As a mom, we are pulled in so many different directions that it makes it difficult to spend one on one time with each of them, but with these simple ideas, you will have the time to spend one on one time with each of your children.
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With 5 kids it is difficult at times to spend one on one time with each child, especially when we have a baby. On top of that our lives are busy as moms. We are pulled so many directions that spending one on one time with our kids just feels like one more thing.
But here’s the thing every child needs one on one time with their parents. This allows you as their mom or dad to give them the special attention that they need. It allows us to help fill their cup as we connect!
So often when the kids are struggling with someone one on one time with mom is exactly what they need! It allows them to decompress, relax, and just have fun!
Sometimes kids don’t want to share what is bothering them in front of their siblings. Perhaps they are embarrassed or they fear getting made fun of. Therefore spending one on one time with your child is crucial for them. Regardless if they are struggling or not each child needs this time by themselves.
And to be honest, spending time with one of your kids at a time is just plain fun! You are not the referee in the sibling rivalry. You are not the mediator in the last altercation they had. During your one on one time, you are their mom who is also their friend! To be honest, spending one on one time with them is my favorite part of parenting!
But let’s get real with each other. One on one time with each kid is hard! I mean let’s think about it! I have 5 kids and if I always spend more time with one of them than another, my kids will think, “Oh that must be her favorite!” Which we all know is not true.
So how do we schedule one on one time with each kid when we feel like there is not enough time in the day as it is?
Well, let’s just set the record straight, one on one time does not have to be a 3-hour event! Because let’s be honest, this mama does not have an extra 15 hours a week to 5 more date nights! In fact, Date night with my husband doesn’t even last 3 hours! Spending time with your child individually can occur in normal day to day activities that you and your child have fun together doing!
Here are some great ways to spend one on one time with your kids even when you feel like you don’t have enough hours in the day!
Bedtime is a great way to spend one on one time with each child. These precious few moments to reconnect with your child at the end of the day might be exactly what your child needs. Take a few minutes to talk with them and see how their day went. Give cuddles and maybe even read a story for a couple of minutes. Talie loves me to sing a song to her before she goes to sleep. Bedtime is precious in our house. And that is a time when you get mom all to yourself. It doesn’t have to be hours of time. I usually spend about five minutes with each of the kids individually and that fills their cups!
Driving in the Car
So often we are in the car driving. We are always going someplace. This is primetime for reconnecting. I make my kids leave their phones in their pockets and we talk. So often after school, they will open up about their day, what was good and what was bad. Even the things that made them laugh. When you have one on one time with your kids it does not have to be spent talking either! Many times in the car we are singing laughing and just hanging out!
Go Outside with Them
My boys love one on one time outside. Maybe we kick the soccer ball around for a bit or throw the baseball. Sometimes it is pushing Talie on the swing. Whatever we choose to do with them they will love! And again it can be a quick 5 minutes before you have to start making dinner or while a sibling is off taking a shower.
Take advantage of bits and pieces of time when you get it!
Recruit Your Child to Help
Yes, my kids hate this one at first. I mean what kid loves to help? But I will tell you once we get started they usually do enjoy it! Recruiting your child to help could include things like grocery shopping, meal planning, making dinner, or helping with laundry. Sometimes “helping” is sitting on the stool talking with me as I make dinner.
Plan a Date to Ice Cream
Sometimes you just want to go somewhere for one on one time with your child. We usually run up to the local ice cream shop and grab some ice cream. To prevent jealousy we get a scoop together and bring home a carton of ice cream for everyone else to share.
Read a Book Together
For kids that love to read, reading a book together is a great way to connect. It allows your child to snuggle up with you as you read. The boys used to love storytime at night when they were little. Now Talie has become the one who loves stories.
Play a Game Together
Sit down and play a game with your child! Kids love games. It allows for talking and some friendly competition and who doesn’t love that?
Go For a Walk
Take some one on one time with your child and go for a walk. It gets you out of the house getting some fresh air and some exercise. And if you have a fairly active child it gets out some energy all at the same time! As you walk you can talk about so many things that are going on in their lives.
Start a Mom and Me Journal
A mom and me journal is a book that you write back and forth in. This is a very special time to reconnect with each of your kids individually. Every day you write a special note to your kids and in their journal and leave it on their beds. At night they then open it up and read what you wrote to them. If they want they will write a note back to you. In a unique way, this is spending time with each child individually. The special thing about mommy and me journals is they will have them for the rest of their lives.
Spend One on One Time With Each Child
I know it can be hard to find the time to spend with each child. I get it… Trust me, I am right there with you! But look for little moments here and there. Maybe it is curling up on the couch while watching a TV show or tickling them on the floor. Perhaps it is even drawing a picture together. Whatever it is the most important thing is that you are spending one on one time with your child.
So, if you haven’t had the time up to this point, schedule time and make it a priority. Spending this time with each other will allow your kids to open up to you about the little things and the big things they have going on. Before we know it our kids will be off on their own and we will be wishing that we spent more one on one time with each one of them. So go do it! Go spend time with your kids individually!
What do you like to do with your kids?
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Michele is a Family Life Educator. She is a mom to 5 kids and loves helping others strengthen their families! When she is not blogging she is spending time with her family and running around drinking Diet Coke trying to get everything done!