not many women have in today’s society.

I know you might be thinking, “I want my daughter to be strong and independent!” but this video explains my point perfectly!

 

4.     What is a good date?

 

Dating has become more serious than it used to be.

As I described earlier, as a teenager I assumed going out on a date, even once, meant there was something more serious involved. If dating was meant to be casual and fun, then how did it become something so serious?

Dallin Oaks gives a seminar in which he describes the differences between dating and hanging out, and what a good date should look like.

Helping our children follow these guidelines to good dating can help with the confusion some feel about what to do. A good date should include these three things:

 

  1.     Planned Ahead: Making sure there is actually a plan, and letting the young woman know what it is well in advance so she can prepare. Avoid showing up to pick up your date and asking “so what do you want to do?”

By making sure a plan is made before the actual date helps teach young men how to be leaders and organizers. This is helping them practice for not only a future marriage, but also in life and future careers.

It also shows young women what kinds of men they should look for. Men who will take the initiative to plan something and take charge, and to be responsible.  

  1.     Paid For: As a general rule (at least for me) if a guy asks me out and we end up going somewhere that requires money, I’m expecting him to pay for me. If I ask a guy out it’s a different story. If we begin dating long term, then paying for dates can be discussed and equalized.

When a boy pays for his date, it teaches him how to provide. In essence this is practice on how to provide for a future family.

When a girl sees a boy pay for her, it helps show her that he is responsible, and it helps teach her how to be treated right. It doesn’t mean that she can’t pay, but it shows her what it’s like to be taken care of (even just for one night). Girls should also be taught to say “Thank You” when a guy pays, instead of expecting it and not saying anything.

  1.     Paired Off:  You + your date. No third wheel friend, not a bunch of random people that you bring with you, just you and your date. You asked them out specifically, which means there is a commitment of short duration expected.

When guys ask a girl out they are then also responsible for her safety and well-being. This helps teach him how to be a protector, because he is now responsible, for a short period of time, for someone other than himself.

Protection from others, and sketchy areas is included, but it can also be from each other. Guys shouldn’t force the girl to kiss them or make out, they should respect her space and never try and do anything that would make her uncomfortable.

When a girl goes out with a guy she should feel safe with him, and should feel like he will take care of her for the duration of their date. This helps teach her how she should be treated and how she feels with this certain individual.

 


  1.     Discussing the Dating Rules or Guidelines for your Family

Dating is fun, and adolescents should be allowed to experience it when they are of an age that is appropriate. This is based on every family’s personal guidelines, but they should definitely be discussed and solidified.

For me, 16 is when I could start going out on group dates. Each of us had an individual date, but there were multiple couples involved. Those were some of the most fun activities I’ve ever been on. It was fun, safe, and I got to know a lot of different people.  Notice that this is actually a group DATE, instead of a hang out.

Now as an adult, I don’t have as many group dates because my focus is now on finding someone who I could see spending the rest of my life with. I’m not looking for that at 16, and my maturity level has increased (well, in some areas at least).

Parents need to discuss with each other:

-What age their child should be allowed to start dating

        -Is there an age difference for group dates vs. single dates?

-Curfew and what time is appropriate for weekdays and weekends

-How involved you are knowing where they are, who they are with, what the activity is, etc.

Dating is how children and young adults practice their social skills, and it exposes them to different types of people. It can be looked at as an educational experience, but overall it is FUN and should be FUN!

Dating doesn’t have to be so serious, and teaching our children these points will help them feel like dating is something they can do frequently and with a confident attitude.

 

-Written by Lisa Jensen. 

Lisa Jensen is a recent graduate of BYU-Idaho with her degree in marriage and family studies. She has spent the last semester interning for Confessions of Parenting. She is striving to help young adults and teenagers become more confident in themselves, and their abilities, in all aspects of their lives. She hopes to help parents become more informed and involved with topics that children and young adults don’t often get taught at home, but rather from their peers and society.

 

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Blogmas, Christmas, Holidays, parenting, Uncategorized

Teaching kids to Enjoy Giving, Not Just Recieving

Welcome to Blogmas 2017! Today Katelynne is guest blogging for us from The Disguised Supermom! Visit her at her website and say, “Hi!”

Anyone else find that their kids get an extra case of the “gimmies” this time of year? The list of things they need seems to be endless and it’s no surprise since they are constantly bombarded with images and ideas of things they have to have. It drives me crazy, but it’s not actually their fault. Instead, it’s the culture they’re surrounded by and more importantly, the example we set for them. If we want to raise kids who are just as excited to give than to receive, we need to teach them its importance.

As parents, we are trying to fight against this trend of “me-first” and raise our children to think of others before themselves, to do good in the world and always be on the look-out for ways to help somebody. There are great books to read, movies to watch and conversations to be had around these ideas but the truth is, our children will mirror what they see. Or more accurately, who they see – us, their parents.

I see two ways we can be more intentional about teaching our kids the joy that can come from giving to others, both which fit perfectly with this holiday season.

First, involve them in gift giving within the family. Let them help come up with the list of people that you need to purchase or make gifts for. For us, this includes grandparents, aunts and uncles. The kids also love adding each other and mom and dad to the list. Once you have your list of people, ask them to help you brainstorm ideas. Even if you already know what you’re getting them, give them a chance. I’m always impressed by the thought my kids put into it – even if the actual gift idea seems crazy to me!

If you’re purchasing gifts, consider bringing them with you when you do the shopping. Yes, it will probably take a little longer and may be more stressful but it will be worth it. My kids get so excited to help pick out gifts for others! Make no mistake though, they still need a gentle reminder from time to time to think about who the gift is for instead of themselves – especially if we’re at a toy store!

If you usually make your gifts (or even if you are purchasing gifts yourself), let the kids make their own gifts to give. The gifts can be as simple or elaborate as you want to make them – the age and personalities of your kids will probably determine this. Kids love giving people homemade creations and most people I know also love receiving them.

Kids can also make or decorate the cards, gift bags or wrapping paper.   Last year, I purchase 2 rolls of plain brown packaging paper to wrap our gifts in. Once they were wrapped, the kids got to decorate them with markers, crayons and stickers. You can be sure they were more excited to hand those out than the ones in store bought paper!

The second way to teach your children to think of giving over receiving is through acts of kindness. Last year, we started the tradition of doing as many acts of kindness throughout the month of December as we could. Before the month started, I had a general list of ideas I planned to incorporate but the kids quickly started coming up with their own ideas too. Again, how you implement this depends on the ages of your kids, but it can be done with any ages!

Some of our favorite ideas include:

  • Bring coffee or hot chocolate to the Salvation Army workers outside the supermarket
  • Visit an elderly neighbor who lives alone
  • Donate food to the food pantry
  • Make Christmas cards for a nursing home
  • Leave a treat for the mailman
  • Make thank you cards for the librarians
  • Take supplies to an animal shelter
  • Donate a pair of pajamas to a child in foster care

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There are countless other acts of kindness that can be done with very little prep and minimal money. My kids are young (5, 3 and 1) so I try to keep our list do-able for them. I want these activities to be things they can do themselves. For example, when we donated food to the food pantry, we went to the grocery store just for this and the kids each got to pick 5 items to purchase. Last year, I brought them to the aisles with the staples – pastas, canned goods, cleaning supplies – but my oldest insisted on going to the baby aisle. When I asked why, she responded “I want my 5 things to be baby food, babies need to eat too.”

If we give our kids the chance, they will rise to the occasion.

Things are simpler for them –

Someone is hungry, of course we feed them.

Someone is cold, of course we get them a coat.

Some kids won’t get presents this year, of course we should get one for them.

Somewhere along the lines as we grow up, things become more complicated but kids are naturally giving people. It’s our job as parents to nurture that instinct by giving them a strong example to follow.

 

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Katelynne is married to her high school sweetheart and is a stay at home mom raising three little ones (ages 5, 3 and 1) in Connecticut. You can find her running around with the kids, homeschooling, chasing chickens in the backyard or curled up with a good book and strong cup of coffee. She blogs at www.thedisguisedsupermom.com about how mamas can simplify life at home and how to incorporate literature into your everyday living and learning.

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Top 20 Favorite Christmas Movies

Every December we love to watch Christmas movies as a family. We always kick off the Christmas season with a tradition I grew up with by watching Christmas Vacation Thanksgiving Night. From that night on we try to watch as many Christmas Movies as we can throughout the season.

This year my kids have been about everything Christmas already, so naturally the tree is up and decorated, the lights are up outside (but not on, I do have some limits) and we have started watching Christmas movies as a family!

We have  created a Christmas Movie Bucket List to see if your family can watch all of our Family’s favorites this season!

Our Family’s Top 20 Favorite Christmas Movies!

A Christmas Carol

A Christmas Story

Charlie Brown Christmas

Elf

Frosty The Snowman

Home Alone (1,2, and 3)

How The Grinch Stole Christmas

It’s a Wonderful Life

Jingle All the Way

Meet Me in St. Louis

Mickey’s Christmas Carol

Miracle on 34th Street (the classic) and the revised version Miracle on 34th Street (2009)

National Lampoon’s Christmas Vacation

Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer

The Grinch

The Muppets Christmas Carol

The Nightmare Before Christmas

The Original Christmas Classics (Includes Frosty the Snowman, Santa Claus is coming to Town, and Rudolph the Red-Nosed Reindeer)

The Polar Express

The Santa Clause

White Christmas

 

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Marriage, married life, Mom Life, My Life, parenting, relationship skills

To My Husband

To My Husband

To My Husband,

I promise it’s not you… It’s me…

You see it goes like this… All day and all night I am touched. My body is not my own right now. It seems our 4 month is always latched on or attached to me somehow and our two year old waddles behind me all day touching my bum and wanting up.

By the end of the day, I have been spit up on, barfed on, drooled on, had snot wiped on me, worn a little breakfast on my sleeve, and now am covered in dinner because someone was “helping me” all without a shower because I just didn’t have time in my day.

I have been pulled on, dragged by the hand to turn on the TV, laid on, and slept on since the moment I woke up this morning.

I don’t remember the last time I actually felt pretty because who feels pretty when they are pregnant and then after a baby you just still feel fat because nothing fits quite right. On top of that who has time to paint their nails, or shave their legs, or put on makeup or do their hair? Certainly not me…

By the end of the LONG day of taking care of kids the last thing I want is to be breathed on, touched, or laid on because I have been touched all day. My body is currently not mine. It is shrinking back to normal size as well as fulfilling the purpose of feeding our child.

Every morning when I wake up I make the decision that today is going to be the day when I show you all the affection in the world when you get home from work and I can show you just how much I love you, but then reality hits, and the last thing I want to do is show any more affection or stay up even one minute later after the kids go to bed because I am tired, mentally and physically.

So I ask you to please just be patient with me. Please continue to love me even when I push you away. Continue to take me on dates even though at first I complain that I have to put on real clothes. Continue to try to kiss me even though I turn my cheek the other way. Continue to grab my hand when you want me to hold yours… Continue to love me through this stage of our life.

I promise I want you to touch me and snuggle with me in bed and hear all about your day. I promise my love for you grows each and everyday, even though I might not always say it or show it. I promise my world would be incomplete without you in it. I promise I miss you when you are gone and can’t wait for you to come home each day. I promise that one day I will be back to wanting to be touched, wanting to hold your hand, and wanting to be constantly kissed by you. I promise I love you more than I can say and express, and one day when I feel like myself again I will show it. So in the meantime please know that I love you more than anything and just be patient with me.

Love,

Me

 

 

 

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#Thankful2017

I know I never post on Wednesday’s because we have Wandering Wednesdays happening on the blog, but I couldn’t let the first day of November pass us by without starting our Gratitude Challenge for the month of November!

I am captivated by taking hundreds of pictures each week of everything around me because I love to look back and remember all the memories through pictures! With that being said, I am doing a photo gratitude challenge this month to express my thanks for everything I have! Will you join me?

30 Day Challenge/ Perfect for Kids Too!

I have created a printable calendar for you to display in your home so that you can spend each day focusing on something that you are grateful for.  When you find something that sparks each day’s prompt snap a picture of it to record what you are grateful for! (To download click the link below each picture!)

30 Days of Gratitude Photo Challenge

 

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Click here to Download a black and white copy! 30 Days of Gratitude Photo Challenge

Now that kids have all kinds of technology they can snap a picture too of things that they are grateful for! If your kids are too little to have cameras of their own involve them and help them take a picture of things they are grateful for! At dinner each night talk about what you have chosen to take a picture of. It starts a great conversation of gratitude!

If you choose to join in the fun, and post on social media use #Thankful2017 so we can all see what we are grateful for… Who knows, maybe your pic will end up being shared on the blog (With your permission of course!)!

Wanna Track my grateful journey? Follow me on Twitter or Instagram to see just what we are grateful for in our household!

Don’t forget to post on the fridge and share with your friends!

Happy Grateful Month!

baby, Kids, parenting, pregnancy

5 Simple Steps to Finding the Right Pediatrician

IMG_0385Today was TJ’s 4 month check up; as I was there I was reminded just how lucky I am to have  great pediatrician for my kids! One of the biggest concerns moving to Texas was “Would I ever be able to find a pediatrician I liked for all my kids?” I can honestly say yes! I have! Dr. P is kind, loving, and frankly the best pediatrician I have ever had for my kids in the 14 years that I have been a mom. My kids love going to the doctor. He goes out of his way to make each one of my crazy kids feel special… Even when Talie wants to hide in the corner with her pouty lip he finds a way to make her smile and laugh! I have been so blessed with finding just the right doctor for our family.

(Here’s a little video of TJ chatting with Dr. P today~)

So how do you go about finding a great Peds Doctor?

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Kids, parenting, Parenting is hard

The 6th Grade Curse and How to Get Through It

Two years ago when Colby entered the sixth grade along came a horrendous attitude. I thought to myself where did this come from and where is my child? The attitude came along with the back talking, the refusal to help, and a list and mile long of other things that we got to deal with. We felt at the time the best thing to do was to be more strict and show him that we were in charge and that he needed to be respectful to us… Needless to say this technique did not work. We thought to ourselves this must just be our child going through a rough patch and that we obviously were failing as parents… But now two years later we are faced with the exact same challenges with Chase. We now refer to this stage as the “sixth grade curse”.

In our house we refer to this as the sixth grade curse because as soon as the kids hit sixth grade no becomes their favorite word again and listening becomes optional. Along with that the back talking begins, the refusing to help, and the blatant disrespect. We all think that something is wrong with our child, but it is not; this is caused by our child’s development. You see our kids are growing faster than the brains can develop which causes these types of behaviors because they are unable to adapt to the growing body and mind. There development is telling them they are older, but they are not capable of dealing with all the changes. Will kids overcome this? Yes. And we have discovered things that word to help us all deal with the situation a little bit better.

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Kids, Mom Life, My Life, parenting

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me… So Far

As a toddler mom again after 11 years I feel like I have been blessed with learning things a little quicker this time around. Maybe it’s because I have had prior experience, or perhaps it is because I am a little older and a little wiser. We will just dwell on the wiser part ;). But regardless I feel like I have learned to do things better, had more patience, shown more love, enjoyed the moments more rather than stressed about the small things, and learned to live in the moment rather than let the moment pass me by. Today I am sharing with you the 10 things my 2-year old has taught me… so far

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me... So Far

What My 2 Year Old Has Taught Me… So Far

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Mom Life, My Life, parenting

Proud to Be An American?

Proud to Be an American?-2This last weekend my heart broke when I heard the news reports stating that the National Football League players had decided to kneel for the National Anthem rather than stand with their hands over their hearts. This comes after America is choosing to remove history from our country with the removal of statues of some of the great men who fought so very hard to protect our country. This comes as we become a divided nation wondering if whites and blacks are treated fairly and equally or if we simply oppress black people. This week I have come to these conclusions: 1. We stand as respect, to honor, and to remember. 2. We have monuments to remember the moments and to learn from the past so that we don’t commit the same mistakes. And 3. We are only a nation as divided as we choose to be.

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