25 Relationship Goals To Set in 2021!

Last Updated on February 20, 2021 by Michele Tripple

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It is never the wrong time to set some goals for your relationships. Try these 25 relationship goals that will strengthen your relationship with your partner this year!

Setting Relationship Goals for Couples

Let’s be honest, adult life is busy. Add kids to the mix and it becomes immeasurably busier. It’s easy for our marriages to be pushed aside when we are distracted with other things. If you’re anything like me, you’ve experienced struggles in your marriage from not making it a priority.  

I am committing to rekindling my marriage and making it better than ever and there is no better time to do that than right now! The best way to do that is to set some relationship goals for what you hope to accomplish in our relationship.

Want to set some goals for your relationship this year, but not sure where to start? You know I’ve got your back with these great ideas for goals you can set as a couple.

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Couple Relationship Goals

These couple relationship goals are just suggestions to help you get started thinking of some you would like to implement in your relationship. So take these relationship goal examples and make them your own. I can’t wait to see what you come up with! 

Date nights

Having date nights with your spouse is crucial for any marriage. Consider making date night a priority for you and your spouse this year. It is sure to be a rewarding experience for both of you. Coming up with ideas for date nights can be a bit challenging. Thankfully, there is no shortage of amazing and inexpensive date ideas available with the simple click of a button! Be sure to check out these cheap date ideas for married couples too! 

Stuck at home? No problem! Check out these 50 at home date ideas that will help you and your partner connect with each other and have some fun in the process. 

Make time for romance

Who doesn’t need a little more romance in their lives? And can I just tell you how important it is to set sex relationship goals? This doesn’t mean we will be intimate XX a week, but these are marriage relationship goals that help improve your intimacy level. 

It’s easy to add some romance into your daily routine. Leave a note for your partner on the fridge before you leave for work or write a note on the bathroom mirror with lipstick. Send your spouse a sexy text throughout the day expressing what you find most attractive about them. Snuggle on the couch and talk about when you first fell in love. Or see our list of sexy things you can do for your husband to really turn up the romance!

Learn about your love language

Learn about your love language but more importantly, learn about your partner’s love language.

We all feel love in different ways. Just because receiving gifts makes me feel loved, that definitely does not mean my husband feels loved when I buy him gifts. Understanding each other’s love languages is important to know going forward. It’s easier than ever to learn about them with this free love language test. It is quick and easy and will give you amazing insights into your own love language, as well as your partner’s. 

Make it a goal this year to learn your partner’s love language and to practice showing them love in that way.

Make time for adventure

Everybody needs a little more adventure in their lives! Tell me I’m not the only one who can get caught up in the mundane day-to-day tasks and forget to make life exciting.

A great goal for couples is to find ways to make life more of an adventure! This can look however you want. Maybe you’re going to explore the natural beauty in your local area more. Or maybe you’ll start a project you two have been wanting to for a while, but have been too nervous to do. Whatever the adventure, set the goal and do it together!

Get on the same financial page

Talk about money. This is not the most exciting marriage relationship goal, but it is an important one. 

Think about your financial goals for this year. Are they in line with your partner’s financial goals? Sit down and talk about what you both want to accomplish financially. Put together a budget as a couple and talk about the things you anticipate buying throughout the year.

You won’t be able to plan every expense in advance. But you may find that you experience more financial success and peace of mind as you work together to meet your goals.

Seek to be a good listener

Try listening to your spouse – like REALLY listening. This means listening to understand, not listening to respond. At times it can be challenging but there are so many ways to improve your listening skills in marriage

Start small and start where you are right now. Set the goal now to listen better to your spouse and you’ll probably find they listen better too!

Don’t forget the intimacy

Sex relationship goals are super important to set. In the hustle and bustle of everyday life, it can be a challenge to make time for intimacy with your spouse. When kids are tugging on your sleeve all day, it can be difficult to want to be touched more.

The fact is that intimacy is an important aspect for a healthy and satisfying marriage. So set a goal to be more intimate with your partner. Do what you need to make time for intimacy – even if that means scheduling it ahead of time! 

Need some new ideas? Here are some ideas to spice things up in the bedroom. Whatever works for you, set the goal to make time to be physically intimate. 

Show more gratitude

Develop an attitude of gratitude! When is the last time you expressed sincere, heartfelt gratitude for all your spouse does for you? 

It may have been earlier today, or perhaps you cannot remember the last time you did. Either way, it is never too late to set the goal to express gratitude for your partner more often. As you do, you will begin to recognize all the things they do for you on a daily basis and something magical happens – you will find yourself being even MORE grateful.

Find it hard to express gratitude? Try these simple steps to expressing more appreciation for your spouse.  

Argue less, communicate more

Don’t forget about communication goals for couples when you are making your list!

Good communication is key to a healthy marriage. So many arguments are caused by miscommunications between spouses. Why not set the goal to communicate better? 

This goal requires work from both partners in a relationship. And it can be challenging, but here are some tips on improving communication in marriage to get you started. The more you both work to communicate, the more satisfied you may feel!

Make your marriage a priority

Make your marriage your top priority. It can be easy to get distracted with all that life tosses at us, but making your marriage a priority is crucial to having a healthy relationship. 

Kids are wonderful, but they can also get in the way of nurturing your marriage. Still, there are so many ways to make your marriage a priority with kids. The best part? All of these suggestions are simple, everyday actions that can have a huge impact on your marriage.


Set a goal to be best friends with your spouse. It is likely that your relationship started with friendship. Maybe you’ve lost some of that friendship over the years. How about rekindling it? You’ll likely find that there is nothing quite as amazing as being in love with your best friend!

Laugh more

They say laughter is the best medicine, and that is especially true in marriage. Have you ever experienced something so ridiculous that the only thing you could do was laugh? I know I have and I can promise that laughter is what got me through it! 

So set the goal to laugh more with your partner. Do things that are amusing and that make you laugh until you cry. There is something so therapeutic about a good laugh and what could be better than side-splitting laughter with someone you love?

Spend more time together

Spent more time with your partner. It may seem obvious, but how often has life gotten in the way of spending quality time with your spouse? Sit down together and block out specific times throughout the week that you will spend time together. It doesn’t really matter what you do – just make sure you are doing something that strengthens your relationship! 

Experience new things together

New experiences can be scary, but they are better when you experience them together! Whether it’s going to a new restaurant, trying a new activity, or visiting a new place, set a goal to experience new things as a couple.

Be your partner’s biggest cheerleader

Cheer your spouse on in everything they do. Express confidence in their ability to excel at their job or in their education or in anything they are working toward. Help them see that you truly believe in them and that you will be there every step of the way. 

Speak positively about your spouse

Always strive to speak kindly about your spouse and your relationship – even when your spouse is not there! How often do we hear others complain about their marriage? I know I have heard it often. 

Think about the things you love about your spouse and express those things. Don’t focus on their flaws. The more you focus on what you love about them, the more your love for them will grow! You may find positive affirmations helpful in reminding you what you love so much about your partner.

You are a team, not competitors

Your marriage should not be a competition (except when you’re playing MarioKart). Set a goal to work together with your spouse, not against them. You may just be surprised at what you can accomplish when you team up!

Try not to criticize

It is easy to criticize others. If you’re like me, you have a specific way of doing things (aka, “the right way”). But there is no space for criticism in marriage. 

So when your husband cleans the kitchen, express appreciation for it. Don’t criticize him for doing it his way. When your wife mows the lawn, tell her how grateful you are for her. Don’t tell her how to do it your way. 

Choose to trust

Trust is fundamental in a healthy marriage. It is not always easy to be vulnerable and trust your spouse. Trust is something that must be earned. 

Set a goal to choose to trust your spouse. Do those things to help them trust you. It is simple on paper but sometimes more complicated in practice. But there are many ways to build trust in your marriage all of which will lead to more trust and satisfaction in your relationship.

Get to know your spouse

Spend time getting to know your spouse. There are so many ways to do this. You can try a game of Would You Rather for couples to learn more about them and have some laughs along the way. Or perhaps a game of Never Have I Ever for couples is more up your alley. These spouse conversation cards are really handy as well! 

Maybe you would rather just sit and talk and reminisce. Whatever the method you use, set a goal to truly get to know your spouse.

Focus on each other’s strengths

Find those things your spouse is good at and focus on those! Of course, your spouse has weaknesses (Guess what? So do you!), but they also have a lot of amazing strengths. If you spend your energy focusing on what they are truly good at, you will gain a better appreciation for who they are. 

So stop focusing on their weaknesses and look to their strengths. Make it a daily task. 

Save serious discussions for the right time

Recognize the correct time and place to have serious conversations.

For example, the right time to have a serious discussion about finances with your partner is not while you are visiting your parents. 

When sensitive topics need to be addressed, let your spouse know that you would like to talk. Then find a time when you two can be alone to discuss it. These conversations are best had when kids are in bed and there are no other things pulling your attention. 

Don’t hide your feelings

Don’t bottle up those emotions. When your spouse does something that bothers you, don’t let it fester. Explain to your spouse what is bothering you and discuss it calmly.

Understand that there is a time and place to discuss these sensitive feelings. Wait for a time when you will be able to address the problem in a rational way, with no interference from other people.

Along with this, you need to ensure you don’t let everything bother you. Learn to roll with the punches and understand that everyone is human. 

Let the past be past

Leave past offenses where they belong – in the past. Previous fights and arguments have no place in your current relationship. Once an argument is over and done with, let it stay that way. What happened in your marriage in 2015, stays in 2015!

It is never too late to set a goal to avoid bringing up past instances. Trust me when I say you will be glad you did!

Give your spouse the benefit of the doubt

Assume the best intentions of your spouse, never the worst. We have all said things that came out wrong. We have all done things that hurt somebody else’s feelings. These things happen in marriage as well. 

Set a marriage goal right now that when your spouse does something that hurts you, assume the best intentions. Talk to them about what was done or said. Express your emotions calmly. Seek to understand where they are coming from and move on. 

What goals have you set for your marriage? Tell us about them in the comments and don’t forget to share in stories on Instagram and tag us @micheletripple! We can’t wait to hear your goals!

For more information on improving your marriage, try these!

Ways to Spice up your Marriage

Don’t let your Marriage Suffer from Cracks in the Relationship

Keeping the Spark in Marriage

Tips to Help your Marriage After a New Baby 

How to Promote Teamwork in Marriage

6 thoughts on “25 Relationship Goals To Set in 2021!”

  1. such great tips; i am hoping to join in on his walks more often (just have been lazy; and this will help not only in spending time with him, it will also help me get my exercise:))


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